~Fuel my body, which includes being more intentional about exercising, eating and getting enough sleep;
~Identify my 3 must-do items for each day;
~Turn off all distractions!
For me, these 4 hacks are going to do more to ground me and keep me centered and focus all day long. And, the end-of-day hack of listing three wins is, for me, critical to show myself that I’m making progress and there are good things happening. This is, and will be, especially important when I hit a rough patch.
Which of the hacks do you think will be most helpful to you? Which ones will you implement today–and every day going forward? Let me know in the comments below!
If you know of a loved one, friend, or colleague who can benefit from this post, please feel free to pass it along to them.
In case you don’t have time to read their short article, here it is in summary:
“There’s a lot more going on here…”
That difficult employee, customer, friend, loved one, etc., isn’t being “that way” just to be a pain. Look below/behind the words or actions to understand what’s really going on.
“That wasn’t nearly as bad as I had imagined”
Usually, our imaginations build up the unknown into something enormous and waaaaaay too hard for us to handle…or so we think. Once we break things down into little bite-sized pieces of babysteps, the unknown isn’t ever as bad or hard as we had imagined.
“No one will do that…so I will”
Do what others are unwilling to do
“I can’t do everything today, but I can take one small step.”
Once again, breaking big steps into small babysteps and breaking those into bite-sized pieces–and then following through on doing those pieces–is the key to moving toward your dreams.
“I need to just shut up”
Like the old adage says: That’s why we have only one mouth but two ears!
“I need their help”
No one knows everything or can do everything and there is no shame in asking for a helping hand–especially if you’re “supposed to be” an expert. From personal experience, it makes me feel great to be able to help someone. If that person is supposed to be more knowledgeable or more skilled than me yet I am able to help them, it doesn’t make me think of them as less than or that they’re an impostor. Instead, I feel privileged to be able to help someone farther down the path than I am. It makes me feel better about myself–that I really do have something valuable and helpful to offer.
“They need my help.”
It’s a privilege and honor to help others when we can.
“It doesn’t matter what others might say”
We shouldn’t let other people’s thoughts/values/judgments stand in the way of what we know to be right and true for our lives.
“That isn’t my responsibility, but I don’t care.”
This is especially important if you’re the Big Boss. Nothing inspires a team/company more–especially when facing a crisis–than having everyone, including the Big Boss, roll up their sleeves and dive in to do what ever needs doing no matter how menial or seemingly trivial.
“I’ll show you!”
Don’t be afraid or intimidated by someone else’s pronouncement of you, your abilities, and your chances of success. Step up to the plate and do what you have to do in order to prove them wrong!
“It isn’t perfect…and that’s okay.”
Of course you want to do the best you can, but sometimes good enough is indeed good enough.
“I think I’ll try it their way.”
Why re-invent the wheel?!
“I’ll step up.”
Saying “yes” and volunteering can sometimes be the shortest and quickest route to success.
“They’re no different from me.”
The old saying is true, even about the most successful and powerful of people: They put their pants on one leg at a time, just like the rest of us.
“I could have done it better.”
Without devolving into a pity party or a self-flagellation session, evaluate your actions–or in-actions!–and keep your eye open for better ways to do things.
“I shouldn’t…but I’ll still say ‘yes’.”
Get out of your comfort zone!
“I could…but I’ll still say ‘no’.”
It’s hard to say ‘no’, especially to a friend or family member. But sometimes ‘no’ is the best way we can help them.
“It isn’t all about me.”
Staying true to yourself is not the same as just being yourself. Staying true is about integrity and honor whereas just being yourself can be immature and annoying.
“If nothing else, I will succeed on effort alone.”
Persistence and effort are key ingredients of success. Sometimes all you have is your ability to out-think, out-believe, out-hustle, and old fashioned out-work everyone else that makes the difference.
I liked all of the thoughts but the first two resonated with me.
“There’s a lot more going on here…”: I’ve found that it’s true that most people are decent and want to be helpful and that they’re part of the solution. When they’re cranky and difficult, there’s usually something going on behind the scenes that I don’t know about. If I take the moment or two to find out what’s really going on, why they’re reacting the way they are, I can then get out of the way by stopping myself from feeling insulted or attacked, and I can focus on the person and try to help where they really need it.
