Golden Wisdom: Talk to People!

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I was visiting my parents last weekend and they had another good tip to add to the one I talked about in an earlier post (click here to be taken to that post). This time, we were reminiscing about places we visited on vacation.

My parents said something, though, that stuck with me.

They said that sometimes they were so eager to get us to the sites they wanted to visit that they didn’t always pause and talk to the locals. While we still enjoyed the vacations, my parents wondered how much more enriching the experience could have been if they made sure to talk to people.

This applies to everyday life as well.

When we talk to others, researchers have found that we have an increase in endorphins—your body’s “happy pills”. Even a smile or saying hello in passing can bump up endorphins. This simple human connection can help us see and feel that we are not alone. Sometimes this is just the little boost we need to help us take that next tiny step.

An added benefit to talking to people is that you never know what other people might know. And you never know who they may know and may be willing to put you in contact with. Even if they can’t help you directly with your challenge, just to have a person listen to you can be incredibly helpful. Again, it banishes feelings of loneliness and isolation, thus giving you the psychological lift you need to take the next step.

So, follow the Golden Wisdom of my parents—and your parents, too!—and talk to people!

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Your homework today is to talk to people. The point is not to have lengthy conversations or to find a new BFF. The point is the human connection, even briefly.

Just a smile and a pleasant hello is perfect!

You can do it!

I’m so proud of you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

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Pep Rally: You Can Do It!

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You have what it takes to achieve your dreams—you can do it! 

You are in the right place at the right time doing the right things in the right way—keep on keepin’ on! 

You are intelligent enough, smart enough, knowledgeable enough to achieve your dreams—you go it goin’ on! 

You have talents that you don’t even know about—they’re bigger, broader, and more awesome than you can imagine! 

You going to interesting places, learning and doing wonderful things, meeting dynamic people—no grass is growing under your feet! 

Doors are open for you, paths are straight for you, the way is wide and clear for you—you are a champion and victory is yours!

 

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Your homework today is to say these statements to yourself. Remember to stand in front of your mirror with a big smile on your face as you speak these. And get excited and enthusiastic about it!

Take your favorites with you and refer to them during the day, especially when you need a boost.

You can do it!

I’m so proud of you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Our Deepest Fear

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Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” ~~Marianne Williamson

How many times have we sold ourselves short, stayed in the background for fear of offending someone or fear of appearing pushy and too big for our britches? How many times have we deflected compliments and downplayed awards?

This must stop!

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Your homework today is to take this quote to heart. Study it, keep it handy. Refer to the quote often throughout your day.

Live it.

You can do it!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Tips from TV: Have a Safety Net

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Once again I was watching a few episodes of Survivorman featuring Les Stroud, survival expert and videographer.  In one episode he found himself stranded in the Costa Rican jungle and the other episode he was alone on a mountain summit in the Canadian Rockies.

Les struggled when he was in the dense jungle of Costa Rica or thick forest of the Canadian Rockies.  He had to walk slowly and carefully so as not to twist an ankle, as well as to avoid harmful plants—those with thorns or ones that would cause a rash.  Also, it was difficult for him to find and catch food.  To top it all off, the canopy was so thick in both locations that rescue helicopters would not be able to spot him.

However, when he stayed close to either a river or the shoreline, he fared much better.  Food was more plentiful, he was more likely to come across a small village or other people hunting, and the terrain was more open, which increased the chances of a rescue helicopter spotting him.

From time-to-time Les forayed into the jungle or the forest—for food, supplies, and even to see if he could find a road that would lead out—but he would stay within easy access to the shoreline or the river.  He always knew that, if need be, he could go back to the river or the shoreline and stay put, waiting to be found; it was his safety net.

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This got me thinking about traveling on the path to our dreams.  It’s natural and normal that we’ll be traveling where we’ve never been before.  Many times, though, others would have traveled similar paths and we can learn from their adventures and discoveries and successfully apply the lessons and insights to our own path.

There are times, though, that we’ll be totally alone.  We’ll have to blaze the trail all by ourselves over shadowy and treacherous terrain.  Fears and uncertainty can be calmed by having something reliable that you can depend upon.  Having this can give you a feeling of security and that everything will work out just fine.  In Les Stroud’s case it was staying close to a water source for food and to increase his chances of rescue.

In your case, the dependable go-to “thing” can be knowing you can ask for help from your favorite research librarian at your local library, conferring with a trusted friend or family member, or finding deep reserves of peace and wellbeing from your faith or personal philosophy.

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Your homework today is to put your safety nets in place.  Perhaps you find that inspirational works, such as Holy Books, and secular writings give you a feeling of peace and security in spite of the chaos surrounding you.  You may know that you can always turn to a very close friend or family member for support and encouragement.  Your safety net can be a favorite activity that makes you feel that “God is in His/Her Heaven and all is right with the world”.

You can do it!

I’m so proud of you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

A Perfect Day for Meditating

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If you’re like me, you think you are terrible at meditating. And, what’s more, you think you don’t have what it takes to meditate: All that sitting in one position for a long time, that breathing in and breathing out, and the struggle to clear your mind and hold just one thought…

Ugh.

Impossible!

Then it dawned on me the other day that this is not true—not at all!

I’m meditating every time I fixate on something that annoys or frustrates me, that worries me, or that frightens me. 

When I don’t easily let go of these thoughts then these thoughts are pushing out all other thoughts. That’s another way of saying that I am clearing my mind of all other thoughts—especially ones that can be helpful, positive, and constructive—and focusing on thoughts and ideas that agitate me and stir up unhelpful, negative, and destructive thoughts.

So, I am meditating—but on the absolutely wrong things!

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Your homework today is to be mindful of the thoughts you’re fixating on. If they’re negative or unhelpful, then gently turn your thoughts to ones that are optimistic and uplifting.

You can do it, I know you can!

I’m so proud of you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Tasks

 

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“Hard work spotlights the character of people. Some turn up their sleeves. Some turn up their noses, and some don’t turn up at all.”  ~Sam Ewing 

Your homework is to think about this quote in relation to your To Do list. Note which tasks are the ones that you have no qualms about tackling and getting done. Which tasks do you hesitate and procrastinate over? And, which ones are those that you either won’t do at all or you do at such a low level that yield such poor results that you may as well not have bothered?

Think about why you are procrastinating or out-right refusing to do these tasks. What can you do to overcome this? For instance, can you trade tasks with someone or can you pay professionals to do the tasks that are unpleasant?

Also, do you notice a pattern with the tasks that you like to do? Perhaps they all revolve around working with your hands or maybe they all have creativity at their core or the common thread is orderliness. Can you find some of what you do enjoy doing in the tasks that you don’t like doing?

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Find a way to get these tasks off your To Do list. They very well could be holding you back.

Go for it! You can do it!

I’m so proud of you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Seasons

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Yep. The plants featured in the picture above are Poison Ivy. When I saw their red and orange leaves this morning I made a mental note that I can now work on the landscaping in my yard.

I didn’t do much work on my yard in the spring and summer because of the Poison Ivy, Oak, and Sumac I have in the yard. Those plants are so good at blending in—especially Poison Ivy and Poison Oak—that I didn’t want to take the chance of accidentally touching them. I am quite allergic and I am all too familiar with the weeks of pain and discomfort I’d suffer by coming in contact, even briefly, with these plants.

When the fall comes around, it’s a different story!

The plants turn pretty shades of red, orange, and yellow and are quite easy to see. I know now that, while I still have to be watchful, I can work in my yard in safety.

This got me thinking about seasons and how they can help with the challenges we face from time-to-time.

When obstacles pop up, we work hard to solve them and get them off our plates as soon as possible. It doesn’t always work out that way, though. Sometimes we need more information or we need to strengthen our skills. Sometimes we need to be creative and come at it from a different angle.

Sometimes, though, we need to let it sit.

We may need to step away from the problem and let other things fall into place. For instance, the business climate may need to change in order for our idea to take off, or we may not have met all the people who we’ll need on our support team.

Perhaps, those challenges that you’re still dealing with, their right season hasn’t come yet.

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Your homework today is to make a note of the problems you’re handling that seem impervious to the many things you’ve tried. Perhaps their season isn’t here yet. With a little time, you may find events, people, and resources lining up perfectly making it a snap to solve the problem!

Perhaps put these problems to the side and let their season come.

Also, as you’re reviewing and noting the stubborn problems, notice the things that are falling into place and the progress you are making. This is all good stuff!

Then, as always, make sure you applaud yourself and celebrate! This is all good stuff—no matter how small or humble the progress. It all counts and it all adds up!

You did it! I knew you would!

I’m so proud of you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren