Back by Popular Demand: 10 Quotes for When Fear Has You in Its Clutches

 

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We’ve all been afraid, especially when we’re going after our dreams. Fear seeps into our thoughts not only when we’re outside our comfort zone but even when we’re just thinking about maybe stepping a tiny bit outside, perhaps….

Below are 10 quotes that can boost your spirits and help you take the next step in spite of the fear and terror you may be feeling. The quotes below were originally posted on September 15, 2015.

Enjoy!

 

“Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.”– Dale Carnegie

 

“Most obstacles melt away when we make up our minds to boldly walk through them.” – Orison Swett Marden

 

“It’s all right to be afraid. You just don’t let it stop you from doing your job.”– Jim Butcher

 

“The man who moves a mountain begins by carrying away small stones.”  – Confucius

 

“We generate fears while we sit. We overcome them by action. Fear is nature’s way of warning us to get busy.” – Dr. Henry Link

 

“Don’t be afraid of your fears. They’re not there to scare you. They’re there to let you know that something is worth it.” – C. JoyBell C.

 

“Do what you can, with what you have, where you are.” – Theodore Roosevelt

 

“I have learned over the years that when one’s mind is made up, this diminishes fear; knowing what must be done does away with fear.” – Rosa Parks

 

“Every day do something that will inch you closer to a better tomorrow.”  – Doug Firebaugh

“Fear isn’t an excuse to come to a standstill. It’s the impetus to step up and strike.” – Arthur Ashe

 

Keep these quotes handy during the week. When you become worried, fearful, or terrified, pull them out. Let their calm wisdom comfort and soothe you.   Then take the next step!

You can do it!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

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Happy Friday the 13th! 13 Inspiring Quotes

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A cherished friend of mine is a graduate of Colgate University. The number thirteen is a lucky one for all people connected to Colgate University and every Friday the Thirteenth is a celebration day for them.

In honor of my friend’s achievement of graduating from Colgate University, and to join in the celebration of the number thirteen, here are thirteen inspirational quotes about spirituality.

Being on a spiritual path does not prevent you from facing times of darkness; it teaches you how to use the darkness as a tool to grow. ~Unknown

There are two ways of spreading light: to be the candle that shines or the mirror that reflects it. ~Edith Wharton

People take different roads seeking fulfillment and happiness. Just because they’re not on your road does not mean they are lost. ~Dalai Lama

A Spiritual Badass: sends out love to strangers; is always seeking the lesson; knows that happiness is a choice. ~Unknown

The candle loses nothing by lighting another candle. ~Italian Proverb

Maybe the journey isn’t about becoming something but rather unbecoming everything that isn’t really you so that you can be who you were meant to be in the first place. ~Unknown

Throw kindness around like confetti. ~Unknown

Thousands of candles can be lighted from a single candle and the life of the candle will not be shortened. ~Buddha

Someday we’ll forget the hurt, the reason we cried, and who caused us pain. We will finally realize that the secret of being free is not revenge but letting things unfold in their own way and own time. After all, what matters is not the first but the last chapter of our life, which shows how well we ran the race. So smile, laugh, forgive, believe, and love all over again. ~Unknown

Three years from now make sure you can say that you chose your life, you didn’t settle for it. ~Unknown

Sometimes when you don’t know what to say, a hug says enough. ~Unknown

It is well with my soul. ~Horatio Spafford

Be kind when it is possible; it is always possible. ~Dalai Lama

 

I think each of these are filled with simple wisdom and timely reminders; I hope they are as meaningful for you as they are for me.

 

Enjoy!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

 

Frenemies: Pep Rally from Mr. Rogers

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I was looking in the archives of Yes I Can Pep Talks and came across the post below. It’s perfect for our chat about frenemies. Thank you, Mr. Rogers, for thoughts that are a powerful antidote to a frenemy attack.

 

The post below was originally published on March 22, 2017

 

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In case you need a mid-week boost or if you need a reminder of the essentials of live, here are a few quotes from Fred Rogers.

