Our Deepest Fear by Marianne Williamson
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, “Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?”
Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.
We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.
This quote hits the bulls-eye for many of us. While we’re excited about being successful, working long and hard for it, a part of us is terrified. What will people think, especially our friends and family? We don’t mind the idea of being singled out for attention and acclaim, however, how will we handle it when those close to us accused of being too big for our britches?
For many of us, these thoughts—and others like them—are enough to stop us dead in our tracks and keep us stuck for years, even decades. It seems that we’d rather live far below our potential than to risk the ire of those close to us. It even seems that we’d rather miss our destiny than to stand out among our friends and family.
But yet…we know we can do more—we yearn to do more—with our lives.
What are we to do?
Taking bits of steps one at a time and moving ahead at a slow, steady pace are strategies to use in this case. Also, talking to your family and friends—those who you are concerned will be critical of you—inviting them to be part of your journey. You don’t have to out-right partner with them but perhaps they can be a sounding board for you or help you with some of your steps. I’m sure you can think of ways to make them feel included in your journey—that you are not leaving them behind.
Your homework today is to note the areas of your life where you are holding back. Evaluate why this is so.
If you discover you’re fearful of what those close to you will think—how they will handle your success—then think about ways you can include those you care about in your journey. Perhaps something as simple as meeting regularly for a chat over coffee will help.
As you’re going over your week, also note the steps and bits of steps you’re taking toward your goals. Every little bit adds up! Celebrate this! Include your family and friends in your celebrations and let them know their support and encouragement is valuable to you.
You can do it!
Your Friend and Pep Pal,