The Critical Time of Change



We all do well with change when it’s going our way. It’s easy to make changes and make them stick when the path is clear, straight, and bright.

It’s a totally different story, though, when the dark clouds of trouble roll in. When we have bad days or when we’re frustrated or worried or feeling really glum, that’s when our best, most earnest promises of change can go right out the window.

When we’re pushed, especially when we’re pushed to the limit, it’s precisely at these times that we must insist of ourselves that we stick with the changes we’re trying to make.

Yes, it’s hard–seemingly impossibly hard–to stick with changes when we’re up against it. It can be painful, it can be heartbreaking, and it totally sucks..  It isn’t any easier for people who insist upon gutting it out than it is for people who fail to do so.  But that’s what separates people who make it through hardship from those who are permanently crushed by them.

There is no magic wand. It comes down to guts and grit and muscling it out through the rough patches.

Action Plan: When the going gets rough, dig in and insist to yourself that you hang tough with the changes you’re trying to make.  Even if you backslide, scramble back up and hang tough.  For every moment you hold onto the changes you want to make in your life, you’re that much stronger than your resistance.

You have what it takes to do this, I know you do!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,



Life Goes On

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Copyright 2016 Artisans Workshop Designs



In three words I can sum up everything I’ve learned about life: it goes on. ― Robert Frost


Not much more to add to this quote.

Some days the best you can hope for is that Life does go on so that tomorrow you might have a fresh perspective and another shot at it.

Other days you’re so eager for life to go on because you want to luxuriate in all the sweetness it has to offer.

Life relentlessly goes on. It’s your blessing and your salvation.  Remind yourself as often as you need to so that you can hang on tight when you need to and you can savor and treasure the sweetness when you’re in the thick of it.

Keep taking steps toward your dreams.

Your Friend and Pep Pal,


A Happy Pi Day THANK YOU!


In celebration of Pi Day, please join me in lifting my fork in honor and recognition and in deep gratitude to all those people who have helped. Not only the people who have helped me and you personally, but the people that are willing to help anyone.  They don’t care about color, size, age, creed, or anything else. You’re in trouble, they are there to help.


Your Friend and Pep Pal.


Open Your Hands and Reach for Your Destiny



You can’t reach out and grasp your destiny if you’re reaching back and filling your hands with the baggage of the past. ~T.D. Jakes


This quote nails it so there isn’t much more to say.


In summary:

~Let go of the past. It’s over.  Nothing you can do will change what did or did not happen.

~Turn away and leave your baggage.

~Step into the present with open hands with an eye to the future and reach for your Glorious Destiny.


It’s that simple.

You can do it, I know you can! I believe in you!

You’re AWESOME and I’m so proud of you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,


Happy 95th Birthday Earl Nightingale

I am forever indebted to Earl Nightingale. Through his messages, he helped me pull myself up by the bootstraps one of the first times that Life knocked me flat. I found his gravely voice comforting and it made me feel that things weren’t so bad. His messages gave me hope that there was enough room in the world for me. He taught me that it was my attitude more than anything that would help me work my way through challenges and obstacles.

Even though Earl Nightingale has been gone now for many years, his work is still relevant. He doesn’t talk about the latest gizmos or gadgets, and doesn’t talk about the latest fad business technique. Instead, he talks about a life philosophy that has stood the test of time–millennia, actually. It’s the same message as what the greatest thinkers in human history have been telling us from way, way back in the day.

Earl Nightingale talks about the very same principles that people like Margaret Thatcher, Winston Churchill, Abraham Lincoln, and many others, used to become bigger than their humble beginnings and go on to live lives that impacted the world. We’re still feeling the effects of the fact that they lived.

So if you are looking for direction, I highly recommend his work–click here to be taken to his page on, the self-development company he founded with Vic Conant.

Happy Birthday, Earl Nightingale. Thank you for generously sharing what you knew to be True. My life is better for it.

Thank you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,



When Bad Days Strike: Push Back!



I’ve found that when I’m in the thick of things I reallyreallyreally have to be hyper-vigilant in monitoring my thoughts and feelings. It’s soooooo easy to become demoralized and then to give up.

I’ve found that it’s essential to push back when those negative thoughts and the hopelessness try to weasel their way into my mind.   I do this by telling myself that better days are ahead.  Then I remind myself that moving forward–even in itsy bitsy, teeny tiny steps–will help me get to those better days sooner. Even if I’m unsure of what to do, I’ve found that taking the next best, most logical step is the way through a bad day.

What do you do when you have a bad day–how do you push back? Leave your tips in the comments section below.  Thanks!

I’m proud of you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,


Another Thought About When Bad Days Strike

In yesterday’s post, we talked about things you can say to yourself when you’re in the midst of a bad day (click here to be taken to that post).

Today I want to talk about another thing to say.

When my daughter was young, it seemed as if the world was a very dangerous place. There were wars and conflicts and “police actions” everywhere, it seemed. Taxes were high, prices were going up, and it looked as if new diseases were popping up daily.

I remember walking out to the mailbox one day and I was uptight and on edge because of worries about the state of the world and feeling anxious and inadequate protecting my daughter from all the “bad stuff” that was out there.

Standing in front of the mailbox. I had a moment of astounding clarity. In that moment, I realized I was okay. My daughter was okay–better than okay, actually! My family was okay, too.

That day happened to be a beautiful spring day and I remember feeling the warmth of the sun on my shoulders and hearing the birds chirping. It occurred to me that if the world was that terrible of a place, the flowers wouldn’t be blooming, and the air wouldn’t be springtime-fresh.

In that moment, I knew all was well.,_1894_-_Mother_with_Child.jpg,_1894_-_Mother_with_Child.jpg

Over the years I’ve returned to the saying “all is well” over and over again because it’s usually true. From one moment to the next, all really is well–even in spite of issues that I may have to deal with. Any perceived unpleasantness is usually in the future, not in the moment. And if it is unpleasant in that particular moment, it does not last forever and very soon, I can go back to saying in each moment that all is well.

Action Plan: along with the other mirror work you’re doing that was mentioned in yesterday’s post (click here to be taken to that post), add in the statement “All is well.”

During your day, remind yourself of this fact–especially when you find your thoughts veering off the road into the ditch of negative thinking. Pull them back by reminding yourself that right now, right here, in this moment, all is well.

Let me know how saying “All is well” works for you in the comment section below. If you’ve come up with tweaks that make it work better for you, feel free to share those in the comments below as well. Thanks for sharing!

You’re awesome!

I’m proud of you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,