I came across this article on the INC. Magazine website. I thought you’d be curious about Remarkable People’s thoughts, too. Click here for the link to the article 19 Things Remarkable People Think Every Day.
In case you don’t have time to read their short article, here it is in summary:
“There’s a lot more going on here…”
That difficult employee, customer, friend, loved one, etc., isn’t being “that way” just to be a pain. Look below/behind the words or actions to understand what’s really going on.
“That wasn’t nearly as bad as I had imagined”
Usually, our imaginations build up the unknown into something enormous and waaaaaay too hard for us to handle…or so we think. Once we break things down into little bite-sized pieces of babysteps, the unknown isn’t ever as bad or hard as we had imagined.
“No one will do that…so I will”
Do what others are unwilling to do
“I can’t do everything today, but I can take one small step.”
Once again, breaking big steps into small babysteps and breaking those into bite-sized pieces–and then following through on doing those pieces–is the key to moving toward your dreams.
“I need to just shut up”
Like the old adage says: That’s why we have only one mouth but two ears!
“I need their help”
No one knows everything or can do everything and there is no shame in asking for a helping hand–especially if you’re “supposed to be” an expert. From personal experience, it makes me feel great to be able to help someone. If that person is supposed to be more knowledgeable or more skilled than me yet I am able to help them, it doesn’t make me think of them as less than or that they’re an impostor. Instead, I feel privileged to be able to help someone farther down the path than I am. It makes me feel better about myself–that I really do have something valuable and helpful to offer.
“They need my help.”
It’s a privilege and honor to help others when we can.
“It doesn’t matter what others might say”
We shouldn’t let other people’s thoughts/values/judgments stand in the way of what we know to be right and true for our lives.
“That isn’t my responsibility, but I don’t care.”
This is especially important if you’re the Big Boss. Nothing inspires a team/company more–especially when facing a crisis–than having everyone, including the Big Boss, roll up their sleeves and dive in to do what ever needs doing no matter how menial or seemingly trivial.
“I’ll show you!”
Don’t be afraid or intimidated by someone else’s pronouncement of you, your abilities, and your chances of success. Step up to the plate and do what you have to do in order to prove them wrong!
“It isn’t perfect…and that’s okay.”
Of course you want to do the best you can, but sometimes good enough is indeed good enough.
“I think I’ll try it their way.”
Why re-invent the wheel?!
“I’ll step up.”
Saying “yes” and volunteering can sometimes be the shortest and quickest route to success.
“They’re no different from me.”
The old saying is true, even about the most successful and powerful of people: They put their pants on one leg at a time, just like the rest of us.
“I could have done it better.”
Without devolving into a pity party or a self-flagellation session, evaluate your actions–or in-actions!–and keep your eye open for better ways to do things.
“I shouldn’t…but I’ll still say ‘yes’.”
Get out of your comfort zone!
“I could…but I’ll still say ‘no’.”
It’s hard to say ‘no’, especially to a friend or family member. But sometimes ‘no’ is the best way we can help them.
“It isn’t all about me.”
Staying true to yourself is not the same as just being yourself. Staying true is about integrity and honor whereas just being yourself can be immature and annoying.
“If nothing else, I will succeed on effort alone.”
Persistence and effort are key ingredients of success. Sometimes all you have is your ability to out-think, out-believe, out-hustle, and old fashioned out-work everyone else that makes the difference.
Here is the link to the short article to read it for yourself: 19 Things Remarkable People Think Every Day.
I liked all of the thoughts but the first two resonated with me.
“There’s a lot more going on here…”: I’ve found that it’s true that most people are decent and want to be helpful and that they’re part of the solution. When they’re cranky and difficult, there’s usually something going on behind the scenes that I don’t know about. If I take the moment or two to find out what’s really going on, why they’re reacting the way they are, I can then get out of the way by stopping myself from feeling insulted or attacked, and I can focus on the person and try to help where they really need it.
“That wasn’t nearly as bad as I had imagined”: I have an excellent imagination and it’s VERY good at making the unknown seem much bigger, far harder, and just plain old scarier than what it actually turns out to be. I’ve lost count on the number of times I’ve dragged my feet over starting something new only to then say after I’ve started or finished it “Gee, that wasn’t bad at all!” Many times it turns out to be fun!
Which one of these thoughts do you like the best? Which ones are you going to implement? Feel free to share in the comments section below.
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Your Friend and Pep Pal,