We’re so busy with obligations and responsibilities that we think we don’t have the time to go for our dreams.
The intensity of our focus can make up for the lack of time we’re able to spend on tasks and projects that will take us to our dreams.
Focusing intensely requires that we’re single-minded and fully present in the moment without distractions or interruptions. This means no multi-tasking is allowed!
Your homework today is to honor yourself and your dreams by taking time today—and every day—to devote unyielding, undivided, deep attention to tasks and projects that will take you to your dreams.
Remember to break them into steps and break those into small pieces. Break those into little parts and tiny bits. Focus intently on the little bits that fit into the small pockets of time that you have throughout your day. Follow through and do the bits!
It can be very helpful to look to other people and their accomplishments for inspiration, motivation, encouragement, as well as for mentoring—pointing the way through a rough patch.
But that is it.
If you go beyond that and use people and their accomplishments as a yardstick to determine whether or not you have what it takes or if you’re good enough then that’s when your problems begin.
Everyone is on their own special and particular journey. While our journeys made intersect with one another and they may even run parallel to one another—and so closely parallel that they seem like they’re identical—in fact, they are not the same journey.
Other people are doing things in a little different way with a little different shading that’s going to produce different result and reach different people, helping and inspiring them in the way that resonates with them.
When you pursue your dreams and goals your way, you are reaching people who have not been inspired, motivated, or helped by anyone else.
Your gifts, your talents, the dream in your heart is such that only YOU can reach these people.
Thinking of it that way, how can anyone else’s yardstick possibly measure your worthiness to achieve your dreams and your progress toward those dreams? It doesn’t make sense! That’s because the markings on their yardstick do not correspond to the units of measurement that mark your journey. YOU are the only one who possesses the correct yardstick that’ll give you accurate readings!
Your homework today is to let go of other peoples’ yardsticks—especially the one that society uses—and make your own! Your yardstick is forged in your heart and soul and is the perfect measuring device for your dreams.
Also, you know when, in spite of the whisperings of your soul and the urgings of your heart that you used someone else’s yardstick and found yourself coming up short. Make a note of the projects that you did this with and the times that this happened. Make a promise to yourself that you will never again let this happen—you will never again allow someone else’s yardstick influence what you know to be right and true.
As you note the times when you used someone else’s yardstick, you’ll probably also see times when you didn’t—times when, in spite of the temptation, you held tight to your own yardstick. I’m sure you saw that your yardstick told you that you’re on track, you’re doing good, you’re making progress. It probably also encouraged you to keep going!
Celebrate this! This is really good stuff—and it’s vitally important stuff. This—using your own yardstick and celebrating when you follow through—is what’ll get you to your dreams.
Invite your friends and family to celebrate with you!
Keep taking steps! Break them into small parts and little pieces. Break those into tiny bits and then follow through on doing them.
You can do it, I am sure of it!
I’m so proud of you and the progress you’re making—yay you!
Are you at an impasse? Are you stuck or stymied? Are you considering throwing in the towel?
Before you give up, remember that help is always available.
If you ask respectfully, you can usually find someone who’ll reach out a helping hand. Perhaps they have a skill or specialized knowledge that they’ll help you learn or it may be that they can be a sounding board for you.
You can search the Internet, visit your local library and either perusing the books on your own or ask for help from one of the librarians. There are friends and family members to talk to—you never know who knows that little piece of information that could make all the difference to you. Or, perhaps they know someone who can be of help to you.
There are memberships in professional associations that can give you the boost you need. “Rubbing elbows” with others interested in your same industry can give you insights that you may not be able to get on your own.
And, there’s good old fashioned putting on your thinking cap and brainstorming—with or without trusted friends, family, and colleagues. Remember that in these sessions no idea is too off the wall and no thought is too crazy!
Your homework today is to look for the help you need. When getting help from others, remember your manners—be respectful and grateful for their help!
You can do it—the progress you’re making proves that you have what it takes to be successful!
You’re the only one who can live your life in an extraordinary way. Anyone else—no matter how smart they are or talented or rich or successful or beautiful or tall or young or competent or capable or whatever—would totally bomb and crash and burn if they tried to live your life. You are the one with the specialized instincts and talents crafted specifically for you and your life journey. Celebrate and be grateful you are who you are because you’re awesome!
Doors of opportunity are opening wide for you!
