There are times on the journey to your dreams when you have to let go of the need to be with other people, to have the approval of others, to be acknowledged and accepted by others. You have to go it alone.
Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover. ~Mark Twain
Obstacles are those frightful things you see when you take your eyes off your goals. ~Henry Ford
Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all. ~Dale Carnegie
Bravery is the capacity to perform properly when scared half to death. ~Omar N. Bradley
If you could get up the courage to begin, you have the courage to succeed. ~David Viscott
Take the first step in faith. You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step. ~Dr. Martin Luther King
Your homework today is to draw courage from these quotes and then take next step, or part of a step, toward the life of your dreams.
Every time I find the meaning of life, they change it. ~Reinhold Niebuhr
When I first read this quote I thought: Thank goodness I’m not the only one! Even this man renowned for his intellect has trouble figuring out how to make it through the day!
On the surface, this quote seems to be a lighthearted, off-hand quip that’s perfect for our current pop culture.
But then I realized it’s dead serious.
Under the fluff and fun, I recognized that it’s telling us we cannot, under any circumstances, let anyone else tell us what constitutes a meaningful life. For every person we ask, we’ll get a different answer. How can you live a meaningful life if you’re trying to follow billions of thoughts, ideas, and suggestions on what, exactly, makes up a meaningful life?
The best course of action—the only one, actually—is to decide for yourself what YOU find meaningful and what YOU mean by “living a meaningful life”, and then pursue that with all of you heart and soul.
Today’s homework is to take the next meaningful step that will help you move closer to living a life of meaning, 24/7.
No, not the step your family and friends want you to take; not the one your teachers, mentors, or spiritual leaders say you should take; certainly NOT the one the advertisers want you to take!
YOU take the step that YOU have decided will bring YOU to a life full of meaning.
Quantum physicists tell us that an infinite number of potentials (which is another way to describe ideas) are all around us. Most don’t come anywhere near us; many bounce off us. Others eddy and swirl over and through us.
And a few lodge within us.
They’re drawn to us because we have the particular talents, the specific abilities, the precise sense and sensibility that’s needed to manifest them.
But what if you haven’t found Your Ideas yet?
You shift your position. Your idea is out there in the mix of infinite possibilities and you need to angle yourself so you can attract and receive it.
You do this by taking the next logical step—or part of a step. This changes your perspective and you can see possibilities that weren’t visible before. From this new angle—perspective—you’re within a slightly different stream of the overall flow of potentials, ideas, and possibilities.
The next one that lodges in you just might be The One!
Your homework is to TAKE THE NEXT STEP—or part of a step!
As you celebrate your love for your family and friends, also include yourself. Acknowledge all the ways you’re helping yourself move closer to your dreams.
Your homework is to celebrate all forms of love today, especially self-love. Appreciate yourself for the many ways that you help yourself be brave and take the next step. Acknowledge all the things you do to take good care of yourself. Because you are taking care of yourself, you’re better able to inspire and help those people you love and care about.
When you’re feeling low and uncertain about what you’re doing and where you’re going—especially because no one else seems to be putting in time and effort to go for their dreams. You feel silly that you are, because you think
maybe they know something you don’t.
(You’re always the last one to get the memo).
Go over to YouTube and put “X Factor” or “America’s (Britain’s) Got Talent” in the search box.
of the contestants are square pegs that were shoved into round holes.
Listen to their stories and draw strength and encouragement from how they didn’t give up when other’s dismissed them or told them to quit. They kept going, putting one foot in front of the other.
Your homework is to take the next step. Follow the example of the people on America’s Got Talent or The X Factor and put your whole heart and soul into that next step.
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I’ve been thinking a lot about yesterday’s post how life outside the comfort zone can be terrifying, but it can also be exhilarating. I realized that those two emotions are separated by only a thin shaving of an even thinner line.
Designers of roller coaster and other amusement park rides know this fact very well and liberally incorporate it into their designs.
