“Go where you are celebrated – not merely tolerated. If they can’t see the real value of you, it’s time for a new start.” – Unknown
When you stop and think about it, it’s silly to hang around people who don’t celebrate you—people who make you feel bad about yourself. You’re wasting your time and talents on people who don’t really care about you. It’s obvious that you should avoid these people, or at least limit your contact with them.
Less obvious are the people who are more subtle. While they don’t exactly make you feel bad about yourself, they don’t really make you feel terrific either. Perhaps they don’t pay attention to you or they don’t make an effort to spend time with you or they don’t try to understand you and what’s important to you. Maybe they are always late every time you get together or you’re the one that has to turn your schedule into a pretzel in order to meet with them. And, when you are together, perhaps you have to compete with them texting on their phone.
You and your life are more valuable than this person is—or these people are—giving you credit for. Don’t be afraid to move these people out of your life. As you keep taking steps toward your dreams, you will meet people who are more compatible with you. You’ll be much happier hanging out with people who share your interests—they’ll be better able to appreciate you!
Your homework is to increase the time you hang out with people who genuinely like you, appreciate you, and want to be with you. The more you do this, the less time you’ll have for the people who only tolerate you. This will increase your confidence, self-esteem, and your overall satisfaction with your life.
Give it a try!
You can do it!
I’m so proud of you!
Your Friend and Pep Pal,