Review Your Week: The Crowds in Your Mind

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We’ll finish out this week’s subject of crowds by turning our attention to the crowd we have in our minds (click here for Monday’s post, click here for Tueday’s post, click here for Wednesday’s post, and click here for yesterday’s post).

You can’t be successful and reach your dreams if your head is filled with what you’re doing wrong, the problems you are facing, and your doubts about it ever working out for you. You don’t help yourself move forward by thinking that your efforts don’t matter or that if your idea was such a good one then someone better than you would have already done it.

These thoughts are not good for you and not helpful in moving you forward. And they certainly don’t make you feel good about yourself, glad to be who you are, and excited about your future!

With all this chatter and noise ricocheting around in your mind, no wonder you’re confused, anxious, and frustrated. No wonder that you can’t hear the Still Small Voice! And it isn’t a mystery why you aren’t feeling the nudges your heart gives toward a certain direction or that you aren’t picking up the hunches and prods of intuition from your soul.

The negative thoughts and its constant babbling MUST STOP! You MUST fill your mind with ALL of your successes!

Ugh.

So, what’s a person supposed to do—especially if that person doesn’t feel very successful yet.

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Make note of all your successes each day as well as successes that you’ve had in the past. Start with the small stuff that you do every day without realizing it such as you got out of bed (there are many people who never make it this far in their day!), you got dressed (there are people who can’t manage this consistently!).

Think about how you managed to eat something today (I hope it was nutritious!). Not only that but you were able to figure out how to earn enough money so that you could go to the store and select good food. Then you figured out how to prepare it so that you enjoyed eating it.

I know it seems very silly to break down your successes this detailed—but then again, that’s the negative chatterbox in your mind that’s scoffing at you and making you feel foolish!!

People who are truly supportive and encouraging—including the supportive and encouraging thoughts in your mind—won’t laugh at you for being this detailed. Instead, they’ll cheer you on. They know that you need to overwhelm your mind with how successful you already are in order for you to go on to more and bigger success!

Let me repeat that.

People and thoughts that are truly supportive and encouraging will cheer you on as you help yourself by detailing every teensy-tiny, seemingly insignificant, success because they know that acknowledging successes is the key to rocketing yourself to more and bigger success.

 

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Your homework today is to review your week and list all of your successes, especially the itsy-bitsy “trivial” ones. Then, when that negative chatterbox starts up in your mind, overwhelm it by listing all the successes you’ve already achieved.

Keep doing this! Soon that chatterbox won’t be so easy to hear!

Then, with your list of successes in hand, CELEBRATE!

Applaud yourself for the things you do to provide a good life for yourself. Pat yourself on the back for showing up day in and day out. Congratulate yourself for the small bits and pieces of steps that you’ve accomplished.

You did well! I knew you could!

I’m so proud of you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

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Crowd Yourself with Evidence of Your Success

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All week long we’ve been talking about crowds (click here for Monday’s post, click here for Tuesday’s post, and click here for yesterday’s post).

Do you know that the crowds surrounding you aren’t just people? The evidence of your success—or the evidence of your mediocrity or failure—is also a crowd that surrounds you.

Your home. Is it cluttered, chaotic, and dirty?

It doesn’t have to be a mansion in order for you to take care of it. You can keep it neat and tidy AS IF it were the mansion of your dreams. Keeping an orderly living space is evidence of your success.

The way you dress and carry yourself. Are your clothes soiled and wrinkled? Do you slouch and shuffle your feet when you walk?

You don’t have to dress in the latest fashions or spend a bundle on your wardrobe. All you have to do is wear clean clothing that’s neat and in good repair. As for your posture, stand straight and tall with your shoulders back so that you can look people right in the eye!

Your work space. Is your desk piled high with slips of paper, old coffee cups, and yesterday’s lunch leftovers?

Keep everything orderly and organized so you can put your best professional foot forward and do your best work. Not only will your boss appreciate it but you’ll feel better about yourself, too.

What you let into your mind rent-free. Are you mindful of what you’re watching on TV, listening to on the radio, viewing on the Internet? Are you watching those ridiculous reality shows or the doom-and-gloom news programs?

