A powerful technique for helping yourself get motivated–or helping yourself stay motivated–is working with a mirror. Counselors, psychologists, and healing coaches have used this tool for many years. This method will help you counteract those harsh judgments and criticisms we think about ourselves every day, sometimes many moments during the day.
Working with a mirror does not mean that you are selfish, self-centered, narcissistic, pig headed, too big for your britches, or any other derogatory and unhelpful label. You will not get a big head or become full of yourself. Instead, this technique is like using a healing salve on an open wound.
You WILL begin to see the gifts and talents you have that make you unique. You WILL understand the valuable contributions you have to make to your corner of the world. You WILL genuinely like–even love–and value yourself. You WILL have a positive impact on your own life, your family, your friends, and your community. You WILL become kinder, more tolerant, and more generous. You WILL have more energy and enthusiasm for your goals and dreams and for living the best life that you can.
Your homework is to get a mirror, one that you can keep in a pocket or purse. Find a private space and several moments when you won’t be disturbed. Look into the mirror and into your eyes. Say positive things to yourself, perhaps things that you always wanted to hear from someone. If you can’t think of anything, here are a few statements to get you started: I love you; I’m so good looking, I’m very nice, I have pretty eyes, I like the color of my hair. I’m so smart.
You can also use “you” instead of “I” statements such as: You are awesome; You’re a genius; You’re cute; You’re very generous; You’re the kindest person I know.
Do this exercise the first thing in the morning and right before going to bed in the evening. If you can also do it during the day, all the better.
It may feel awkward and you may be embarrassed doing this exercise. Do it anyway. You’ll be glad you did.
You can do this; I believe in you!
I’m so proud of you for pushing through your discomfort and doing this exercise. I knew you could do it!