Complaining = Remaining

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Happy Smile Day today!

When I was at work the other day, one of my co-workers was complaining about a few of the members on the event planning committee to which she’d been assigned. I didn’t listen too closely because (1) I was busy with my own work and (2) this woman seems to always find something to complain about.  In fact, she’s complained before about these very same people on this very same event planning committee–and she’s done this ever since she was assigned to the committee several years ago!

In the past, a few of us offered support and encouragement with suggestions such as asking for a re-assignment, focusing on the goals of the committee and the event that was being planned, limiting her contact with the members that annoyed her, and the like.

But she has done none of this. Instead she seems to prefer to complain.

Oy!!!

Her constant griping got me to thinking…

…and I had a revelation!

Complaining equals remaining!

All my co-worker is willing to do is to complain, which keeps her stuck in the same place that she finds so disagreeable.

If she were to take action, do something different–and it doesn’t have to be one of the suggestions we, her co-workers, came up with–she might actually improve her situation.

But then, what would she have to complain about?!

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Your homework today is to take a look at all the stuff–from the big to the small–that you habitually complain about.

That which you’re willing to do something about, make an action plan for it and then get busy on it. That which you aren’t willing to take action on, forget about and move on from it.  Focus on the things that you’re willing to change and on the follow-through to change it.

You think you don’t complain? I challenge you to keep a notebook handy–or some type of recording device–and during the day, jot down the things you complain about.  Do this for 30 days.  I’d be very surprised if you were to write to me to say that your notebook was blank!

You’ll probably record things like: it’s just your luck to get in the longest and slowest line at the grocery store; you got stuck in traffic, again; when will your spouse learn the difference between the floor and the laundry hamper; you broke a nail….

That which you can’t or won’t do anything about, let those go and move on. Those things that you can do something about, make a plan and then change it.

But whatever you do, stop complaining!!

You can do it, I know you can!

I’m very proud of you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

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Super Bowl 2016: Go Team Go!

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Enjoy the game—I hope your team wins!

Your homework is to pay attention to what excitement and enthusiasm feels like in your body. Do you feel it like a firework in your stomach? Does it feel like a sparkly glow in your chest?

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What does it feel like and where do you feel it in your body?

Take careful note of this so that when you’re feeling low and you need a burst of energy so that you can take the next step, you’ll know what it feels like and where it feels that way in your body. You can then “fake it until you make it”!

Enjoy the game!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Take the Time to Listen

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I was just sittin’ here enjoyin’ the company. Plants got a lot to say, if you take the time to listen. ~Eeyore

 

Today’s a great day to sit with Mother Nature. She’s healing, nurturing, and grounding. If you need help getting your head on straight, she’s the one to spend time with!

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Your homework is to sit quietly with Mother Nature. Ideally, if you can sit outdoors with her in her element. But, if you can’t. then it’s fine to softly gaze out your window at her splendor. Or, you can gently hold in your mind images of your favorite spot in Nature.

If you have a photograph of you with Mother Nature in a place that resonated with you, then sit quietly with it and remember what it felt like to be there. Hear the sounds, feel the joy within, notice how fresh the air smelled. Imbue that memory with all your senses so that you transport yourself to that place.

Sit with Mother Nature. Let her love you!

You can do it!

I’m so proud of you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Review Your Week: You May Count that Day

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If you sit down at set of sun

And count the acts that you have done,

And, counting, find

One self-denying deed, one word

That eased the heart of him who heard—

One glance most kind,

That fell like sunshine where it went—

Then you may count that day well spent.

 

But if, through all the livelong day,

You’ve cheered no heart, by yea or nay—

If, through it all

You’ve nothing done that you can trace

That brought the sunshine to one face—

No act most small That helped some soul and nothing cost—

Then count that day as worse than lost.

~George Eliot

 

Your homework today is to use George Eliot’s poem as your guide: How often did you reach out a helping hand this week? As she says in this poem, it can be something as simple as a smile given freely to a passerby. You can hold a door open for someone or let someone merge in front of you as your driving in traffic. A small gesture can go a long way.

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The good news is that helping someone makes you feel good about yourself. It lifts your spirits. And in that lift is a burst of energy that you can use to help you take the next step toward your dreams. How cool is that?!

As always when you review your week, celebrate the progress you’ve made this week.

Now you have two things to celebrate: the progress you’ve made and the people you’ve helped.

Yay you! You’re AWESOME!

You have what it takes to celebrate your wonderfulness!

I’m so proud of you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Keep On Keepin’ On – A Poem

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  If the day looks kinder gloomy
  And your chances kinder slim,
  If the situation’s puzzlin’
  And the prospect’s awful grim,
  If perplexities keep pressin’
  Till hope is nearly gone,
  Just bristle up and grit your teeth
  And keep on keepin’ on.

  Frettin’ never wins a fight
  And fumin’ never pays;
  There ain’t no use in broodin’
  In these pessimistic ways;
  Smile just kinder cheerfully
  Though hope is nearly gone,
  And bristle up and grit your teeth
  And keep on keepin’ on.

  There ain’t no use in growlin’
  And grumblin’ all the time,
  When music’s ringin’ everywhere
  And everything’s a rhyme.
  Just keep on smilin’ cheerfully
  If hope is nearly gone,
  And bristle up and grit your teeth
  And keep on keepin’ on.

~Anonymous.

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Your homework today is to take the next step!  Break it into itsy bitsy parts and then teeny tiny pieces.  Then do those pieces!

You can do it!

I’m so proud of you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Busy and Over-Booked

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You say you have a busy, over-booked, schedule and lifestyle and there’s no way you can do something every day toward your dreams.

Well then, get used to NOT having the life of your dreams.

I know that’s harsh, but it’s true.

You WON’T achieve your dreams if you don’t work on them with regular consistent persistence. 

That’s the secret to success.

Consistently, persistently, doggedly, never quitting, and relentlessly taking one step after the other, no matter how large or small the steps and doing this whether you feel like it or not.

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Your homework is to take the next step. Break it into small parts and little pieces.  Break those into tiny bits.  Keep breaking them down until you get to the dots and smidgens that you can do quickly and easily.

Then do them.

One after the other.

No matter what.

You can do it, I know you can!

I’m so proud of you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Set Sail

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To reach a port, we must set sail.  Sail, not lie at anchor.  Sail, not drift.  ~Oliver Wendell Holmes

 

We’re embarking on a Big Adventure this month. Every day we’re preparing ourselves so that we can take a leap toward our dreams on Leap Day, Monday, February 29th.

Woo Hoo!

In order to do that, we must follow the advice of today’s quote: we must set sail, not stay at anchor and not drift, but rather to set sail.

This means we can’t do things the same old way and hope that we get different results;

It means we can’t dilly-dally or procrastinate or drag our feet;

This means that we need to hold steady on our course in spite of other people’s opinions or our own doubts and second-guessings.

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Your homework today is to set sail by taking the next step. Break it down into bits and jots that you can quickly and easily do–and then do them!

You can do it, I believe in you!

I’m proud of you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

PS: Remember: we can stay close to shore if we need to and we can go at a comfortable pace. The point is to be going, to be sailing.