 

It’s not the honors and the prizes and the fancy outsides of life which ultimately nourish our souls. It’s the knowing that we can be trusted, that we never have to fear the truth, that the bedrock of our very being is good stuff.

 

If only you could sense how important you are to the lives of those you meet; how important you can be to people you may never even dream of. There is something of yourself that you leave at every meeting with another person.

 

It’s our insides that make us who we are, that allow us to dream and wonder and feel for others. That’s what’s essential. That’s what will always make the biggest difference in our world.

 

As human beings, our job in life is to help people realize how rare and valuable each one of us really is, that each of us has something that no one else has—or ever will have—something inside that is unique to all time. It’s our job to encourage each other to discover that uniqueness and to provide ways of developing its expression.

 

Justice is taking care of those who aren’t able to take care of themselves.

 

Both Joanne (Mr. Rogers’ wife) and I can recall many times when we wish we’d said or done something different.  But we didn’t, and we’ve learned not to feel too guilty about that.  What gives me my good feelings is that we always cared and always tried to do our best.

 

It’s you I like,
It’s not the things you wear,
It’s not the way you do your hair–
But it’s you I like.
The way you are right now,
The way down deep inside you–
Not the things that hide you,
Not your toys–
They’re just beside you.

But it’s you I like–
Every part of you,
Your skin, your eyes, your feelings
Whether old or new.
I hope that you’ll remember
Even when you’re feeling blue
That it’s you I like,
It’s you yourself,
It’s you, it’s you I like.

 

Remember to keep handy the quote(s) that resonated with you.  Refer to them often; let their simple wisdom infuse and empower you.

You can do it!  I believe in you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

 

Frenemies: What to Say to Yourself When a Frenemy Attacks

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Have you ever suffered a frenemy attack? Perhaps a colleague at work–someone you’d worked well with previously–throws you under the bus; now it’s you the boss is unfairly zeroing in on. Maybe, in confidence, you told a friend something very personal only to find when the whole group gets together that everyone knows….

After you recover from the shock and embarrassment, what do you say to yourself?

I’m sure you have thoughts of anger and you may even think about revenge how you’ll avenge yourself.. You may feel fear or worried because this may negatively impact your career. You may be sad and disappointed that someone you thought was a friend turned around and betrayed you.

These thoughts and feeling can lead to you telling yourself lies such as:

 

Maybe I am less talented;

 

Maybe I don’t have what it takes to be team leader;

 

Maybe I’ve been deluding myself all along and maybe I truly am an idiot…

 

NONE OF THESE THOUGHTS ARE TRUE!! THEY’RE ALL LIES!!!

 

Here are a few things to tell yourself instead:

 

This says more about them than it does about me;

 

This will show me who my true friends and allies are;

 

I am talented, I am intelligent, I do have a lot on the ball;

 

I am a child of the Universe, no less than the trees and the stars. I have a right to be here. (from the Desiderata by Max Ehrmann)

 

 

Choose on of these thoughts to keep handy–or one that you’ve thought of for yourself. When a frenemy attacks, repeat to yourself the positive statements about yourself.

You can do it!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Frenemies: 7 Quotes for the Upcoming Week

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Last week we started to talk about frenemies. With my computer and Internet troubles, we didn’t finish that discussion so we’ll continue it this week.

Here are 7 quotes about frenemies for this week. Let me know which one(s) ring true for you.

 

Thank you fake friends! You’ve only made me stronger and wiser. ~Unknown

 

Time will prove the worth of friendship. As time goes by we lose the false ones and keep the best. True friends stay when all the rest are gone. ~Ritu Ghatourey

 

Don’t worry about those who talk behind your back. They’re behind you for a reason. ~Unknown

 

An honest enemy is better than a false friend. When in doubt, pay more attention to what people do and less to what they say.   Actions not only speak louder than words, they are more difficult to fake. ~Zero Dean

 

An insincere and evil friend is more to be feared than a wild beast; a wild beast may wound your body, but an evil friend will wound your mind. ~The Buddha

 

A friend who stands with you in pressure is more valuable than a hundred ones who stand with you in pleasure. ~Edward G. Bulwer-Lytton

 

Better to have an enemy who slaps you in the face than a friend who stabs you in the back.   ~Unknown

 

Tomorrow we’re going to be talking about handling the feelings you have after being with a frenemy.   Come back and join the conversation!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Frenemies: Another Tip to Deal with Them

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Yesterday we talked about 5 techniques to help us deal with frenemies. Today we’ll talk about one more: meditating.

Scientists have shown that meditating is good for you. A regular practice can help to lower blood pressure, fight insomnia and lead to a better night’s sleep, among other things.

Another thing meditation can do is to help us calm down and press the reset button after an attack by a frenemy.

No, you don’t have to twist yourself into an uncomfortable position and hold it forever; no, you don’t have to chant or “ohm”. All you need to do is to sit quietly and tune into the serene part of yourself.

Focus on that part of yourself that’s timeless and limitless. Doing this can help to put the situation and the frenemy in perspective.   In doing this you’ll see that your frenemy is someone to be pitied, rather than punched. It’s a sad, insecure person who’s worried about their prospects in the future who tends to be a frenemy. People who are creating a soul-prospering life tend to be authentic, helpful, and optimistic.

Also, when you go within, you’ll be reminded of your talents, gifts, and the soul-prospering life you’re crafting for yourself!

You can do it!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Frenemies: 5 Tips to Deal with Them

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Frenemy is someone who acts like a friend–they’re nice to you and they seem to cheer you on to your goals–but in subtle or even overt ways, they sabotage you.  They can make you feel bad about yourself and cause you to second-guess yourself.  They may take credit for the work you’ve done and they may gossip about you behind your back.

Frenemies have been around for a while.  Both Cicero and Benjamin Franklin cautioned their peers about false friends–frenemies.

Sometimes frenemies are easy to spot and easy to steer clear of.  They’re obviously unhappy and nasty people and you naturally shy away from them.

But sometimes they’re close to us and we don’t always recognize them for who they truly are. It could be that we work with them, or they’re in our circle of friends, or we may be related to them.

How do you deal with these people, the ones we have no choice but to live and work with?

 

~If you can’t eliminated your contact with them, limit it as much as you can. 

Remember that it’s better to be alone for a while rather than spending time with a person who doesn’t celebrate you.  It’s a big wide world out there and you’ll soon meet others who will be a true friend to you.

 

~Consider having a private conversation with the person. 

They may not be aware of their behavior and how it’s impacting your relationship.  This can be a good strategy with people with whom you’ve had a great relationship before but lately you’ve felt picked on by them.  Perhaps something has changed–you’ve gotten a promotion or your dream is starting to come true–and they feel unsure if you still value them.

Even if the talk doesn’t go well, it can be an opportunity to set some ground rules and establish clear boundaries.

 

~Take a look at your own self-confidence.  Perhaps they’re getting to you because you feel insecure or inadequate. 

What areas are you feeling unsure of yourself when your frenemy is present?  What can you do to increase your confidence?

 

~Perhaps you’ve taken your eye off your game plan and it’s a reminder to refocus. 

Forget about “keeping up with the Joneses because there’s always going to be someone smarter, younger, cuter, fitter, richer, etc., than you.  And trying to keep up with the Joneses can put you in contact with shallow materialistic people who tend to be frenemies.

 

The next tip is the one I’ve found to be most effective:

 

~Be cheerful, kind, and compassionate. 

It might be too much to ask to behave this way immediately with your frenemy but you can behave pleasantly and with courtesy with the people around you.  Not only will you strengthen your friendships with others but then when your frenemy talks behind your back, they’ll be shown to be the jerk, not you.

 

To sum up, the best ways to deal with frenemies are:

Steer clear of them or limit your contact with them;

Speak up;

Beef up your self-confidence;

Stay focused on your goals and dreams;

Be cheerful, kind, and compassionate.

 

You can do it!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Crafting a soul-prospering life.