I have a friend who I’ve known for nearly ten years. She’s always talking about how unhappy she is in her job and that she isn’t really pleased with her life. Then she’ll go on to enumerate all the things she wants instead.
Many times we chatted about what she could do to help herself, improve her situation, and bring some of the things she wanted into her life. Instead of taking action, she usually had a reason why she couldn’t take the steps right now. She’d promise that next week or “when things calm down a bit” she’d do something. But she never did. Everything is still the same. And the years continue to go by….
She doesn’t seem to make the connection that she has to do things differently in order to have things change, i.e. nothing will ever change if she keeps doing things the same old way. If she doesn’t alter the way she does things—even just a little bit—then she has no hope of increasing her happiness and satisfaction in Life…and she can forget about achieving her dreams.
Your homework today is to take a look at where you are in your life and where you are on the path to your dreams. Are you doing the same old thing in the same old way and then wondering why things aren’t changing? Are you not making changes because either you don’t know what to do or because you’re afraid?
Commit to making at least one small change this week. Start tiny: brush your teeth using the other hand; if you usually have coffee in the morning, choose tea instead; if you listen to the radio as you commute to work, turn it off and listen to the silence.
Choosing small, insignificant change helps you get used to doing things differently. It also allows you to see your life from a slightly different angle. This then gives a little space for new thoughts, insights and ideas, and noticing opportunities. As you continue with small changes—doing little things differently—you build strength and gradually you’re able to handle more and more, and then you find yourself making significant changes.
The last part of your homework is to celebrate. I know you’ve taken steps on the path to your dreams and today’s the day to recognize these and applaud yourself. Remember, it doesn’t matter how large the step was; all that matters is that you took it. Yay you!
Pat yourself on the back for a job well done! You earned it; you deserve it!
I’m so proud of you!
Your Friend and Pep Pal.