Are you happy, well-adjusted, achieving all your goals, and on your way to achieving even bigger, better, and more than you ever thought possible?
If you’re like most of us and your answer to part or all of the above question is a resounding “NO!”, then you need to ditch your comfort zone!
It’s your comfort zone that got you to where you are today. It’s your comfort zone that’s keeping you from taking the significant steps toward your dreams–you may be taking little steps, which is great, but you occasionally (at least) need to also take significant steps toward your dreams.
Ask–and answer!–yourself: What can I do right now to ditch my comfort zone?
Ask–and answer!–yourself: What’s preventing me from ditching my comfort zone? What can I do right here and right now to change that?
Some of you may be able to ditch the whole kit and caboodle right off the bat and never look back. Most of us, though, will need to take smaller steps while challenging ourselves to periodically take bigger, more significant steps.
We’ve all had events and situations turn against us and, quite naturally, we’ve been very sad about it. With some events, we may still be sad about it, even though it happened years ago.
Today’s a perfect day to look at those events and see how they helped us get to where we are today. Recognize how the break-up, disappointment, or betrayal forced us to let go of people, places, and situations that were limiting us.
Appreciate how the goodness we have in our lives now would not have been possible without those rough patches.
And if, in reflecting, you conclude that your life is not better off now than it was back then, it isn’t too late to do something about that!
Make up your mind to have a FANTASTIC life!
Tune into your Still Small Voice, follow where it leads, and have the most awesome life ever!
As you look over this week and prepare for the next one, note the places where you felt unsure or anxious–when you felt resistance and the urge to procrastinate. This is when encouragement would come in handy!
I have some quotes that I think will help but before I share them, take another moment to look for patterns in what causes you to feel unsure or anxious. What tasks, what times of day, what people, what places, etc., cause you to respond with resistance and procrastination?
You can prepare yourself for these times by having handy quotes, images, music, poems, and other resources that uplift you. When you feel the first tinglings of emotions that throw you off track, immediately pull out the things that encourage you!
Here are some quotes you can add to your resources list (you can get more quotes by following me on twitter: @YesICanPepTalks):
When you get into a tight place and everything goes against you, till it seems as though you could not hang on a minute longer, never give up then, for that is just the place and time that the tide will turn.~ Harriet Beecher Stowe
A bend in the road is not the end of the road… unless you fail to make the turn.~ Unknown
Breathe. Let go. And remind yourself that this very moment is the only one you know you have for sure.~ Oprah Winfrey
Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could. Some blunders and absurdities no doubt crept in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day. You shall begin it serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense. ― Ralph Waldo Emerson
Listen to your being. It is continuously giving you hints; it is a still, small voice. It does not shout at you, that is true. And if you are a little silent you will start feeling your way. Be the person you are. Never try to be another, and you will become mature. Maturity is accepting the responsibility of being oneself, whatsoever the cost. Risking all to be oneself, that’s what maturity is all about. ― Osho
The two most important days in your life are the day you are born and the day you find out why. –Mark Twain
Let me know in the comments section which of these quotes resonated with you.
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When a friend, loved one, or co-worker hits a rough patch, oftentimes we aren’t quite sure what to say or to do.
While the tips we talked about in Tuesday’s post are wonderful, (3 Tips for Encouraging Others), here are 4 additional tips that can also help:
1. Small gifts:
No need to break the bank! A small bouquet of flowering “weeds” from alongside a road can be lovely. An interestingly shaped leaf, a colorful rock, or a
2. Share uplifting resources:
Perhaps you have a cherished poem that uplifts you or a favorite motivational speaker, share these with someone who may be going through a tough time.
3. Be transparent:
It can be helpful to talk to them about difficulties you’ve faced and what you did to overcome them. Hearing what another has done can spark ideas about what they can do to help themselves and it also gives them hope that their situation can be conquered.
Perhaps you can offer to search the Internet for local and online resources that can help them with their specific difficulty. Or perhaps you can offer to sit with their kids if they need time alone to think and plan their way out of the rough patch. Also, you can drop off homemade chicken soup or a casserole.
This short list should get your creative juices flowing. When you come up with other ideas, please share them in the comments section below!
As you’re encouraging others this week, remember to encourage yourself! Here are a few things I’d like to remind you about yourself:
You have what it takes to achieve your dreams!
Even though you may not believe it, everything you to achieve your dreams is already inside of you.
You have the intelligence to learn new skills and to gain knowledge that you can then put to good use in helping you take the next step.
You’ll have to put in the time and effort with studying and practicing but the smarts are there for you to use!
You are packed full of talents and abilities that will give you an “unfair advantage” in achieving your dreams.
You’ll have to develop them, for sure, but they are there for you to use.
You have the strength and wherewithal needed to achieve your dreams.
Packed inside you along with your talents, abilities, and know-how is the strength you need to press on through the rough patches. At times you may be strongly challenged but you have the depth and breadth within to dig into yourself and bring forth the Something Extra that you’ll need. It’s there for you to use!
You can do it, I know you can!
I believe in you! I’m cheering you on! Go for it! WooHoo!
Take the next step, even if it’s a tiny one. Keep making regular progress toward your goals each day. You CAN do it!
Smiles, kind words, and pats on the back are great, but sometimes they seem empty, as if we’re just phoning it in.
But yet, we draw a blank when we try to think of meaningful ways to encourage others.
Here are 3 tips for you:
1. Write a note:
Whether to a co-worker, a friend, or a loved one, sending a card with a few handwritten lines about how they’ve helped you in the past, something you admire about them, or just that you’re glad to know them and have them part of your work team, or family, or circle of friends, whichever is appropriate. The people you write to will treasure these notes and I’ll bet they’ll save them and refer to them when they’re feeling down.
2. Share something of yourself in the form of a gift:
For instance, if you enjoy pretty rocks or shells, give one from your collection. Perhaps you’re an artist. Make a doodle specifically for the person and give it to them. Or if you’re a photographer, print out one of the photos you like and put it in a simple frame from the dollar store and give it to a co-worker, friend, loved one who needs a boost.
3. Give of yourself:
Print out coupons and gift certificates to give to friends, co-workers, loved ones where you’ll do things with them such as read a chapter in a favorite book, take a walk in nature, or even just sitting in silence with someone who’s going through a rough patch.
I hope these suggestions have gotten your creative juices flowing and have given you other ideas of things you can do. If so, please share them in the comments below!
Oftentimes when we need a boost, we look outside of ourselves to see what we can use to help ourselves. We look to friends and family to give us an encouraging word, we look to things going our way to boost us; we look to the outside to make us feel better about ourselves and our situation–to give us a boost.
But the surest way to get a boost is to give a boost.
When you’re feeling down and discouraged, when you’re feeling hopeless and helpless, when you are worried and afraid, when you think there’s just no way you’re going to get out of the fix you’re in, THAT’S the time to look outside yourself and see what you can do for others.
I’m not talking about taking on their problems, although if you can lend a hand that would be a good thing. What I’m really talking about is saying a good word to people.
For instance, in the check out lane, you can notice something about the cashier to compliment her or him on. If, at work, your team is faced with a problem, you can be the one to say that with all the talent and know-how the team has, you’re sure a solution will be found.
At home, even though your kids’ rooms may be a mess, you realize that you don’t have to tell them to feed the pets or wash the dishes or to do their homework. And your spouse or partner may not be perfect, but perhaps she/he gives great back rubs or keeps the house or yard tidy and attractive. Let your family know you appreciate them!
Give an encouraging word to everyone around you and watch how that boosts your confidence, self esteem, and happiness!
In the comments below, let me the boost it gives you!
Sometimes it’s easy to get so caught up in what isn’t right with our lives, what we don’t have, and how off track we seem to be. All around us, though, are little gifts of beauty, wonder, and hope. They are there to uplift us!
Tune into the beauty around you and let it fill you with faith. Then take the next step–even a tiny one!–toward your dreams!