Don’t give up. You just don’t know what’s around the corner.
~Amy Roloff, Reality TV Star of Little People, Big World
Today’s quote is good advice to keep in the front of your mind at all times—especially when you’ve hit a rough patch and things look very bleak and hopeless. Holding tight to today’s quote can help you take that little bit of a step.
Sometimes, taking that little bit of a step is all you need to give yourself a new perspective. With a slightly different vantage point, you can see things you weren’t able to see before—new possibilities or fresh options that just weren’t visible. This then gives you hope and renewed energy to move forward.
Your homework today is to keep going. Take the next step! Break it into small pieces, little parts, and tiny bits. Keep breaking the steps down until you come to bits that you know are easy to do. Then do them!
We all have limitations. Some of us are afraid of heights, some don’t like to take risks, and others of us lack confidence.
The good news is that none of these are fatal and none of them will prevent us from reaching our dreams. Yay!!
Your homework today is to review this past week and see where your limitations have slowed you down—or tripped you up. Make a note of these—your limitations and when they come into play—and brainstorm different ways to do things.
The point is to work with your limitations—instead of against them—so you can continue to move forward toward your dreams, no matter what. Eventually, you’ll be able to let go of your limitations, some of them at least. But in the meantime, you’ll look for creative ways to do things just a little differently so that your limitations don’t get in your way.
Very important is to never compare your limitations to what other people are or are not doing. Everyone has limitations, everyone. You have different limitations than others because your path is different and your destiny is unique to you. So don’t compare yourself to anyone else!
As you review your week and schedule and look for ways to tweak it so it works better for you, note the things you did well and the steps you took that moved you closer to your dreams. No matter how small or humble the increment of forward movement, it’s all good and it all adds up.
Celebrate these accomplishments! Invite your friends and family to join you!
We’ve talked a lot about letting go. The vast majority of things are right to let go of, however, there are a few things worth fighting for.
I’m not talking about the kind of fighting that requires fists and/or weapons. The kind of fighting I’m talking about is: not quitting, not giving up, not taking “no” for an answer, not throwing in the towel.
I’m talking about things worth fighting for such as sticking with it, keep at it, give it another shot, take just one more tiny step, keep going, keep moving forward.
Here’s a few things worth fighting for:
What you believe in and value
Your honor and integrity
Your family and friends
Your homework today is to make your list of what YOU think is worth fighting for. Keep it with you at all times. Refer to it frequently, especially when you’ve hit a rough patch.
Note to my Daily Pep Talks Friends:My apologies for not posting for the past several days. I’ve had to travel home to help with a family emergency. Thank you for your patience and understanding. I appreciate it very much. ~Lauren, Your Friend and Pep Pal
Sometimes we aren’t moving forward because we have to make a choice—we’re faced with a decision. We aren’t happy because the options don’t look good or fun or easy. They look tough and hard. And, we can’t see how any of the choices will help us or get us where we want to go.
So, we hem and we haw, and we procrastinate. Or we may try something that is easier or less painful.
But none of that works.
No matter how long we delay and no matter how many painless things we try, we are still faced with that tough decision—the hard choice.
So, it’s best to just do it—get it over with. Trust that at as hard and as painful as the decision may be, the quicker you make it and get it over with, the faster you can move forward. And, with forward movement comes the opportunity for better days!
Your homework today is to take a look at the choices—the decisions—you’re avoiding. Roll your sleeves up and choose the one that seems the best, even though may look hard and painful.
Remember that you can break it into small steps, little pieces, and tiny bits. That can make tough choices more manageable and less overwhelming.
I know you’re made of tough stuff so you can do this, I’m sure of it!
I’m so proud of you for rolling up your sleeves and making the tough choice!
The only way to achieve your dreams is to take steps forward.
You may think, though, that taking steps requires too much time. Break the steps into small pieces, little parts, and tiny bits. Then do one or more of the bits. It’s still forward movement and it all adds up!
But what if you can’t even take a tiny bit of a step?
Then lean in the direction that you want to go.
What if you can’t lean?
Then look in the direction you want to go.
But, what if you can’t look?
Then think about the direction you want to go!
These are all increments of forward movement!!
Your homework today is to at the very least, think about your dreams and the steps you’ll take to achieve them. Carve out time in your upcoming week to at least think about your dreams if you can’t take steps or tiny bits of steps yet.
Being too busy and not having time is no excuse because you can always THINK about your dreams and where you want to go!
I’m proud of you for not giving up on your dreams or yourself. You’re awesome!
Your Friend and Pep Pal,
PS: Remember to celebrate the times you thought about your dreams, looked in the direction of your dreams, leaned in the direction of your dreams, and the little bits of steps you took. That’s fantastic!! You rock!!
There are days and phases in your life where you can only do what you can do. And that’s good enough.
During these times, you can’t hold yourself to unrealistically high standards. That’ll only make it harder on yourself and give you one more thing to add to the things you’re already juggling.
It doesn’t matter what other people have done, whether they experienced similar things or not and whether or not their situation was “worse than” yours. Plug your ears–your external ones and your internal ones–and don’t listen to that crap! You can only do what you can do and that’s that.