You’ve heard the saying “Silence is golden”. Turn off all electronics so that you can hear the Still Small Voice within you. Your mind will clear and you’ll get incredible insights from your heart and soul.

All of this is evidence of your success!

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Your homework today is to take a very close look at everything that’s surrounding you—not just the people. What is it saying to you? Is it telling you that you’re on your way and that you can do it?   Or is everything telling you that you’re all washed up and there’s no hope for you?

Just like the unhelpful people in your life, get rid of the things that are kicking your legs out from under you and then holding you down! They aren’t doing you any good; you don’t need them!

Get rid of them!

You can do it!

I’m so proud of you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Most People Want to Help, Be Respectful

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We’ve been talking this week about crowds: click here for Monday’s post and click here for yesterday’s post

One thing to remember is that even people who are not right for you (the ones you are limiting your contact with and will eventually move them out of your life), even those people are trying to be helpful. They may be going about it in a way that is not helpful to you but, for the most part, they want to help you.

This doesn’t mean that you can’t ever move them out of your life; be compassionate as you do so. There’s no need to hurt their feelings or make them feel foolish, stupid, or worthless.

It’s the rare person who is mean and nasty through-and-through and who takes perverse pleasure in your failures, especially if they get to push you into crashing and burning. It’s the unusual person who willfully chooses to be cruel, unhelpful, and to block you from your good.

Most people don’t get up in the morning, rubbing their hands with glee, saying how they can’t wait to get going on the day so they can ruin it for everyone—especially you!

Most people are just like you: they have good days and bad ones; they want to lead a better life but they’re frightened, overwhelmed, frustrated, over-worked. Most people want to make a positive difference in others’ lives—they want to matter and be valued. But they aren’t sure how to do that so…they do the best they can, hoping that they get it right.

Their intent is to alert you to problems they’ve had and mistakes they’ve made so you avoid the pitfalls they stumbled into. And they want to inspire you to keep going when it’s tough and encourage you to get up when you’ve fallen.

Be thankful for the intent of their help (even though in actuality their help isn’t very helpful!) and graciously, courteously, send them on their way with your best wishes.

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Your homework today is to note which people aren’t as helpful as they may want to be. Before politely showing them the door, is it possible to have a conversation with them and let them know how they can be helpful to you? Perhaps all they need is a little direction and training!

Most of all, remember your manners when dealing with others and be courteous, polite, and respectful!

You can do it!

I’m so proud of you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Choose Your Crowd Wisely

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You have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince. ~ Unknown

 

Yesterday we talked about how you can’t follow the crowd if you want to achieve your dreams and your destiny (click here to be taken to yesterday’s post).

So, observe the people around you, especially those you come into contact with regularly. People such as your co-workers, neighbors, family members, friends, people in your church and community groups, people who participate in the same activities and hobbies that you do; also, people in any educational opportunities you pursue.

Equally important are the people you see on TV in news programs, documentaries, entertainment TV; movies, videos, and games; programs you listen to on the radio; podcasts on the Internet plus websites, blogs, and social media sites. Then there’s books, magazines, and the like….

Yes, crowds of people are all around us.

The crowd’s influence is subtle and pervasive and it’s crucially important to be aware of who you’re hanging out with, what you’re seeing and hearing, and whether it’s supporting and encouraging you to go for your dreams or if it’s discouraging you and making you feel that it’s a foolish fantasy to think you can achieve your dreams.

MAKE IT YOUR TOP PRIORITY TO CHOOSE YOUR CROWD WISELY!!!

Yes, you may have to walk away from some friends that you’ve had for years—and even some family members. You’ll know who these people are because they’re the ones who barely tolerate you, make you feel dumb or silly for who you are and the dreams you’re striving for.

Yes, you may have to be alone as you search out like-minded, encouraging, and supportive people; people who celebrate you, believe in you, and remind you of your talents, gifts, and successes—especially when the going is tough for you and you’re feeling down.

But it’s worth it to put up with this phase that may be uncomfortable. It’s worth it because this is your quality of life we’re talking about!