As you move forward on your journey and step into your destiny, wondrous things will be magnetized to you. You’ll meet fascinating people who’ll reach out a helping hand to you. You’ll learn awe-inspiring things about the world and discover depths to yourself that will surprise and delight you. You’ll be so excited to take the next step and the next and the next!
No obstacle can defeat you because you are programmed for success!
Because you are hand-picked and custom-made to live your life, you have all the raw talents, abilities, and innate knowledge needed to live your life victoriously. You can meet and exceed any challenge that crosses your path. You may have to dig deep but it’s there within you. You have what it takes—in spades!
Your homework today is to stand up straight and tall; throw your shoulders back and hold your head high because you are a one-of-a-kind masterpiece.
Keep any of these statements handy to refer to throughout your day or week whenever you need a boost
Then take steps, parts of steps, pieces of steps, and bits of steps. Keep moving forward!
Sometimes we have no motivation to do anything, other than sitting like a “bump on a log”, as my parents were fond of saying. Those days we feel that our Get Up and Go has Gotten Up and Left!
When we’re feeling this way, we look to the outside. We buy energy drinks, caffeinated coffee or soda. We may take special supplements that are supposed to increase our energy—our gumption.
Gumption doesn’t come from outside of us!
Our gumption—or lack of it—is a result of what’s going on inside of us.
Your homework today is to first analyze what’s stealing your gumption. Is it a task that’s intimidating or overwhelming, or perhaps it’s unpleasant or uncomfortable? Are those discouraging tapes running in your mind, the ones that say you can’t do it or that you’re not good enough? Are you getting enough sleep? Are you eating regularly and consuming good food or are you eating take-out on a catch-as-catch-can basis? Are you spending too much time by yourself and now you’re feeling isolated and alone?
Once you’ve identified what’s going on, come up with ideas of what you can do to help yourself. For instance, if you’re lonely, reach out to friends and family. If you’re overwhelmed, you may have to delegate tasks and projects or ask for help with them. You may find that turning off all electronics might give you the peace and quiet you need to relax enough to get a good night’s sleep.
Sometimes, though, you just have to muscle it out and make the decision to get up and do something.
As you’re getting your gumption back, be sure to break tasks into steps and break those into small pieces, little parts, and tiny bits. Choose a tiny bit that’s easy to do—then do it! I have found from experience that if I can do a little bit then that jump-starts me and gets me going and I can do a little bit more.
Keep plugging away doing tiny bit after tiny bit. This’ll help you gain a finger-hold. Keep at it and soon you’ll notice your confidence is back, which feeds right into your gumption. Yay!
It isn’t what’s going on around us—outside of us—that creates problems but rather it’s what’s going on inside of us that’s causes all the trouble. In other words, it isn’t the circumstance, situation, or the thing that happened or didn’t happen, but it’s our perception—our judgment of it, whether we celebrate it as a good thing or weep that it’s a bad thing—that determines its impact on us and our life.
Your homework today is to take a close look at your perceptions, judgments, and assumptions about the challenges you’re facing. Whether they are of your own doing or if someone else’s mess is creating problems for you, analyze how you’re thinking about it.
Identify the sticking points in your thinking such as: it isn’t fair or I can’t. How can you move forward in spite of these limiting thoughts? By breaking tasks into steps and then breaking them into smaller and smaller pieces until you get to bits that are easy to do. Then following through and doing them! Bit-by-bit, step-by-step you’ll make progress. You’ll also notice that you’re gaining confidence and energy, which will boost your progress!
Nothing astonishes men so much as common sense and plain dealing.
~Ralph Waldo Emerson
On TV and in the media, it’s common to see people behaving badly. It’s so common that we’re becoming desensitized to rudeness and ridicule; we’re forgetting about manners and common courtesy. This makes it easy, then, for us to stand out just by being courteous and our word being our bond.
That which we persist in doing becomes easier, not that the task itself has become easier, but that our ability to perform it has improved.
~Ralph Waldo Emerson
This is an illustration of methodically working toward your dreams by taking one step at a time. At first, it’s hard and even daunting to take the steps but as you persist and consistently take steps and pieces, parts, and bits of steps, you become more proficient at it. You’re better able to do it—practice makes perfect!
Trust your instinct to the end, though you can render no reason.
~Ralph Waldo Emerson
Sometimes there is just no good reason why your heart and soul urge you to take a certain direction and compel you to keep moving in that direction. Common sense, accepted logic, and experience may all be pointing in the other direction, but your heart and soul compels you to go the other way.
Follow your instinct—the direction signal of your heart and soul!