I was talking to a friend the other day about fear and how to move forward in spite of it. She said some interesting things that I’d like to share with you.
My friend pointed out that fear falls into two categories. The first is the fears we have directly related to true life and death situations. For instance, fears about providing for basic survival needs such as safety and security, having food to eat, the ability to keep warm, having some type of shelter, and staying out of the way of harm.
These are fears that are real and need to be addressed as soon as possible.
The other type of fear is ego based. Examples are thinking that if we fail at something we’ll be embarrassed: “What will the neighbors think?” and “Everyone will laugh.” and “I’ll never be able to look anyone in they eye.” and “How could I hold my head up afterward?”
No one will die with these fears. Our ego may be bruised or thumped around a bit but no one will be harmed!
This got me to thinking….
How many times do we let relatively harmless fears stop us in our tracks? What dreams have you shelved or put on the back burner because you’re afraid you’ll appear foolish if you pursue them? Or you’re afraid of what your family, friends, neighbors, and strangers on the street would think of you and say about you if you failed?
It’s time to pull those dreams off the shelf. Take them off the back burner, put them onto the front burner, and then turn up the gas!
Your homework today is to be very mindful of when you are feeling anxious, worried, or fearful. Evaluate those emotions and determine if they are alerting you to a truly dangerous situation or if it’s just your ego feeling uncomfortable.
Then take action. Break steps into little parts and small pieces. Keep breaking those down until you get to the size that’s comfortable and easy for you to handle. Then do those bits!
Keep taking action! It’s the best antidote to fear!
Also, as you review your week, make sure you applaud the progress you’ve made and celebrate it! It’s important to acknowledge and applaud ALL the progress you’re making no matter how small and how seemingly insignificant.
Celebrating proves to yourself that working toward your goals and dreams has benefits and rewards!
You can do this, I know you can!
I am so very proud of you!
Your Friend and Pep Pal,