Your homework today is to give yourself a break if you’re having a bad day or in a rough patch in your life. Do the best you can, even if it’s a little lower standard than what you usually do. That’s okay. Do the best you can as you work your way through this. Keep plugging away a little bit at a time and soon you’ll work your way out of this.
Each day and each moment of each day you have the opportunity to start fresh and new.
Each moment of each day, you have the opportunity and the right to draw a line and say “Nevermore!”. You then have the right to wipe your slate clean.
Every moment of every day you can declare “that was then, this is now; now I choose to make a change and make it last.”
Every moment of every day you have a new chance—a brand new chance—to make a different choice, make a new decision, and pack that choice and that decision full of your intent and will.
Each day and each moment of the day you have the opportunity to take a step in a different direction if you’re off track or headed the wrong way.
It’s YOU who can make these different choices and decisions. YOU’RE the one who gets the first and last word on whether or not you’re allowed to wipe your slate clean. YOU’RE the one who decides whether or not you have earned or deserve a fresh start.
Your desire to change things, your longing to make a fresh start, is all that’s needed to earn and to deserve a fresh start.
No matter what you did or did not do in the past, no matter who you are now or were in the past, you CAN make a fresh start this moment.
Even if other people think you won’t amount to much because of what you have—or have not—done, even if other people think you don’t deserve or haven’t earned another chance, YOU DON’T HAVE TO TAKE THEIR WORD FOR IT!
YOU’RE the one that gets to wipe your slate clean. YOU’RE the one that gets to allow yourself to make a fresh start.
YOU’RE the one that can give yourself chance after chance after chance to have a clean start. YOU’RE the one that can give yourself as many chances as you need!
Your homework today is to choose to wipe your slate clean and start fresh and new. Do it NOW!
You can, you can do it! I give you permission to clean your slate and give yourself a sparkling new beginning!
We see people we know living successful lives: they have it all together and it seems like they’re always in the right place at the right time. We see advertisements of what successful people look like: accomplished, calm, and in control of their lives. None of these resemble our lives at all and we think we’re doing something wrong. We wish we had what they have.
When this happens, we need to change our focus from outside of us and turn it inward. We need to be thankful for who we are, where we are, and what we have.
Your homework today is to say your thank you’s. You don’t have to be thankful for anything in particular. Keep saying to yourself “thank you” as you go through your day. It’s amazing how just doing that will brighten your day.
I was running errands the other day and passed by an old cemetery. I knew the inhabitants in that particular cemetery had lived in the 1700s and early 1800s. Most of them had been dead for 200 or more years. I wondered what they would have thought of how different our world looks when compared to theirs. It occurred to me that they’ve been dead far longer than they were alive.
Then a thought zapped me like a lightning bolt: I, too, will spend much more time dead than alive! Same goes for you and for every single one of us in this world!
Even if we live to be one hundred years old or more, we’re still going to spend far more time dead than alive. Even if reincarnation is guaranteed, we won’t get the same life, the same circumstances, the same opportunities.
There is no do-over!
So, what the heck are we waiting for?!
Your homework today is to get busy! Take the next step. If that’s too large or too overwhelming, then break it into small pieces, little parts, and tiny bits. Then choose a tiny bit and get busy completing it!
On one of the Retro TV stations, I was watching the Perry Mason TV show that aired in the 1960s. In this particular episode, Perry was defending a young woman, who was from the wrong side of the tracks. She was charged with the murder of a man in elevated social circles.
Perry was questioning a witness and, as usual, Hamilton Burger, the prosecuting attorney, was objecting on the grounds that Perry was on a “fishing expedition” with the questions he was asking the witness and was straying far afield from the evidence in the trial.
The judge turned to Perry and said, “I’m wondering, too, Mr. Mason. How does this all relate?”
Perry answered, “I assure you, Your Honor, I’ll connect it all up.”
The judge replied, “You’re sure…?”
“Yes, Your Honor, I’m sure.” Said Perry.
This got me to thinking…. What if I substituted “The Universe/God/Higher Power” for the name “Perry Mason” and switched out “the judge” and put in my name instead….
When we’ve lost our way or are faced with a challenge that seems too big or too hard, how many times have we wondered what was going on and who was at The Controls?
Whether we believe in Something-Bigger-Than-Us or not, we have to admit that when we pressed on through the challenge, eventually things worked out—everything connected up.
It may have been hard, it may have been scary, it may have been discombobulating, and it may have taken a long time. We may have given up hope from time-to-time and wondered if we’d lost our sanity. But we pressed on anyway and finally things fell into place and everything worked out.
This made me realize that there are much larger currents and plans at work in the world and in our lives. When we’re faced with challenges, oftentimes we don’t understand what’s going on, especially as we’re going through it. It’s only in hindsight that we may catch a glimpse of the much Larger Picture and the Guiding Hand that’s at work in the world and in our lives.
Your homework today is to have faith that things are working out—Someone is at The Controls and is connecting it all up. It may take a while and it may not work out as you had imagined or wanted. Whatever the rough patch was, at least it gave you the gift of becoming stronger, adding depth and breadth to you and your life, and giving you a more solid and grounded presence in your world.