The only way we’re going to reach our goals and our dreams is by moving toward them. The only way to move toward them is to take steps every day—or as regularly as possible. When we do this consistently and persistently, then we’re guaranteed to reach our dreams.
But what if the steps are too overwhelming or we just don’t know where to start or what to do next? Then do something, anything. Even doing the “wrong” thing is better than just sitting there like a bump on a log (as all of our parents used to say to us!).
Your homework today is to get busy doing something—anything! Do what seems most logical and the best idea at the time. As you take steps and pieces of steps, you’ll learn new information and see things from a different perspective. This will help you take the next step, or bit of step.
Keep going! Take the next bit of a step—move forward!
“You must make a decision that you are going to move on. It won’t happen automatically. You will have to rise up and say, ‘I don’t care how hard this is, I don’t care how disappointed I am, I’m not going to let this get the best of me. I’m moving on with my life.” ― Joel Osteen, Your Best Life Now: 7 Steps to Living at Your Full Potential
You MUST move forward. No problems are solved, no answers are found, by staying where you are or trying to go backward.
Moving forward is the only solution.
Your homework is to take the next step. Remember to break it down into as tiny of a piece as possible—the smaller the better! Tiny specks of steps are less overwhelming so you’ll be more apt to do them. And, tiny increments of forward movement add up over time.
We all have—or have had—special people in our lives. Whether they’re still in our lives or not, these extraordinary people have believed in us, supported us, and encouraged us not only when we were easily motoring along toward our goals but, more importantly, they were cheering and urging us on when we couldn’t do the tiniest bit of that for ourselves.
Your homework today is to take time to celebrate and thank these people. Appreciate them for so generously giving you the gift of themselves. Celebrate them and let them know how thankful you are that they are in your life.
Even if they are no longer with you on Earth, send thanks into the ethers; I’m positive they’ll receive it!
Do what you feel in your heart to be right – for you’ll be criticized anyway. You’ll be damned if you do, and damned if you don’t. ~Eleanor Roosevelt
Your homework today is to review your week and as you do so, keep an eye toward whether or not you’re doing what you think is right—listening to the Still Small Voice inside.
Of course it’s fine to listen to advice and counsel from people who you know have your best interest in mind, but when it comes down to it, you must listen to the whispering and urgings of your heart and soul.
As you’re reviewing, note the progress you’re making—the tiny bits, fragment of bits, slivers of bits, and teensy specks of bits of steps.
The size of the progress does NOT matter. What matters is the CONSISTENCY and PERSISTENTLY of taking those teensy increments of forward movement.
Over time, they add up—guaranteed. And, sooner than you’d think, you’ll find that you’ve achieved your dreams. WooHoo!
So, celebrate those tiny specks of steps. You are awesome for doing them! Yay you!!
When we hear of other people’s journey to their dreams and the steps they had to take to get there, we imagine they always knew what they were doing, everything was well-planned and went according to schedule, and they took large steps and even leaps and bounds.
And they do it while being suave, debonair fashion plates!
While those who have achieved their goals did formulate a plan to get there, usually, nothing went as they thought or expected. And, when they first formulated their plans, they thought they knew what they were doing. But because nothing went as they expected, they had to re-do—sometimes even scrapping—the plan and, at times, flying by the seat of their pants.
And those leaps and bounds and smooth easy steps we imagine they took?
They stumbled and staggered, and struggled with taking just tiny bits. And it wasn’t unusual that they took two teensy specks of steps forward and then three giant leaps backward.
Just like you in your journey to your dreams!
So if all you’re able to manage is bits of steps, fragments, morsels, crumbs, and specks of steps, that’s okay—as long as you’re consistently taking them.
And if you find when you achieve your dreams that your hair is sticking out in all directions, you have a smudge of dirt on your nose, the knees of your pants are ripped, and a piece of toilet paper is trailing from the heel of your shoe, then you’re in good company. That’s just what other successful people before you looked like!
Your homework today is to take the next step! Break it into small pieces, little parts, and tiny bits. Break those into fragments, chips, slivers. Break those down until you get to specks that you know are easy to fit into your day and even easier to do.
Today is the day that federal and state taxes are due.
Perhaps you’re rushing around at the last minute gathering the documentation finishing the paperwork, finishing all the calculations, writing your check (or not), and then getting everything in the mail at the last minute.
And it’s fine because you got it done and you met the deadline.
Take a moment to celebrate meeting the deadline. Even if it was ugly, even if it was stressful, even if you just barely made it by the skin of your teeth, the fact remains that you made it.
Your homework today is to celebrate the fact you did it! You got your taxes done and in the mail; it’s a job that you can cross of your To Do list.
Yay you for making progress and moving forward!
This experience can show you that the steps, the forward progress toward your dreams, doesn’t have to be pretty—or even fun. They just have to get done.
“Doing your best in this moment puts you in the best place in the next moment.” ~Oprah Winfrey
We all know that doing the best we can, giving everything our all, is the quickest way to achieve our goals.
We think, though, that doing our best means we must always consistently perform at incredibly high levels. But there are days where we just don’t have it. Our best is far, far below what we think it should be. Which then gets us to thinking that we don’t have what it takes….
All we have to do is the best we can at that moment. If that happens to be performing at a high level then that’s great, and we can take a full or a big step. But it’s also great if all we have is just barely enough to get by, to take only a tiny speck of a fragment of a bit of a step.
All we have to do is do enough of our best to make it to the next tiniest bit of a step—we don’t have to make it all the way to the finish line. We just have to move a tiny increment beyond where we are right now.
Your homework is to do the best you can in each moment and take the next tiny bit of a step.
There are all kinds of people in the world. Some of them are Prickly Pears: people who get your goat, drive you crazy, know how to push your buttons, and just generally make you grind your teeth.
Like everyone else, I have to deal with Prickly Pears. There are a handful that are particularly frustrating to deal with. While I do my best to remain calm, inside I can feel the annoyance building. This increases my frustration because I really want to remain calm but I can’t seem to manage it. Which makes me even more frustrated!
And, like everyone else, sometimes it’s hard to find techniques that will effectively press the reset button. While stepping back and taking a deep breath or two (or three or four…!!) can be helpful at lowering my frustration levels, these methods don’t always take me back to a level of zero frustration.
Recently, though, I hit upon a solution that came about in a very unlikely and unexpected way.
I was meeting with one of my Prickly Pear People and I had tensed up because I knew he would be difficult. I’d heard he was coping with a personal tragedy and, before we started our meeting, I expressed my sympathy. For a brief moment, I saw a lost and bewildered person looking back at me.
It was just a glimpse, but that was all I needed for my frustration level to go down to zero—and stay there.
That flash of an unguarded moment helped me see him in a whole new light. It made me realize that the vast majority of people are doing the best they can. They may be doing it in a way that makes us tear our hair out, but in that moment, cupped in their hands is the best of what they have to offer.
Your homework today is to remember that you don’t really know what kinds of loss and devastation—real AND imagined—that other people, especially your Prickly Pears, are dealing with. In spite of what they’re coping with, they are still trying to be helpful and valuable.
It helps to mentally step back from the situation with them and become an observer. You’ll soon see that they are vulnerable and fragile, just like you.
Perhaps thinking this way can help you reduce, and even eliminate, the frustration you may feel when dealing with them.
Your homework today is to enjoy the springtime day (or autumn day if you are in the southern hemisphere) and keep your eyes open for what it has to teach you; there are lessons to be learned.
For instance, observe how the shoots of flowers push through the dirt in spite of flurries and cold temperatures. This teaches us a number of things: that beauty surrounds us, even in unlikely situations, and that there are gifts and goodness in all circumstances.
Most of all, the flowers growing in spite of the weather shows us that cold, dark, miserable days don’t last. One day they end and the good stuff—flowers, sunshine, warmth—takes over!
“Do not wait: the time will never be ‘just right’. Start where you stand, and work whatever tools you may have at your command and better tools will be found as you go along.”
Your homework today is to start now. Take a step.
If the step is too big or too overwhelming, then break it into small parts and little pieces. Break those into tiny bits. If that’s still too big or too overwhelming then break those into fragments, morsels, crumbs, and tidbits.
Keep breaking down the step into smaller and smaller pieces until you get to tiny specks that you know are easy to do. Then do them!