As you saw in yesterday’s post, positive reasons—in this case it’s love—can be a very powerful motivator. Negative reasons can be just as powerful.
Here are some examples of “negative” whys:
An iconic one is Scarlett O’Hara in Gone with the Wind when, at the end of the movie, she proclaims that with God as her witness she’ll never be hungry again. We know that statement comes from the depths of her heart and soul. We fully believe that, not only will she always be well-fed with plenty left over, but she also will have rebuilt Tara and rebuilt it in far more magnificence and splendor that in its heyday;
Candace Lightner, after the death of Cari, her 13-year old daughter, at the hands of a hit-and-run drunk driver, founded MADD, Mothers Against Drunk Driving;
Liz Murray, born to drug addicted and HIV positive parents, who also lived by herself on the streets of New York City for a time, dreamed that one day her life would be better. She had an epiphany shortly after her mother died from Aids that her mother had the same dream but had died with it unfulfilled. Liz vowed that would not happen to her. She went on to graduate from Harvard University, authored a bestselling memoir, and is a sought-after speaker;
Apolo Ohno, whose mother abandoned him when he was an infant, and who, in junior high school, started hanging out with gangbangers. With the guidance of his father, Apolo saw that route was a dead end. As you know, he went on to become one of the most decorated Winter Olympians in US history.
Your homework today is to think of the negative whys that can help fuel your quest to achieve your dreams. Perhaps you’re deeply embarrassed/angry/sad about something. Instead of letting that crush you, how can you use that to pull you up and to fuel you forward?
Do some research on the Internet of people who have struggled with the same things you are and yet went on to live successful and fulfilling lives.
If they can do it, so can you. I know you can!
I’m so proud of you!
Your Friend and Pep Pal,