You have been criticizing yourself for years, and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.– Louise L. Hay
We think we’re doing a good thing for ourselves when we enumerate our shortcomings, mistakes and failures.
But this does not help us at all!
All it does is keep us stuck and feeling bad. Let’s follow the wisdom of Louise Hay’s quote and try approving of ourselves instead!
Your homework is to keep this quote by Louise Hay with you and refer to it often throughout the week.
Also keep a notebook handy. As you change your thoughts from self-criticism to self-praise, you may notice interesting thoughts and captivating ideas popping into your mind. Keep track of them. These are whisperings and urgings from your heart and soul. Follow them!
As we discussed yesterday (click here to be taken to that post) it’s important to celebrate yourself because it helps you strengthen your resilience, resistance, and your bounce-back-ability.
Celebrating yourself also helps you feel good about who you are, your dreams, and the path you’re taking. All of this helps you feel confident about what you’re doing so you feel secure in taking the next step. And you know how important it is to keep taking steps toward your dreams!
Your homework today is to continue celebrating yourself.
You may notice that as you celebrate yourself ideas, thoughts, and intuitions will pop into your mind. Make note of these. If they seem off the wall, all the better! This is your heart and soul speaking to you and giving you clues about interests and passions you have yet to discover—great fun!
As you review your week, pay close attention to whether or not you’re following through on celebrating yourself. Do you treat yourself to something special or do you “promise” you’ll get to it later, only to find that you never do get around to it?
If you’re like a lot of us, you don’t do so well with following through on applauding yourself.
This has got to stop!
It’s important to acknowledge the little bits of progress, the things in your life that are going well, and the things you’re doing right. When you acknowledge the good you’re doing and pause to celebrate it, you’re keeping the momentum going. And, you’re building resistance to discouragement and frustration as well as strengthening your resilience and your bounce-back-ability.
Your homework today is to make a list of all the things you can do to celebrate you. Make a list of celebrations that might take a lot of time, for instance if you decide to treat yourself to a vacation, that will take several days at least. Also include on your list celebrations that take only a few moments, for instance pausing and letting the good feelings of satisfaction and joy that accompany the achievement infuse your body, mind, and spirit.
Include on your list expensive things, such as that vacation we just talked about. Also include things you can do for free such as reading a good book, spending time with a friend or loved one, or taking a walk in the park.
Write down all sorts of things—and don’t worry about the time it would take or how much it would cost or what the neighbors would think. If it pops into your mind, then pop it onto your list!
Keep your list handy and refer to it often. Follow through with the celebrations you’ve listed. And, you can even treat yourself just because you’re you and you like you! That’s worth celebrating, too!
Remember to follow through on your celebrations of you! Don’t put it off until later!! Do it now!
I’m sure you visited some fascinating places this year.
You may not have gone there in person but perhaps you listened as a friend described their vacation, or maybe you read a book about a faraway land.
And, the exciting place may not have been a physical location at all. Places that take you out of your routine can be as simple as new ways of thinking and new ways of looking at your life. It can be insights and ideas that pop into your mind. Interesting places can be education, learning a new skill, or brushing up an old one. New places in your mind can also be focusing on uplifting thoughts, being curious and following that which captivates your imagination.
When you go to different places in your mind, then your life changes. As your life changes you begin stepping into the life of your dreams.
Your homework today is to take out your notebook and your pen or, if you prefer, your computer or voice-to-text device—whatever works best for you to capture those thoughts and put them down in a place and in a way that they are easily retrievable.
Think about the places that you’ve gone this year—actually physically traveled to as well as the ones you went to in your mind.
Ideas, insights, discoveries; new interests and passions; fascinating facts and surprising yourself with new talents. These all add up, all come together to move you into the life of your dreams.
Keep in mind that you don’t have to go to some exotic locale to have a profound adventure. It could be something as simple as finding a bench in a park that offers you privacy for quiet moments and also allows you to immerse yourself in Nature.
Congratulate yourself on getting out of your comfort zone, especially if you’re thinking new ideas! Applaud yourself for the ways in which you challenge, encourage, and help yourself step out of your comfortable routines and habits.
Think about this and feel good about it for the first few minutes when you wake up in the morning and the last few minutes before you go to sleep at night. Let it sink into your mind, get into your subconscious.
Hold these in your mind throughout the day, especially if you’re feeling a little low or unsure of yourself. Refer to this list and remind yourself that you are doing well, you are making progress; that you are a good person and that you do have value and worth. Remember that your dreams are important.
You’ve heard the saying “no person is an island”. We’re dependent upon one another; we need other people in order to reach our dreams.
We need teachers and mentors, people who point us in the direction of resources and opportunities, and we need people to befriend us, love us, and who believe in us and encourage us to go for our dreams.
Without other people, our lives would be vastly different and we wouldn’t be where we are today.
Your homework today is to think about and send thanks to the people in your life past and present—and even those who have yet to come into your life.
Appreciate the way they helped you: by helping you get up when you stumbled, encouraged you, and believed in you—especially when you didn’t believe in yourself.
Be grateful for the people in your life who make you laugh and the ones who make you feel great about yourself. Remember the people who are patient with you and the people who are glad to see you.
Acknowledge their gifts to you and celebrate how they’ve made your life richer and better, even if it’s only in some small way.
Do this the first few minutes upon waking in the morning and the last few minutes before you fall asleep at night.
Also, during the day, jot down notes and memories of people who have helped you and how they helped. Keep this handy because it’s a listing of people who are your fans. Not only can they be helpful as resources and guides, but the listing can boost your moral when you’re feeling low, reminding you that there are people who care about you and who believe in you!
Life doesn’t have to be perfect in order to be wonderful. ~Unknown
Welcome to December, the last month of 2015!
Often, when people flip the calendar to December, they wonder where all the time went—how did the year go so fast? They may say to their family, friends, and co-workers things like: It should still be summer, right?
Another common practice people do when December arrives to review the year. They think of all the high hopes that had in January and that none of them—or not many, at any rate—came true. They think about all the things they didn’t do and the projects that didn’t pan out. They totally gloss over—or just playing old don’t notice—the achievements and progress that they did make this year.
It’s in this frame of mind—a disheartened, frazzled state of mind—that people then sit down to think about and set their goals for the upcoming year.
No wonder no one likes New Year resolutions, planning, and goal-setting!
We’re going to do something different this year. We’re going to celebrate ourselves all month long and then—only after we’re feeling good about ourselves—we’ll do our resolutions, plans, and goal setting.
Sounds good to me!
Let’s give it a shot—there’s nothing to lose and everything to gain!
Your homework today is to applaud yourself for the small bits of progress that you’ve made—be sure to include the big steps, too! Don’t worry about how small or humble the progress was. It’s all good because it all adds up!
Pat yourself on the back for who you are– for what makes you unique. Remember to give yourself a few pats for your willingness to go for your dreams, the talents you’re discovering and developing, the ways you’re walking the talk.
Make time each day—preferably the first few minutes upon waking in the morning and the last few minutes before dropping off to sleep at night—to celebrate yourself.
Do this every day!
Also, keep today’s quote handy and refer to it often, especially when those tapes start in your mind, the ones that tell you that you have nothing to be proud of or to celebrate.
Here’s today’s quote again: Life doesn’t have to be perfect in order to be wonderful. ~Unknown.
Celebrate the wonderful, imperfect you that you are!