You may be thinking: Well, isn’t that nice. But how the heck does it apply to me and my goal of going for my dreams?!
Here’s how it applies: Notice that when you are on the rides—or if you’ve never been on but only watched from the safety of terra firma (!)—you’ll see that you aren’t always terrified; you’re also exhilarated, sometimes in spite of the terror!
Take, for instance when you’re on a roller coaster: First, you climb in the cart and strap in, feeling excited because you’re not sure what to expect, and nervous because you’re not sure what to expect (yes, I repeated this phrase on purpose). The car you’re in chugs along on a short straightaway, maybe around a corner. Then you start climbing that first, enormous hill.
As you’re going up, you enjoy the sights; perhaps you check your straps to make sure you’re buckled in, and you may even tighten your grip on the bar that’s in front of you. You’re still happy to be on the ride because you’ve heard “It’s amazing!” and you’re excited you’re experiencing it for yourself.
Then you get to the top of the hill.
This is where your excitement turns to apprehension and you—briefly—question your sanity for having gotten on this thing, especially when you look straight ahead and see nothing but air.
So then, foolishly, you look down
and see the bottom is MILES away.
Then you really wonder what the heck were you thinking when you got onto this ride?!
Fear and terror hit you like the heavyweight champions that they are and you pray like you never have before, begging and pleading Someone (anyone!!) that the design and construction engineers got A++’s in all their design engineering classes—and that if they didn’t that somehow, luck was with them when they built this ride….
And then you plummet.
And down some more.
You come out of the dive and swoop up another hill. You rocket down and sling around a sharp corner. Then you realize that although you’re screaming your head off, you’re also laughing! Yes you’re going fast, yes you’re still hanging on for dear life, but you’re also loving the intensity of the experience.
Then you get off and—to your complete surprise—you’re full of energy!
you want to do it again!
Your homework today is to remind yourself that going for your dreams WILL take you outside your comfort zone. Yes, it’ll be terrifying, but it’ll also be exhilarating and energizing.
Keep this in mind as you think through your week and note the times you were feeling fear or terror. As you remember what it felt like, remind yourself that it’s a thin, thin line to step over into exhilaration and that you can take this tiny, tiny step.
Brainstorm some actions you could take as well as what other thoughts you could think that would trigger feelings of energy and excitement rather than fear and terror. Jot these down and keep them handy so that you have a guide for the next time.
Also keep in mind that the terror won’t last—it’s just the downward plunge of the first hill—and soon you’ll be swooping up again and feeling excited.
Most importantly, notice the progress you’ve made this week. Applaud yourself for breaking a big step into smaller ones. Pat yourself on the back for taking the tiny step. Celebrate the fact that you crossed the line out of your comfort zone!
Life outside of the comfort zone…in a word: TERRIFYING!!
Fingernails bitten to the quick…stomach in a knot…difficulty breathing….
Feeling lost and unsure because my usual “cookie-cutter” templates don’t work. And there are no familiar markers or guideposts to navigate by.
I’m positive that I’m going to fly apart and disappear into some sort of abyss.
But I’ve also found that life outside the comfort zone is breathtaking and electrifying.
Because I have no idea where I am and I’m not exactly sure where I’m going, I am fully present in the moment. It’s amazing what interesting things I’ve come across—not only information and resources, but the people I’ve met who are exhilarating, friendly, and generous.
I’ve discovered that I can handle life outside my comfort zone. I can figure it out when I come across unfamiliar territory. And when I’m stumped, I can reach out for help and there will be someone nice who reaches back!
Life outside of the comfort zone is a huge confidence booster!
Give it a try!
Your homework today is to take the next step. Yes, that one that’ll take you out of your comfort zone!
You don’t have to leap or bound out of your comfort zone. It’s fine to take a baby step outside of the boundary. Break the step into tiny pieces until you get to the baby steps that are just the right size for you. Then do them!
