Right to Fall

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In yesterday’s post we talked about falls being inevitable and, while we take reasonable steps to prevent them, the best thing to do is to help others—and ourselves—ease to the floor for as soft of a landing as possible.

In today’s post, we’re taking that one step further because, whether we like it or not, everyone has the right to fall.

Everyone has the right to live their life to the best of their abilities. This means that they are allowed to make decisions about the direction of their lives that we may not agree with. Even if we see that their decision may be a “bad” one, they have the right to make it and follow through with it.

They have their own journey and their own destiny in Life and it is not our place to interfere with that. We can stand by and offer a helping hand as needed but we do not have the right to impede or prevent them from living their lives fully.

The same is true for us—we have the same right to live our life to the best of our abilities. No matter what anyone else thinks, says, does, likes, or wants, we can choose to like, want, think, say, and do something different.

While others can stand beside us and offer support and encouragement, they do not have the right to stop us from making decisions and choices that we think are the best for us.

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Your homework today is to note the things that are still calling to you in your heart and soul but you’re not doing them because someone is telling you it’s the wrong thing for you to do. If you think it’s the right thing to do, then do it—go for it!

Break the steps into small pieces and little parts and then break those into tiny bits. Then do the bits!

You can do it!

I’m so proud of you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

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What I’ve Learned: Ease on Down

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As you know, falling—literally as well as figuratively—is inevitable in Life. Of course you do what you can to prevent it, however, many times things happen so fast and so unexpectedly that there isn’t much you can do to stop the fall. The best you can do is to find some way to break or soften the fall so you don’t totally *kersplat* when you land—do what you can to ease yourself to the floor.

The same is true when you’re trying to help other people. You may not be able to prevent their fall but you can help ease them to the floor so their landing is as gentle as possible.

It’s safer to ease yourself—and others—to the floor rather than trying to stop the fall. Of course be pro-active about falling but then look for as soft of a landing as possible!

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Your homework today is to think of ways you can help yourself and others to ease to the floor when a fall is imminent. Make a list and keep it handy so you can refer to it as needed.

Here are a few suggestions to get you started:

~ask for—and accept (!!)—help;

~read inspiring and uplifting books;

~spend time in Nature;

~take plenty of time for contemplation and reflection;

~journaling;

~take care of yourself by getting plenty of rest, eating fresh and nutritious food, and getting regular light exercise.

 

You can do it, I know you can!

I’m proud of you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

A Perfect Day for Contentment

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Sometimes we find ourselves waiting for things to change—waiting for our lives to begin. If we’re doing that, then we’re missing the beauty, joy, and gifts of where we are right now!

Your homework today is to find contentment right where you are right now. Find the beauty, find the valuable lessons, find the joy and peace. It’s there. It may be tucked in corners or below your sight line, but it’s there!

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A note: contentment does NOT mean settling, getting comfortable, and learning to live with where you are and what you have. It does NOT mean giving up on your dreams! Contentment means to find peace, joy, and things to help you grow no matter what phase in life that you happen to be.

You are on your way to something better so be content—at peace—with where you are!

You can do it!

I’m so proud of you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

What’s the Worst?

 

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First, ask yourself: What is the worst that can happen? Then prepare to accept it. Then proceed to improve on the worst.  ~Dale Carnegie

 

Sometimes when we’re faced with taking the next step, we may be a little overwhelmed or intimidated by what we see ahead of us.  We find ourselves hesitating, perhaps on the verge of getting stuck.

Of course we try to rationalize and use logic to get ourselves to go on. In our minds we know we can probably handle what comes along but our emotional selves can blow things way out of proportion. Our emotional selves are very good at imagining all sorts of drama and disaster!

This is the very time when it’s most important to break steps into small pieces and little parts, and then break those into tiny bits. When we do that, we can see that if any “disaster” should come along with the tiny bit of a step, it’s so small that we can easily handle it. While it may be an annoyance to have to deal with it, the “disaster” will not stop us. It’s small enough and easy enough to figure out and power through.

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Your homework today is to look at the next few steps in your journey and break them into the tiniest bits possible—tiny bits that you are very confident you can do in a snap. Then do them!

You can do it!

I’m so proud of you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Review Your Week: After the Storm

 

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There is always an “After the Storm”. 

The storm may rage for a long time, as if it’ll never end;

The storm may be intense and scary and you may wonder if you’ll survive;

The storm may seem to take all you’ve got, and then some;

But it always ends;

And you always manage to outlive it.

 

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Your homework today is to review your week. Note the places where you can tweak your schedule so you have more time to work toward your dreams. Also, note the little pockets of time that you can use for brief periods of relaxing, contemplating, or appreciating the joy in each moment.

As you review your week, applaud yourself for the progress you’ve made, no matter how humble or how small. It all adds up! It’s consistently accomplishing the little bits of steps that is the key to getting you to your dreams.

Above all, celebrate yourself for coming through the storms in your life. You did it, I knew you could!!

I’m sooooo proud of you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

A Perfect Day for a Birthday and Being Thankful

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We all know to be thankful for what we do have, no matter how humble, unassuming, or seemingly inconsequential. Everything adds up to make us who we are. These also add up to be our talents, abilities, and the base of knowledge upon which we build our dreams.

It’s important to also be thankful for the things we don’t have: the issues we don’t have to deal with, the inabilities and shortcomings that we don’t have to figure out how to compensate for, the lousy cards that Life sometimes deals out that missed winding up in our hands….

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Your homework today is to take a moment and be thankful. Nothing is too small, too “stupid”, or too unimportant to be thankful for.

Also, remember to be thankful for what you don’t have to deal with. For instance, you may live in a very modest rental unit, be thankful that you aren’t in over your head with a huge mortgage and facing foreclosure like many people are—perhaps people you know.

You can do it!

I’m so proud of you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

PS Happy Birthday, Jay!

What I’ve Learned: Gut it Out

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Sometimes we find ourselves in a place that is very uncomfortable. There is no easy way out, no path of least resistance. The only trail we see is barely a footpath and it’s overgrown with thorny brush, on a steep and rocky trail, and there are no handholds or guard rails.

We don’t want to take that way.

So we pause in our forward movement and search for better ways. But we don’t come up with anything that’s less difficult.

We’re tempted to stay there and keep searching. This would be a mistake because another phrase for this searching is called being stuck. And, that isn’t helpful at all!

That’s when we have to just get our nerve up, prepare ourselves as best as we can, roll up our sleeves and gut it out. We know it’s going to be uncomfortable; it might even be painful. But trust and believe that you’re moving toward something better.

Sometimes you have to put up with pain—whether it’s physical, mental, emotional, or spiritual—so that you can move forward to better places and better times.

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Your homework today is to gut it out. What steps are you avoiding or evading because you know they’ll be uncomfortable or painful? Break those steps into manageable pieces so that they aren’t so intimidating or overwhelming. Break them into as small of bits as needed. Then do the bits!

Keep doing them and soon you’ll break through to something much better!

You can do it!

I’m so proud of you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren