Choose Your Crowd Wisely



You have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince. ~ Unknown


Yesterday we talked about how you can’t follow the crowd if you want to achieve your dreams and your destiny (click here to be taken to yesterday’s post).

So, observe the people around you, especially those you come into contact with regularly. People such as your co-workers, neighbors, family members, friends, people in your church and community groups, people who participate in the same activities and hobbies that you do; also, people in any educational opportunities you pursue.

Equally important are the people you see on TV in news programs, documentaries, entertainment TV; movies, videos, and games; programs you listen to on the radio; podcasts on the Internet plus websites, blogs, and social media sites. Then there’s books, magazines, and the like….

Yes, crowds of people are all around us.

The crowd’s influence is subtle and pervasive and it’s crucially important to be aware of who you’re hanging out with, what you’re seeing and hearing, and whether it’s supporting and encouraging you to go for your dreams or if it’s discouraging you and making you feel that it’s a foolish fantasy to think you can achieve your dreams.


Yes, you may have to walk away from some friends that you’ve had for years—and even some family members. You’ll know who these people are because they’re the ones who barely tolerate you, make you feel dumb or silly for who you are and the dreams you’re striving for.

Yes, you may have to be alone as you search out like-minded, encouraging, and supportive people; people who celebrate you, believe in you, and remind you of your talents, gifts, and successes—especially when the going is tough for you and you’re feeling down.

But it’s worth it to put up with this phase that may be uncomfortable. It’s worth it because this is your quality of life we’re talking about!

Your homework today is to gently, discreetly, and respectfully begin limiting your contact with those people who do not celebrate you, and eventually move them out of your life. Then, make it a point to get out there and meet new people; make sure you talk to them!

This process of moving the old crowd out of your life and bringing in a new crowd can be intimidating and overwhelming. Remember to break the project into steps and then break those steps into small parts, little pieces, and tiny bits. Break the tiny bits into smaller and smaller increments until you come to the itsy-bitsy jots and specks that are comfortable for you. Then do them!

You can do it because you, your dreams, and your life is way worth it!

I’m so proud of you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,



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