Yesterday was the start of a new month.
To give you a little backstory, I’ve been doing things a little different this year. Instead of writing out my goals for the year only once (at the beginning of the year) and writing the goals for the current month only once (at the start of each month), I’ve decided to write out my 2015 goals and the current month’s goals once each week as I plan out that week.
I’ve already noticed a difference!
Yesterday, as I reviewed January’s goals, I discovered a pattern. While I had worked on tasks and projects that moved me toward my goals and dreams, I found I was much more likely to do the easy and fun steps and assignments. I clearly saw that I gave “a lick and a promise” to the things that overwhelmed or intimidated me or the things that appeared too difficult.
This is valuable information!
This tells me that I need to buckle down and not let myself off the hook so easily and to encourage myself to work on the things that make me nervous.
It also tells me that the tasks and projects that are creating my anxiety need to be broken down into smaller pieces—they’re still too big for me. I need to break these down into steps and break those into parts and break those into pieces and break those down until I get to the tiny bits that I know are easy for me to do. I know for certain that I’m more apt to follow through on the bite-sized pieces. This is because I’ll feel confident in my ability to do them—and to handle it if something goes wrong or turns out to be much different than what I thought. Also, these bite-sized pieces will fly under the radar of my resistance. Even if they don’t, even if these tiny bits are picked up by my Resistance Radar, the blip will be much smaller and I’ll have a good chance of overriding the anxiety or nerves. I’ll be more likely to do the tiny bit in spite of the slight resistance I may be feeling.
The other thing I plan to do to help myself change the pattern of avoiding some tasks and projects is to reward myself. After completing a tiny bit of a step I could reward myself with reading a chapter of a novel or daydreaming for a few minutes. I think, though, that a better reward would be to sit quietly after completing the tiny bit and savor the feelings of accomplishment. At the bottom of the resistance is a lack of confidence and taking the few minutes to treasure my achievements, no matter how small or humble, will help me build a solid foundation of self-confidence,
Your homework today is to commit to each week writing out your goals for 2015 and your goals for the current month—in addition to writing out your plans for the week. As you go through the month, keep an eye on what you don’t cross off the list. Is it showing you that you’re avoiding completing tasks and projects that will move you light-years ahead to your dreams?
If so, break these tasks and projects into steps, then into parts, then into pieces, then into tiny bits. Break them down to the point where you know that they’re a snap for you to do. Then, of course, follow through and do them!
Remember to honor yourself by taking the time to bask in the glow of your accomplishments and achievements, no matter how small or humble. Invite your friends and family to celebrate with you, if you’d like.
This is all good stuff and I know you can do it!
I’m so proud of you!
Your Friend and Pep Pal