“That wasn’t nearly as bad as I had imagined”: I have an excellent imagination and it’s VERY good at making the unknown seem much bigger, far harder, and just plain old scarier than what it actually turns out to be. I’ve lost count on the number of times I’ve dragged my feet over starting something new only to then say after I’ve started or finished it “Gee, that wasn’t bad at all!” Many times it turns out to be fun!
Which one of these thoughts do you like the best? Which ones are you going to implement? Feel free to share in the comments section below.
Also, please pass this post along to a loved one, friend, or colleague who you think may be helped by it.
Today is the first full day of spring (it officially arrived at 12:30am yesterday).
Where I live, we were greeted with about an inch of frosting-like snow this morning but, as I look out my window now, the warm sun has melted most of it. Also, on my way to work, I noticed the daffodils are coming up and may bloom by the end of the week. I think spring is here to stay!
I was talking to a friend this morning and he reminded me that this time of year we naturally start spring cleaning our homes and yards. He said that we should also do a spring cleaning our thoughts, attitudes, and habits.
I went onto the Internet to search for ideas of how to implement this. They advise cleaning out closets and getting healthy by starting exercise routines and good eating habits. They say to get rid of clutter and some blogs also suggested looking at your relationships and dropping those people that don’t make you feel good about yourself.
Then there are blogs that tell you to organize! Systemize! Prioritize! Categorize!
And, of course, there are blogs and articles that talk about 7 Steps to Start Spring Right! 10 Essential Habits to a Permanently Clean Slate! or 5 Steps to a Fresh Start!
Frankly, it became overwhelming and intimidating. I felt as if I’d have to exercise as I’m eating nutritious foods while getting at least 8 hours of sleep as I declutter my closet and home during the time I’m organizing my work space and tossing people out of my life…. Yikes!!
Here’s what I’m going to do instead:
First of all, I’m keeping my daily meditation practice, no matter what. I meditate in the morning right after I wake. I don’t read emails, I don’t think about my day (at least I try not to!), and I don’t think about what did or didn’t happen yesterday (at least I try not to!). And I also meditate in the evenings right before I go to bed—I am washed up and in my jammies so after I finish meditating, all I do is climb into bed.
I heartily recommend putting aside time at least once each day to do some form of meditation, prayer, contemplation, devotion, rumination. Not only does it put you in touch with your true self, but it also helps you get out of yourself, put space between you and the world, and see that there is Something Bigger Out There.
I’ve found that as I stick to this practice—meditating and then throughout the day remembering to ask myself if what I’m doing is loving to me (something that, during the meditations, Dr. Joe encourages the listener to think about)–I naturally notice what is and is not working in my life. Because it happens almost instinctively, there’s very little struggle to then take appropriate steps to fix what isn’t working as well as to do more of what is working.
Granted, this process can be slower than wholesale tossing stuff out left and right, but in the long run, I find it to be a gentler and more integrated approach. When I let things go, I know it’s because I am totally done with them—there’s no looking back, no wistfully wishing I still had them, and certainly no berating myself for tossing something that I really wanted to keep.
So, my “system” is only two steps: a daily practice of meditating at least once and, as I come across the different things in my life—actions, habits, items, etc.,–then to ask myself if holding onto it is loving to me.
Give it a try and let me know what you think: Is this system helpful? Did you come up with tweaks that makes it work better for you? Do you have a totally different way of spring cleaning your thoughts, habits, and attitudes?
Let me know in the comments section below!
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The distance between insanity and genius is measured only by success. ~Bruce Feirstein
How many times have you not followed where your Vision was leading because you were afraid others might think you’re crazy?
Yeah. We’ve all done this at least once in our lives!
The real trick of today’s quote is realizing that, actually, it doesn’t really matter if people say we’re geniuses or if they say we’re the craziest thing since the dawn of time. It really doesn’t matter because, regardless, we still have to live our lives. We still must achieve our destiny.
Focus on your Vision then take the next, most logical step. Break it into small parts and little pieces if you need to, but keep moving toward your dreams.