Be Selective


Isolation is a dream killer.

~Barbara Sher


Isolation and being alone too much can cause our thoughts and ideas to become negative. Without anyone there to point out to us that things aren’t as bad as we think and then to help us think more positively, it becomes very easy to convince ourselves that we don’t have what it takes to be successful. We are sure that we can’t do it because we aren’t smart enough or we’re not old enough or we’re not young enough or two tall, too short, or whatever it is that we think is our fatal flaw.

It’s important that you have people in your life—all types of people. This is good for your overall quality of life, but it’s also very helpful to have supportive people with you on your journey to your dreams.

It’s good to have people who have different ways of thinking, different interests and ideas. They can help you see your quest to your dreams in a different light and this can help you have insights that you might not have had otherwise.

The one thing that the people you hang around with MUST have in common is that they are positive, supportive, and encouraging people.

Being selective and hanging around positive people is imperative and of extreme importance.

For that reason, it’s vitally important that when you are with the different people in your life you answer two questions: How does this person make me feel when I am with them? Also, how do I feel after I’ve spent time with this person?

The answer must be that while you are with the person as well as afterward, you should feel positive, uplifted, encouraged, energized, and have confidence to take the next step.

Your homework today is to be selective with who you hang around with. In your own mind, evaluate the people you normally hang around with. Do they Positive Petes and Uplifting Ursulas who make you feel good about yourself and confident that you can do it? Are they Negative Nellies and Downer Daves and while you are with them, and afterward, you feel exhausted, miserable, and think that maybe you should throw in the towel?

Make a point to limit your contact with the Negative Nellies and Downer Daves in your life. If you can, eliminate them from your life completely. Then, spend as much time as you can with the Positive Petes and Uplifting Ursulas in your life.

Make a plan to be selective and to hang around positive people!

You can do it!

I’m so proud of you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,


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