Smiles, kind words, and pats on the back are great, but sometimes they seem empty, as if we’re just phoning it in.
But yet, we draw a blank when we try to think of meaningful ways to encourage others.
Here are 3 tips for you:
1. Write a note:
Whether to a co-worker, a friend, or a loved one, sending a card with a few handwritten lines about how they’ve helped you in the past, something you admire about them, or just that you’re glad to know them and have them part of your work team, or family, or circle of friends, whichever is appropriate. The people you write to will treasure these notes and I’ll bet they’ll save them and refer to them when they’re feeling down.
2. Share something of yourself in the form of a gift:
For instance, if you enjoy pretty rocks or shells, give one from your collection. Perhaps you’re an artist. Make a doodle specifically for the person and give it to them. Or if you’re a photographer, print out one of the photos you like and put it in a simple frame from the dollar store and give it to a co-worker, friend, loved one who needs a boost.
3. Give of yourself:
Print out coupons and gift certificates to give to friends, co-workers, loved ones where you’ll do things with them such as read a chapter in a favorite book, take a walk in nature, or even just sitting in silence with someone who’s going through a rough patch.
I hope these suggestions have gotten your creative juices flowing and have given you other ideas of things you can do. If so, please share them in the comments below!
Oftentimes when we need a boost, we look outside of ourselves to see what we can use to help ourselves. We look to friends and family to give us an encouraging word, we look to things going our way to boost us; we look to the outside to make us feel better about ourselves and our situation–to give us a boost.
But the surest way to get a boost is to give a boost.
When you’re feeling down and discouraged, when you’re feeling hopeless and helpless, when you are worried and afraid, when you think there’s just no way you’re going to get out of the fix you’re in, THAT’S the time to look outside yourself and see what you can do for others.
I’m not talking about taking on their problems, although if you can lend a hand that would be a good thing. What I’m really talking about is saying a good word to people.
For instance, in the check out lane, you can notice something about the cashier to compliment her or him on. If, at work, your team is faced with a problem, you can be the one to say that with all the talent and know-how the team has, you’re sure a solution will be found.
At home, even though your kids’ rooms may be a mess, you realize that you don’t have to tell them to feed the pets or wash the dishes or to do their homework. And your spouse or partner may not be perfect, but perhaps she/he gives great back rubs or keeps the house or yard tidy and attractive. Let your family know you appreciate them!
Give an encouraging word to everyone around you and watch how that boosts your confidence, self esteem, and happiness!
In the comments below, let me the boost it gives you!
Sometimes it’s easy to get so caught up in what isn’t right with our lives, what we don’t have, and how off track we seem to be. All around us, though, are little gifts of beauty, wonder, and hope. They are there to uplift us!
Tune into the beauty around you and let it fill you with faith. Then take the next step–even a tiny one!–toward your dreams!
For “See It Again Saturday”, I thought you’d enjoy this post I did way back in 2014. It’s as relevant today as it was then–it’s still critically important that you listen to your Still Small Voice and make progress each day toward your dreams.
You can do it!
Your Friend and Pep Pal,
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“No one knows enough to be a pessimist” ~Earl Nightingale
This quote reminds us that no one has a crystal ball and no one can clearly and with certainty look into the future and know with 100% accurately what will happen. No matter what anyone says, no one can tell the future. This means that you can’t discount your dream until you see it through—investigate it completely and follow where it leads. This also means that you really can’t let anyone else’s opinion of your idea stop you from pursuing it.
Even if they’re experts.
But you do know, even if you don’t have tangible proof. You know it “in your bones”.
YOU are the one who hears the Still Small Voice inside of you. YOU are the one who has the special vision that your dream gives to you. Because of this, you see connections, possibilities…
Oftentimes when we’re reviewing our lives–or even just a day or a week of our lives–and we’re trying to find where we went wrong and how things have gotten off track, we look for errors and mistakes–the Big Stuff. Many times we find them in the form of difficulties such as an unexpected bill, getting laid off or having your job downsized, or a friend or co-worker betraying you or just not being there when you needed them. When we find these things, we come up with strategies and plans of what to do to fix them.
On the surface, this sounds like a great strategy. And it works sometimes because there are phases of our lives when things outside of us go haywire and create all sorts of havoc for us.
But what about the times when we can’t really find anything that’s causing our life to feel “not right”?
That’s when we have to look at ourselves and what we’re doing–or not doing–that’s created the situation.
Oftentimes, if we can bear to be very honest with ourselves (and I highly recommend this!), we’ll find it’s the little things that we’ve done–or haven’t done–that have had a ripple effect and have inexorably led to us where we are right here and right now. And we may also find–as much as we don’t want to admit it–we may have even had a hand in the big stuff that’s seemingly totally outside our control.
Because it’s the little things.
It’s the small habits, routines, and thought patterns that are the culprit. They’re so small that we don’t notice them–or if we do notice them, we think they don’t really matter.
But they do matter because they add up and become a determining factor in whether or not we’re living the life of our dreams.
So what are some of these small things?
Perhaps you are in the habit of putting aside projects that aren’t quite completed, saying that you’ll get back to them tomorrow or next week. But you know as well as I do that it’s difficult to get back to them later on so usually the project is left incomplete. As a result, there’s a pile of papers related to the project that’s taking up space on your desk or on the end table near the chair you sit in when you watch TV. Multiply this by several projects and multiply this by weeks or months or years, and no wonder your house or office is disheveled and you can’t find anything and you don’t have room to work!
Or, perhaps you know you need to get into better shape but instead of parking at the end of the lot and walking a longer distance to your office building, you tell yourself you’re a little tired today or you’re running late so you’ll park closer today and park farther tomorrow. And you’ll take the elevator today instead of the stairs, but tomorrow…and you’re pressed for time so you grab something from the vending machine or the fast food place for lunch, but tomorrow…. And then weeks, months, years down the road you wonder why you haven’t lost weight and why you’re still out of shape.
It’s the little things.
So as you look over your week in preparing to set yourself up for a great upcoming week, search for the little things that you can tweak that DO make a big difference down the road. Then be very mindful–and very, very honest with yourself–as you follow through on these tweaks whether or not you feel like it, whether or not it’s convenient, whether or not it’s hard, whether or not it’s comfortable….
For instance we’ve defined ourselves as a person who earns only a limited amount of money. As a result, we may not take care of our things and our surroundings because we don’t have enough money to fix things or care for our items properly.
However, there are people in the world who have limited funds as well yet their living environment is neat, clean, and organized. Their items are cared for with regular cleaning and proper storage and proper use so they don’t break in the first place.
What ever excuse — which is really a limiting thought — we’re using to keep consistent to our definition of ourselves, there’s someone in the world–oftentimes many someones in the world–who also have this same circumstance but yet they are choosing a different definition and are taking action based upon this different definition.
Whether it’s lack of money, or being a woman or being a man, or being too old or too young, or being too big or too little, or using culture or nationality or some other seemingly big “unchangeable” thing as the definition of ourselves, there is someone with something similar who is NOT being limited by the very same thing.
Because they have a different definition of themselves.
So, let’s ask ourselves: how are we defining ourselves? How long ago did we decide this about ourselves? Who contributed to us accepting and using this definition of ourselves?
Have we observed others who are similar to us but yet living a different life? Can we also see that the world is still intact in spite of the fact that they’ve embraced this other definition of themselves? 😉
Think about these questions and your answers. Come up with a different, more loving, definition of yourself.
You’ll probably find that when you redefine yourself, you suddenly have given yourself permission to do more of the things you’ve always wanted to do.
The man with a new idea is a Crank until the idea succeeds.~Mark Twain
Today’s quote reminds us to never let anyone talk us out of our dreams. Keep tuned into the whisperings and urgings of your Still Small Voice and follow where it’s leading you.
Of course other people probably won’t “get it”. They may even laugh at you or think you’re crazy. But that’s only because they don’t have your Vision and they can’t hear your Still Small Voice. If they heard it and saw your Vision, they would most likely agree with you.
So, keep on keeping on and don’t worry about others who don’t understand what you’re doing.