No One and No Thing

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Yesterday we evaluated our progress in January and how we might tweak our schedule and break the steps into smaller pieces so that we can continue our progress toward our dreams (click here to be taken to that post).

This morning I was listening to a guided meditation by Dr. Joe Dispenza. It is part of the audio book version of his book entitled Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself (click here to be taken to his website for more information.  Note: this is NOT an affiliate link. )

During the meditation he said that no one and no thing is worth not being loving to yourself. He said that not being who you truly are is not being loving to yourself; it isn’t being loving to others either.

This got me to thinking (even though I was supposed to be meditating!)….

Following your dreams that are powered by the Still Small Voice and your heart and soul is the best way–perhaps the only way–to be truly loving to yourself.

How many times have we held ourselves back, turned away from what our heart and soul was calling us to do, and plugged our ears to the Still Small Voice inside? We didn’t want to rock the boat, to mark and single ourselves out as different.

When we’re beginning to follow the Still Small Voice we’re unsure if this is the right thing to do, even though our heart and soul are jumping up and down cheering and urging us on. We’re nervous because no one else sees what we see or knows what we know.  We look to the outside and see nothing to support what we See and Know.  We listen to the outside for guidance and hear crickets chirping instead.  That’s because our Vision is showing us a way that no one else can see or understand.  That’s because it’s our destiny, not anyone else’s.

When we try to talk to those close to us about it, they may not be as supportive and encouraging as what we need. That’s when we figure we’re a fluffy fanciful dreamer and we should snap out of it, grow up, and fall in line with everyone else.

Don’t do this!

There is more than one way to do something.

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Your homework is to continue looking back over January, this time through the lens of where and how you held yourself back, how you put the brakes on or slowed down. And be brave enough to acknowledge the times you turned away from yourself in order to fit in or keep the peace.

Think about ways you can still move forward in a way that is not disruptive and fear-producing in others–especially those close to you. This isn’t because you’re knuckling under to pressures.  You’re doing this because you’re giving the people close to you a chance to get used to and understand what you’re doing and where you’re headed.

You are not giving up on yourself by taking it a little slower for a period of time.

Also, be honest with yourself about the times when you, of your own will, turned away from the Still Small Voice. What can you do to help yourself get up the nerve to take the next step?  Can you break the bits and pieces of steps into tiny smidgens?  Do you need to ask a friend to help you keep you on track with taking steps?

And, once again as you review, notice the times when you listened to the Still Small Voice and you followed through on what your heart and soul was urging you to do. Celebrate this–it’s good stuff!  Yay you!

Keep taking steps! Keep moving forward!

You can do it!

I’m so proud of you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Position Yourself for a Great February!

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Yesterday you reviewed your week (click here to view that post). Today, as we near the end of January, let’s start thinking about February.

Your homework is to review January:

Did you get off to a slow start? Are you having trouble getting going? Did you begin the month with enthusiasm and energy only to have it fizzle out as the month wore on?

What are some of the steps you didn’t get done in January that now you’re rolling over into February? Can you identify the reason or reasons you didn’t start or complete them? Were the steps too large, too overwhelming or intimidating? Were you too ambitious with how much you thought you could do or did you think you’d have more time available than you actually did?

Do you need help in completing tasks and projects? Will more education and knowledge help you? Will delegating tasks or partnering with someone help you? Are there items on your To Do list that you should say ‘no’ to and move off your plate?

Use these questions—and others that come to mind—to help you identify and plan how you’ll tweak things so that February will be a great month.

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As always when reviewing, take careful note of all the tasks and projects you have completed and all the progress you are making. Don’t pay attention to the size of the progress—whether it was big and impressive or small and easily overlooked. All sizes, shapes, colors, and forms of progress are FANTASTIC! It all adds up—WooHoo!

Make sure you celebrate your progress. Celebrate you, too, because it’s your dedication, your passion, and your stick-to-it-iveness that made the progress happen!

You’re awesome!

I’m proud of you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Review Your Week: The Dreaded To Do List

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I don’t know about you, but my To Do list is loooooooong—pages and pages of tasks, projects, and things that seem like a really good idea to do that would improve my life. Looking at it—heck, just knowing it’s there!—can be overwhelming and intimidating. It can freeze me more solid than the ice in Antarctica in the middle of its winter.

Part of me tells myself to just get started and the other part replies: I can’t. I just can’t.

When this conversation—or one like it—happens, I know I need to take a moment for myself; I need to press the reset button.

I find a quiet space and have a pencil and paper handy (you can do this with any tools that allows you to record, capture, and retrieve your thoughts). I ask and answer the question: What jobs can I do right now that’ll make the day productive? Then I jot down the tasks that come to mind.

Doing this helps me focus on the here-and-now—it pulls my attention to the important projects that are right in front of me rather than on the overall immensity of my To Do list. It’s enough to get me going again.

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Your homework today, as you review your week, is to think about the times when you were stuck or frozen. How did you get yourself going again—what technique did you use? Make a note of this and store it in a place for easy and quick retrieval. Use this technique when you find yourself faltering—use it to help you keep going.

As always when you review your week, pat yourself on the back for the progress you are making, the ways you keep your spirits up so that you can keep taking steps toward the life of your dreams.

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Yay you! You’ve done well! I knew you could do it!

I’m so happy for you and proud of you—celebrate yourself and your accomplishments!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Do

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I have been impressed with the urgency of doing. Knowing is not enough; we must apply. Being willing is not enough; we must do. —Leonardo da Vinci

 

Today’s quote gives us the secret of success in a nutshell: Do.