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Your homework today is to gently, discreetly, and respectfully begin limiting your contact with those people who do not celebrate you, and eventually move them out of your life. Then, make it a point to get out there and meet new people; make sure you talk to them!

This process of moving the old crowd out of your life and bringing in a new crowd can be intimidating and overwhelming. Remember to break the project into steps and then break those steps into small parts, little pieces, and tiny bits. Break the tiny bits into smaller and smaller increments until you come to the itsy-bitsy jots and specks that are comfortable for you. Then do them!

You can do it because you, your dreams, and your life is way worth it!

I’m so proud of you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Following the Crowd

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There are a lot of people in the world, more than 7 billion people so far and this makes for a lot of crowds. The world can be a very big, confusing, and scary place. On the surface, it seems like a good idea to follow the crowd. We think that if so many people are doing it (whatever “it” may be) then it must be a good idea. We notice that some famous or important, or powerful people are also following the crowd—perhaps leading the crowd—so it really must be a good thing.

But have you ever stopped to objectively look at who—or what—you are following? Have you asked—and answered—“where everyone is going?” Have you thought through to the possible outcomes of where they’re leading—and where you’re following to? Have you asked yourself if this is how you want to think, how you want to behave, and who you want to become?

If you want to achieve your dreams, you cannot follow the crowd. 

Even if you’re pursuing your dreams and found a group of like-minded people who are positive, encouraging, and are pursuing their dreams, you still have to walk your own path within that group. Your distinctive gifts and talents, along with your destiny, demand it.

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Your homework is to take the next step—especially the ones that you haven’t been taking because of the crowd.

To make it less intimidating to take the next step, break it into small, teensy bits and specks. Then do them!

You can do it!

I’m so proud of you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

 

Set the Tone for the Week

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Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary. – Steve Jobs

 

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Your homework is to use today’s quote to set the tone for the upcoming week. Forget about what other people think, what they want or value. Tune into your heart and soul and the Still Small Voice within. Listen to their counsel, follow their advice, go in the direction they’re pointing. Each day, take a little bit of a step along the path to your dreams.

You can do it!

I’m so proud of you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Review Your Week: Moments of Silence – Recap

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This week we’ve talked about Moments of Silence and how they benefit us and how we can bring more of them into our lives (click here to be taken to the first post, then clicking here will take you to the second post, and clicking here will take you to the third post).

Who – who should practice these moments of silence? Everyone! Especially if you’re feeling overwhelmed, anxious, frustrated, confused.

What – Moments of silence are just that: pausing a moment or for longer if you can manage it. And you can overlay moments of silence on situations and tasks that don’t require you to be actively involved. For instance as you wash dishes or mow the lawn. Also, when you’re with family and friends, you don’t have to actively participate. You can sit back and let the conversation flow around you while you sit in a cocoon of silence.

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When – Try to incorporate as many moments as possible but have at least one moment of silence each day.   It’d be great to wake up a few minutes early each day and start the day with silence. Then, as part of your nighttime ritual, incorporate a moment of silence before going to bed.

Where – It’s great to have a private space for your moments such as your own room or a secluded nook outside in your yard. But if that isn’t possible, remember that you can always use the bathroom!  🙂

Why – Moments of silence give you an opportunity to take a breath, clear your mind, pause, press the reset button. Moments of Silence also give you an opportunity to think: to notice whether or not you’re headed in the direction you want to go; whether or not things are going well and what you’re going to do about that; how you can improve and take things to the next level.

How – slow down, letting go of the tension in your muscles, taking slow deep breaths, quieting your mind. Visualize a calming scene or remember a time when you were relaxed, happy, and felt good about yourself and life. Let the feelings expand within you.

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Your homework today is to look back over this past week and note where there where little nooks and crannies of time that you could have used for moments of silence. Look at your upcoming week and see if you can find additional pockets of time for a moment of silence. Can you create any by delegating tasks and saying “no” to taking on projects?

As you’re doing the review, acknowledge the victories and successes you had. It’s quite fine if these are small and humble—they all add up! Remember to applaud yourself for the small moments of time that you did fit into your days.

Yay you! You’ve done well!

I’m so proud of you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren