“Ummm…uhhh…gee…thanks, Aunt Tillie. This is just what I wanted.”
Yesterday we talked about negative people. Today, let’s talk about the people in your life who you know mean well but sometimes they’re off the mark.
They genuinely want you to be happy and they want to help you get there. But yet, occasionally, they may say or do something that is hurtful or insulting, or maybe they give you advice that you know is incorrect. You don’t want to hurt their feelings or be discourteous of their honest efforts to be supportive but…
…what’s a person to do when this happens?
The best thing is to be respectful.
Recognize that the advice is coming from the person’s heart and is wrapped in their good wishes for you. Thank them for their interest in you and what you’re trying to accomplish and tell them gently and tactfully that you’ll have to think about what they’ve said.
It’s very, very important that you thank the person. They cared enough about you and your dreams to put in time and effort to be of help to you.
Your homework today is to come up with gracious ways to thank someone for their gift of caring, even if it’s off the mark and won’t be helpful to you. Be compassionate and have empathy. Remember the times you tried to lend a hand to someone but they were inconsiderate of the help you tried to give. That didn’t feel so good. What did you wish they had said or done instead?
Here are a few sentiments to get you started on this assignment:
“Thanks for your idea. That’s an interesting/creative way to look at it. Let me think about that.”
“You’ve given me a lot to think about. Thanks, I appreciate it.”
“Thanks for your insights. I’ll have to think them through.”
The important thing is to say THANK YOU to the person. And, letting them know you’ll think about it shows your respect for their efforts. That’s what they want: to be helpful and appreciated.
Go for it; you can do it! Yay you!
I’m so proud of you. I knew you could do it!