 

Doing is:

Reading,

learning,

observing,

listening,

asking questions,

investigating,

discovering,

meeting people,

discussing,

brainstorming,

thinking,

visualizing,

applying what you’ve learned,

helping others,

following the whisperings of your heart and the urgings of your soul,

believing in yourself and things yet unseen and taking the next step,

analyzing and evaluating….

 

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Your homework today is to DO—take the next step! Use the list as a staring point for things that you can DO that will help you move forward—all of these actions are steps and pieces of steps that will help you step into the life of your dreams.

You can do this, I know you can!

Break the steps into little chunks and break those into smaller bits. Keep breaking them down until you get to the itsy-bitsy smidgens that you can do quickly and easily. Then do them!

It’s all good because small incremental movements are just as valuable as a huge leap!

Do it!

You can, I know you can!

I’m so proud of you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Your ‘Why?’: What is It?

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We all have dreams, yet only some of us achieve them while the rest of us console ourselves with excuses that usually revolve around “if only”:  If only I were older/younger; if only I had a college degree; if only I majored in something else; if only I weren’t so fat/thin….

I’ll bet if we looked closely at what we’re telling ourselves we’d uncover at least one ‘if only’.

We accept these inaccurate thoughts as cast-in-concrete truths, and they’re so pervasive and so subtle that we don’t even realize we’re thinking them.  It can take a lot of time and effort to unearth them and then to change them. This is worthwhile work and I encourage you to make time in your schedule to regularly address this through regular contemplation, journaling, meditation, and good old-fashioned thinking things through.

But what do you do in the meantime? You can’t put the world and your life on hold as you figure things out. So, what do you do?

Focus on understanding your ‘why’.

Dig deeper than the initial ‘why’ that pops into your mind. Turn it over. Look at it from inside, outside, sideways, upside down. Delve into it to find the flame at the very center that’s making the whole thing chug along.

Your homework today is to dedicate regular time in your schedule to thinking about and understanding the depth and breadth of your ‘why’.

It’s essential to do this because:

Your ‘why’ will give you the strength and the energy you need to overcome those ‘if only’s’ that you tell yourself.

Your ‘why’ will give you the stamina and fortitude to withstand the doubts that will creep in, especially when you see someone else who is doing something similar to what you’re trying to do and they’re considered the guru, expert, genius.

Your ‘why’ comes packed full of special Vision, Know-How, and Stick-to-Itiveness that you’ll need when the going gets rough.

Make it top priority to know every little detail, every little nook and cranny of your ‘why’.

Then take the next step!

You can do it, I am absolutely convinced of it!

I’m very proud of you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Golden Wisdom: Get Out There; Get In Traffic!

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Happy Birthday, Daddy!

Today would have been my dad’s 89th birthday and in honor of his Special Day, I want to share with you a piece of advice he would give me.

Whenever I would talk to Dad about an idea I had or a problem that was giving me fits, he would always tell me to get into traffic. What he meant was to get out there and see what other people were doing, what ideas they had and what projects they were working on. He said that it would help me clarify the ideas—or problem—I had. He said getting into traffic would help me think in different ways, which could lead to solutions or point out directions to take.

Dad said getting into traffic would enable me to meet new people, give me more to think about, which would lead to additional resources to tap into as well as give me insights.

And, he said getting into traffic would help me feel better about myself and what I was trying to do. I would see that I wasn’t at a dead end, that there were possibilities and opportunities, and that were at least a few people who would be willing to reach out a helping hand.

So, I pass along Dad’s advice to you: Get out there; get into traffic!

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Your homework is to follow Dad’s advice and get into traffic. Take a look around you; how can you get into traffic? Can you join a business organization such as a local networking group for business people? Perhaps it’s taking classes and hanging out afterward to chat with the teacher and some of the other students. Maybe it’s reading books: biographies of successful people or books that are more practical and give you a how-to template to work from.

Important Tip: Make sure you take the time afterward to think about, assimilate, and apply what you have discovered and learned!

Break it down into bite-sized morsels and then “eat” those morsels!

Get out there and get into traffic!

You can do it, I know you can!

I’m so proud of you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

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PS I know Dad is proud of you, too, and he’s cheering you on from Heaven!

Let Go to Grab On

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You have to let go of the life you have planned so as to accept the one that is waiting for us. ~Joseph Campbell

How many times do we hang onto a course of action—repeating it over and over—each time convinced that this time we’ll get the answer and yet we’re surprised to find a dead end waiting for us, even though it’s been there every single time we’ve tried the exact same thing

We don’t realize that it’s in letting go, in being open to possibilities, suspending judgement and silencing the “that won’t work!” inner critic—in short, taking our curiosity out of the mothballs it’stored—that our vision clears and we see the answer that was in front o the whole time

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Your homework today is to take a moment to quiet down—calm your mind and spirit. Gently and without judgement or attaching meaning to things, look at the tasks and projects that fill your days. Are there better ways of doing them? Look behind them, around them (above and below). What’s lurking there waiting for you, perhaps trying to play peek-a-boo with you

Do you see anything interesting?

If so, have a go at it. Tell yourself it’s just for fun. Break it into small pieces and then—just for giggles—do a little piece of it.

How does that feel—was it fun, interesting, intriguing, captivating?

This is all good stuff! See where it leads—afterall, you can always go back to the old way of doing things. First, though, give this new way a chance to show you what it has for you.

You can do it!

I’m proud of you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren