Sometimes we’re in such a state that it’s difficult to figure out if we’re indulging ourselves or if we’re caring for ourselves.
When we feel ourselves feeling out of sorts or discombobulated, it’s because we’re out of balance: we have too much of one thing and not enough of another. Usually, we have too much of the world and Life pushing us, prodding us, and making us feel not enough and that we have to rush, rush, rush to try to catch up. On top of that, we don’t have enough of feeling good about ourselves, feeling capable and competent, and that we’re enough just as we are.
Self-care is the key to getting ourselves back on solid ground. To do this we need to pause, check in with ourselves, and identify what’s causing the imbalance.
Here are a few questions to ask ourselves so we can nurture and nourish ourselves in a way that will comfort and soothe us now as well as sustain us going forward:
What do I have too much of right now?
What do I have too little of right now?
When was the last time I laughed, or even smiled?
When was the last time I did something just for the pleasure of it?
What am I resenting or angry about in my life right now?
What is making me sad right now?
What am I starving for?
What am I yearning for?
What do I wish I had right now?
These questions are a starting point. You might come up with questions that are more tailored to your needs and circumstances, and that’s perfect.
Take the time to ask yourself these questions, listen to your answers, and FOLLOW THROUGH WITH ACTION—doing something about it!
You can do it; I believe in you!
Your Friend and Pep Pal,