Change: It Hurts


In yesterday’s post, we talked about some of the reasons it can be hard to change (click here to be taken to that post). I’ve discovered that change can also be painful.  Not only is it psychologically painful–we “give up” our comfortable routines, habits, and activities–but it can also be physically painful.

We may sleep poorly and wake up stiff and sore. We may feel guilt or shame that may center in our chests.  We may get a headache from staying mindful of our thoughts and actions.

When this happens we need to be alert. This is when we’ll hear that voice inside telling us this is too hard and painful.  It’ll whisper that today’s a bad day, tomorrow will be better.  It’ll try to bribe or seduce us into thinking that if we give ourselves a break now, that we’ll make up for it by working harder tomorrow.  And we’ll want to give in, to do something–anything!–to make the pain go away.

Don’t do it!

That’s why I urged you in yesterday’s post to think about the things you can do to soothe yourself–people who will help you hold steady or activities that can take your mind off the pain while you stay the course. It’s at these times, when the pain is right there and the voice inside is shrieking at you to stop, that you must hang in there.

So, once again, I urge you to take out a pen and paper–or whatever means you use to capture your thoughts–and brainstorm things you can do during these crisis moments. They pass, I assure you these moments pass, but make it easier on yourself by having your list handy so you don’t even have to think about who to call or what to do.  Already have your thinking done in the form of this list.

Do it now!

You can, I know you can!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,


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