Take those baby steps outside of your comfort zone. You can keep your comfort zone within sight and easy reach but challenge yourself to stay outside of it for as long as possible. Then reap the reward of soaring self-confidence!
You can do it! I’m right here with you—no worries!
I’m so proud of you!
Your Friend and Pep Pal,
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Today I’m exhausted and I couldn’t figure out why. I’ve been making sure to eat nutritious food, I’m incorporating more movement and short exercise sessions throughout the day, I’ve been getting enough sleep….
Although I’ve been drinking water throughout each day, I suppose I could bump up the amount—not sure I’m getting the full 8 glasses in! Even so, this shouldn’t account for why I’m so tired.
I decided to sit quietly and ask myself what’s going on, why so tired? After a few moments, I had the thought: the comfort zone.
It occurred to me that lately I’ve been working outside of my comfort zone. I think this tiredness is my emotional self’s way of telling me that it needs time to assimilate and get used to the newness. I think it’s telling me to ease up a bit.
So, here is what I’m going to do today to honor the request of easing up a bit (and what I’ve done so far):
~I’m going to brew a pot of Constant Comment tea (Bigelow brand) and have cups of hot tea, with lemon, throughout the day. I can remember winter evenings as a child when Mom was cooking dinner and Dad was on his way home from work…. Mom would always brew a pot of Constant Comment tea for her and Dad. We kids were young and usually drank milk at dinner. It was a treat when Mom would pour a little bit of tea into our milk.
Maybe instead of lemon, I’ll add milk to my tea for a full “throwback” experience.
I am specifically choosing the tea because it is a throwback experience. The tea invokes a vivid memory of when Mom and Dad were young and strong so I was safe and secure in the world. Connecting with this memory will help me bring those feelings of safety and security into my day today. What sorts of things do you do to comfort yourself?
~As I got ready this morning, I took a few moments to do some mirror work. I smiled at myself in the mirror and said to my emotional self: All is well. We’re doing this together. We’re taking it one step at a time and, in plenty of time, we’ll easily see when there are any upcoming bumps in the road. When we see them, we’ll put our heads together and we’ll come up with a plan—we’re smart gals! And, if we need to, we’ll get help. The ladies at the library are fantastic at helping us find resources. And, recently we’ve met a lot of nice business people who have great information they’re freely sharing. We know we can also search the Internet for resources and information. We’ll figure it out—we have before and we’ll do it again! All is well!
I feel better after I give myself a pep talk! What uplifting statements do you say to yourself?
~My playlist! Today I know I need an extra dose of positivity and uplifting, and listening to good stuff is another way I give myself the boost I need. Today I’ll be listening to Ella Fitzgerald. I love her smooth, mellow voice. I’ll listen to the “Pure Ella” album (the 1954 version) that’s my favorite (right now, at least!). I’ll also listen to different songs that are on YouTube: Peggy Lee’s “It’s a Good Day”, The Planetshakers “Nothing is Impossible”, American Authors “Go Big or Go Home”, American Authors “The Best Day of My Life” American Authors “Pride”, Katy Perry’s “Roar”, Handel’s Messiah….
Yes, I know, a very eclectic mix! All of it is music that makes me feel that everything is okay; it’s all working out; all is well.
What’s your playlist?
Writing this post and telling you about the things I’m doing today has given me a boost! Now I can get busy and have a productive day! I hope you can have one, too!
Your homework today is to jot down the things you can do to give yourself a boost when you’re feeling tired, unsure, or anxious. Feel free to use some of the things I’ve shared here.
This is important homework to do because when you’re in the grip of fear and doubt, it’s easy to say that you’ll give yourself a break and back off for today. So often, though, “today” turns into tomorrow and then the next tomorrow…. Before you know it, you turn around and find that for the past week—or more!—you’ve drifted and lost your momentum. When you first notice anxiety or some other emotion creeping in, with your list handy, it’ll be easier for you to hold steady and keep on course.