Have you ever tossed and turned all night because your anxious thoughts wouldn’t let you relax enough to sleep? Or perhaps you did get a little bit of sleep but then in the morning did you find that you had a huge knot of anxiety in your stomach? Was it nearly impossible for you to get out of bed?
Did you then worry that you’d get nothing done that day even though your To Do list was long enough to wrap around the world a couple of times?
Yeah. I’ve felt this way, too.
What I’ve learned is that the most important thing to do is to be very gentle with yourself.
This is NOT the same as letting yourself off the hook!
Just because you’re anxious does not mean that you have permission to slack off or that you get a free pass on taking steps or bits of steps toward your dreams.
Not at all.
Still take tiny bits of steps toward your dreams!
Adopt the same attitude as you do at work when you and your team come across a problem: everything does not come to a screeching halt. You may pause and take a little time to regroup, do some brainstorming and come up with a plan, but you don’t stop dead in your tracks. And, the Big Boss knows that production is going to be affected while the problem is rectified. That means she/he doesn’t expect everyone to get the same amount of work done as they usually do when everything is running up to speed.
This can be applied on a day when you’re feeling anxious.
Back off on the high expectations you have for yourself. Accept that your productivity, focus, and creativity are going to be off—lower than what they normally are.
And know that it’s okay.
You aren’t a machine or a robot!
The important thing is to be gentle and softly challenge yourself to take action in spite of your anxiety.
Understand that the steps, and the bits and pieces of steps, that are normally the perfect size and fit for you are probably going to seem too big and too much for you to handle when you’re anxious. If that’s the case, then break them down further. Break them into pieces that are so small and tiny that you’ll need an electron microscope to see them! 🙂
Be gentle and kind to yourself and, in spite of your anxiety, take a tiny, itsy-bitsy step toward your dreams.
Your homework today is to keep moving forward, even if you’re trembling and your stomach is all knotted up. You’ll find that as you get busy and do what you can to move forward, you’ll start gaining control of your anxiety. Its grip that seems to squeeze the breath out of you will loosen.
And that’s a cause for celebration!
Even if it loosens just a tiny bit of a smidgen, that’s fantastic! It’s that much looser than it was before you took action. That in itself is forward progress!
Yay you! Celebrate yourself and how you took action in spite of your anxiety!
I knew you could do it!
I’m so proud of you!
Your Friend and Pep Pal,