Choose Your Crowd Wisely



You have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince. ~ Unknown


Yesterday we talked about how you can’t follow the crowd if you want to achieve your dreams and your destiny (click here to be taken to yesterday’s post).

So, observe the people around you, especially those you come into contact with regularly. People such as your co-workers, neighbors, family members, friends, people in your church and community groups, people who participate in the same activities and hobbies that you do; also, people in any educational opportunities you pursue.

Equally important are the people you see on TV in news programs, documentaries, entertainment TV; movies, videos, and games; programs you listen to on the radio; podcasts on the Internet plus websites, blogs, and social media sites. Then there’s books, magazines, and the like….

Yes, crowds of people are all around us.

The crowd’s influence is subtle and pervasive and it’s crucially important to be aware of who you’re hanging out with, what you’re seeing and hearing, and whether it’s supporting and encouraging you to go for your dreams or if it’s discouraging you and making you feel that it’s a foolish fantasy to think you can achieve your dreams.


Yes, you may have to walk away from some friends that you’ve had for years—and even some family members. You’ll know who these people are because they’re the ones who barely tolerate you, make you feel dumb or silly for who you are and the dreams you’re striving for.

Yes, you may have to be alone as you search out like-minded, encouraging, and supportive people; people who celebrate you, believe in you, and remind you of your talents, gifts, and successes—especially when the going is tough for you and you’re feeling down.

But it’s worth it to put up with this phase that may be uncomfortable. It’s worth it because this is your quality of life we’re talking about!

Your homework today is to gently, discreetly, and respectfully begin limiting your contact with those people who do not celebrate you, and eventually move them out of your life. Then, make it a point to get out there and meet new people; make sure you talk to them!

This process of moving the old crowd out of your life and bringing in a new crowd can be intimidating and overwhelming. Remember to break the project into steps and then break those steps into small parts, little pieces, and tiny bits. Break the tiny bits into smaller and smaller increments until you come to the itsy-bitsy jots and specks that are comfortable for you. Then do them!

You can do it because you, your dreams, and your life is way worth it!

I’m so proud of you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,


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There are a lot of people in the world, more than 7 billion people so far and this makes for a lot of crowds. The world can be a very big, confusing, and scary place. On the surface, it seems like a good idea to follow the crowd. We think that if so many people are doing it (whatever “it” may be) then it must be a good idea. We notice that some famous or important, or powerful people are also following the crowd—perhaps leading the crowd—so it really must be a good thing.

But have you ever stopped to objectively look at who—or what—you are following? Have you asked—and answered—“where everyone is going?” Have you thought through to the possible outcomes of where they’re leading—and where you’re following to? Have you asked yourself if this is how you want to think, how you want to behave, and who you want to become?

If you want to achieve your dreams, you cannot follow the crowd. 

Even if you’re pursuing your dreams and found a group of like-minded people who are positive, encouraging, and are pursuing their dreams, you still have to walk your own path within that group. Your distinctive gifts and talents, along with your destiny, demand it.

Your homework is to take the next step—especially the ones that you haven’t been taking because of the crowd.

To make it less intimidating to take the next step, break it into small, teensy bits and specks. Then do them!

You can do it!

I’m so proud of you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,



Set the Tone for the Week


Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary. – Steve Jobs

Your homework is to use today’s quote to set the tone for the upcoming week. Forget about what other people think, what they want or value. Tune into your heart and soul and the Still Small Voice within. Listen to their counsel, follow their advice, go in the direction they’re pointing. Each day, take a little bit of a step along the path to your dreams.

You can do it!

I’m so proud of you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,


Review Your Week: Moments of Silence – Recap


This week we’ve talked about Moments of Silence and how they benefit us and how we can bring more of them into our lives (click here to be taken to the first post, then clicking here will take you to the second post, and clicking here will take you to the third post).

Who – who should practice these moments of silence? Everyone! Especially if you’re feeling overwhelmed, anxious, frustrated, confused.

What – Moments of silence are just that: pausing a moment or for longer if you can manage it. And you can overlay moments of silence on situations and tasks that don’t require you to be actively involved. For instance as you wash dishes or mow the lawn. Also, when you’re with family and friends, you don’t have to actively participate. You can sit back and let the conversation flow around you while you sit in a cocoon of silence.

When – Try to incorporate as many moments as possible but have at least one moment of silence each day.   It’d be great to wake up a few minutes early each day and start the day with silence. Then, as part of your nighttime ritual, incorporate a moment of silence before going to bed.

Where – It’s great to have a private space for your moments such as your own room or a secluded nook outside in your yard. But if that isn’t possible, remember that you can always use the bathroom!  🙂

Why – Moments of silence give you an opportunity to take a breath, clear your mind, pause, press the reset button. Moments of Silence also give you an opportunity to think: to notice whether or not you’re headed in the direction you want to go; whether or not things are going well and what you’re going to do about that; how you can improve and take things to the next level.

How – slow down, letting go of the tension in your muscles, taking slow deep breaths, quieting your mind. Visualize a calming scene or remember a time when you were relaxed, happy, and felt good about yourself and life. Let the feelings expand within you.

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Copyright 2015 Artisans Workshop Designs

Your homework today is to look back over this past week and note where there where little nooks and crannies of time that you could have used for moments of silence. Look at your upcoming week and see if you can find additional pockets of time for a moment of silence. Can you create any by delegating tasks and saying “no” to taking on projects?

As you’re doing the review, acknowledge the victories and successes you had. It’s quite fine if these are small and humble—they all add up! Remember to applaud yourself for the small moments of time that you did fit into your days.

Yay you! You’ve done well!

I’m so proud of you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,


Quotes to Help You Be Successful


Don’t worry about failures, worry about the chances you miss when you don’t even try. – Jack Canfield


Nobody ever wrote down a plan to be broke, fat, lazy, or stupid. Those things are what happen when you don’t have a plan.Larry Wingett


Life has two rules: #1 Never quit; #2 Always remember rule # 1.  – Unknown

Your homework today is to take the next step. Remember to break steps down into teeny tiny bits that fit comfortably into your busy day. Create space to then do them—just like you created space in your day for a moment of silence!

You can do it!

I’m so proud of you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,


Moments of Silence – Where?!


As a follow up to Monday’s post of Moments of Silence (click here to be taken to it) and yesterday’s post of Moments of Silence – How?! (click here to be taken to it), where are you going to do this Moments of Silence thing?!

What if you have no place to practice these moments of silence?!

What if at work you don’t have the benefit of being able to close your office door? What if you don’t even have a cubicle—you work in a big room with several others? And, what if you go home to a small living space that you share with your family or your roommates?

There seems to be no private space anywhere for you!

No worries!

If you can’t step outside for a moment at work (US federal law allows for two 10 minute breaks per 8 hour work day) or if at home there’s no somewhat secluded or quiet space outside, then I have a suggestion of a private place that has worked for me in the past: the bathroom!

This was the perfect solution for me several years ago when I was going through a rough patch and, periodically during the day, I needed space and time to catch my breath and clear my head. I got the idea to take a bathroom break and use it as a peace-of-mind rest. I never once had anyone not allow me a bathroom break or grill me about taking one. And no one ever followed me in, cluelessly yakking at me a mile a minute!  🙂

Granted, you can’t be going to the bathroom every 5 seconds and you can’t stay there for hours on end, but it can be just the space you need so you can press the “pause” and “reset” button for yourself.

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Copyright 2014 Artisans Workshop Designs

Your homework today is to find a space for yourself where you can take quiet moments during your day, both at home and at work. Remember that you can always use the bathroom for this!  🙂

You can do it! You can find quiet moments and spaces in your day!

I’m so proud of you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,


Moments of Silence – How?!

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Perhaps, when reading yesterday’s post on Moments of Silence (click here to be taken to it) you may have thought: what if I don’t have the time for moments of silence?

First of all, if you’re saying that then it’s abundantly and incredibly clear that you are in desperate need of moments of silence!!

But if you find yourself in that situation, and you’ve looked through your schedule and there doesn’t seem to be any bit of give, there is still hope–no worries!

You’re homework today is to read through the following suggestions and choose at least one and use it. They are small and easily folded into your busy day.

One suggestion is to choose a word that’s calming or soothing such as “peace” or “tranquil” or “serene” or “be still”. If one of these doesn’t work for you, then take out your thesaurus and choose one that does. Repeat it as often as possible to yourself throughout your day.

Or if you’re more visually oriented then choose an image that’s calming such as the mirror-like surface of a lake or pond, a field of wildflowers, or the glow from candles or a fireplace. Return to this image as often as you need to throughout your day.

Another suggestion is to slow down—stop all the rushing and scurrying to and fro! Remind yourself there is plenty of time to do the important things. Find the pace that is natural to you.

To help yourself slow down, be present in the moment. Experience as you do the tasks and projects you’re involved in at that moment. For instance, if you’re driving, listen to the sound of the directional blinker when you use it; feel the pressure of your foot on the accelerator or the brake; see the road—really see it: the color, texture, width, whether it’s curvy or straight, etc..

Another idea is to incorporate moments of silence into the tasks at hand, especially the ones that don’t require a lot of concentration.  The first step, though, is to eliminate as many distractions as possible: turn off your cell phone, turn off the TV, radio, Internet, etc.. Then as you’re working—whether at your job or at home—let the silence seep in. Tasks that are perfect for this are things such as filing paperwork, washing dishes, cleaning, mowing the lawn, and weeding.

You are creative and inventive! I’m sure you can think of other ways to incorporate moments of silence into your busy day.

Let the silence seep into the nooks and crannies of your life!

You can do it, I know you can!

I’m so proud of you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,



Moments of Silence



A moment of silence is an opportunity to press the reset button for yourself.

We are all so busy with jobs, bosses, co-workers, kids, spouses, pets, bills, home and car repairs, volunteering, friends, family, hobbies, interests, and other life enrichment activities. We’re running here then dashing there. We’re pulled this way and then we’re pushed that way.


When your day feels like it’s spiraling out of control, moments of silence can help you take a breath, remember who and where you are (ha!) and what the heck you’re trying to accomplish, and then the silence gives you space to re-formulate your plan and pull at least a little victory (or two!) out of the day.

Periodic silence means definitely turning off the TV, your cell phone, radio, music players, Internet, and other distractive things (sometimes even soothing music—meaning classical, spiritual, Zen, relaxation, ambient nature sounds, and the like—can be too much and you find you need total silence). Then sit quietly and take slow, deep inhalations and then gradually and completely exhale, letting tension in your body and your mind flow out on the exhalations. It’s fine to close your eyes as you do this.

It’s vitally important to make and take these moments of silence.

They’re helpful for the small breaths of time that they give you and the little bits of space in your day.  Space to breathe. Space to let all the worries and cares and tensions and agita of the day fall away from you, even for only just a moment.

The most important and beneficial thing that moments of silence do for you is they give you the opportunity to think.  With all the rush and hubbub in our lives, we generally don’t take the time to think—critical thinking as well as just letting your thoughts wander where they will. Time for thinking is incredibly important for achieving your dreams and for living a fulfilling life.,_New_Hampshire,_1905.JPG,_New_Hampshire,_1905.JPG

Your homework today is to turn off all the distractions and find a quiet place. Take a breath, let the tensions, worries, and cares go on the exhale.


Let the silence in.

You can do it!

I’m so proud of you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,


Quotes to Fire Up Your Persistence



It is not enough to begin; continuance is necessary. Success depends upon staying power. The reason for failure in most cases is lack of perseverance. ~ Miller


Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time. ~ Thomas A. Edison


Most people never run far enough on their first wind to find out they’ve got a second. ~ William James


All of us have bad luck and good luck. The man who persists through the bad luck – who keeps right on going – is the man who is there when the good luck comes – and is ready to receive it. ~ Robert Collier


Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up. – Thomas Edison


If you are going through hell, keep going. ~ Winston Churchill

Your homework today is to earmark time in your upcoming week where you can take the next step.

We’re all busy and our time is over-committed. With that in mind, make sure you break the steps into teensy-tiny, itsy-bitsy pieces that are so small that they can easily fit into the little smidgens of free time in your schedule. Then do those bits and smidgens!

You can do it!

I’m so proud of you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,


Git ‘Er Done!




When Duty comes a-knocking at your gate,

Welcome him in, for if you bid him wait,

He will depart only to come once more

And bring seven other duties to your door.

~Edwin Markham.


As today’s poem points out, it’s never easier or more convenient to put something off until later. The best time to do a task is right when it appears. If you do decide to put it off, you can be sure the task will become more involved, more complicated, and perhaps even harder to do.

Take a page out of Larry the Cable Guy’s book and git ‘er done!

Today’s homework is to take a look at the tasks and projects you’ve been putting off, telling yourself that it’ll be easier or more convenient, or just better if you put it off until later. Choose one of these tasks or projects and break it into the tiniest increments possible—pieces so small that you are incredibly confident that you can easily do them. Then do them!

Go for it!

You can do it!

I’m so proud of you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,