I’ve been listening to motivational speeches/videos on YouTube lately. Here are some quotes that have stood out–ones that I think you’ll like, too:
Sometimes we can’t say “Yes, I can have my dream.” But you can say that it’s possible. You can say, “It’s possible that I can have my dream.”~Les Brown
I’m going to show you just how great I am! ~Muhammad Ali
If you want to shine like a diamond, you have to be willing to be cut like a diamond. ~Unknown
No task is too small, unimportant, or stupid if it gets you closer to your dreams. ~Unknown
It’s YOUR dream. Don’t expect anyone else to get it, to understand it, to value it, or to hold your hand and travel your path with you. It’s YOUR dream, not theirs. It isn’t their job, responsibility, or obligation to do any of this. ~Unknown
Let me know which one of these quotes resonated with you–post in the comments below.
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I’ve been watching TED and TED-x Talks on YouTube. As you may know, the talks feature people who have achieved a level of success in a particular field. Usually, they have a high level of expertise and have achieved some type of breakthrough in their work.
As you might guess, I’ve gravitated toward those speakers who have talked about setting goals, being the best version of yourself–living a fulfilling, exciting, satisfying life. Basically, they’re talking about living the life of your dreams.
The interesting thread running through these talks is the presenters’ urging we listeners to get to know ourselves. It’s through coming to know and understand ourselves that we are able to discover our Destiny, our True Calling.
Of course practicing mindfulness regarding your goals and dreams is one way to keep your eye on them and certainly printing out a list of your goals and dreams and posting it prominently in your home and office is another way.
The very best way, though, to keep your attention riveted on your goals and dreams is to have at least one deeply meaningful and compelling reason WHYyou are pursuing them. If you have more than one deep, compelling reason, that’s all the better!
Revisit the reasons you listed on Saturday and the spiritual/esoteric ones you jotted down on Sunday. Can you deepen them—make them more compelling? The more you can make them “do or die” type of goals the better your journey will be.
I’m sure you heard this as you were growing up, especially if you played sports–whether on teams or only in gym class. Coaches told us that keeping our eye on the ball, knowing where it was and anticipating where it would be on the field or court, was an essential ingredient in performing well and winning the game.
Dad would also tell me to keep my eye on the ball. He was using this as a metaphor, though, for doing well in school–and later on, doing well in life. He was telling me to not let distractions and petty annoyances get me off track.
Even though I’ve tried to follow this advice, I admit that I’m not the best at it–in fact, at times I’ve been down right bad at it. I’ve let frustrations at the office slow me down. I’ve hesitated to implement ideas because of worries about the economy. I’ve been intimidated by others’ expertise and success.
In short, I’d taken my eye off the ball of striving toward my goals and living the life of my dreams.
I saw a TED-x talk on YouTube given by Emily Balcetis about this very topic. She and her colleagues have actually proven that Dad and my coaches were right: keeping your eye on the goal–the metaphoric ball–actually DOES makes tasks, projects, and the journey seem easier to achieve.
This is great news because it means that it IS simple to achieve our goals and dreams after all. We don’t need complicated formulas or convoluted practices. All we need to do is keep our eye on the ball–on the goals and dreams of our heart and soul.
Please note: I’m not sure what happened, but yesterday’s post ended up posting today…! I apologize for any confusion or inconvenience!
Yesterday we talked about coming up with a why that was deeply compelling for us—powerful enough to get us through the really difficult phases of going for our dreams.
It’s good to have more than one reason why we’re going for our dreams because sometimes the why that we’ve been relying on may not have the power needed to get through a particular challenge.
Today we’ll talk about coming up with one or more spiritual reasons why we’re going for our dreams. These reasons doing have to be based in religious beliefs or any type of belief in particular. All that matters is that the reason is important to you.
These are reasons that are bigger than you and me.
Some examples of spiritual reasons are:
~you know in your core that you were born to do this;
~the Still Small Voice won’t be—can’t be—silenced;
~it’s your Divine Destiny to do this.
Take time to think about this, to contemplate it. As with the more worldly reasons why that we talked about yesterday, this spiritually based why may change over time. That’s fine because as you work with it, you get to know and understand it in a deeper more profound way. This is good!
Feel free to share your why in the comments below.
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All month we’ve been revisiting our goals that we set in January and have talked about what it means to have grit as we go for them.
Today, let’s talk about why, why we’re going for our dreams. The why forms the core of your grit.
The path to our dreams can seem long and treacherous at times so we need to figure out a deep and compelling reason why we want to achieve our goals and dreams. Without a reason that reaches to our core, when the going gets tough, and especially when it seems nearly impossible, we’ll give up.
Our dreams are too important to give up! We must press on, no matter what! And a reason that reaches into the very essence of us will be strong enough to compel us forward in spite of what’s going on around us.
What are some deeply compelling reasons—a why—that will motivate us?
One of the most famous lines from the movie Gone with the Windis when and she vows to never be hungry again. We watched her survive a war with all its horrors and tragedy and, when she says this, we know she will make it come true no matter what.
Our why doesn’t have to be fancy or approved by someone in authority. All it has to be is something that is very, very important to us and a reason that has deep and profound meaning to us, such as Scarlet swearing to God that she and her family will never be hungry again.
Other reasons are:
~fed up with the small life you’re living;
~fed up with living hand to mouth
~fed up with not being able to provide a decent life for your family
More positive reasons are:
~loving doing a particular activity such as photography, knitting, building things, having your environment neat and orderly;
~feeling really good inside when you live a certain way such as when you reach out a helping hand, when you’ve met a challenge you’ve given yourself, or being a role model;
~you’re good at a particular activity, skill, or ability, and you enjoy doing it.
Notice that “negative” things can be as powerfully motivating as the more positive reasons.
Take the time today to come up with some reasons why you’re going for your dreams. Don’t worry about them being too negative or too positive. All that’s necessary is that they are deeply meaningful to you.
As time goes on, you’ll find that your why will change, and that’s fine and normal. Especially with the negative motivators, you’ll find over time that the edges will round off and they’ll become more positive. This is just fine. No worries!
My why is that I’m feeling hemmed in by my current life—I’m getting fed up with the sameness of it. I want to reach out beyond my boundaries and experience new things, meet new people, go new places, have new experiences.
What are some of your reasons why you’re going for your goals? Share in the comments below!
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Yesterday I shared with you a new system I devised to help me set goals. I thought it would be helpful to share some thoughts I have about goal-setting systems.
A System doesn’t have to be perfect, it just has to be EFFECTIVE for YOU.
An effective system is one that helps YOU think about all aspects of YOUR life;
A useful system helps YOU become very clear on what’s important to YOU;
A helpful system helps YOU devise a plan for how you’re going to bring into your live those things and experiences that are important to YOU.
A valuable system is one that helps YOU live a life that YOU think is good, satisfying, and happy.
I hope you’re noticing the emphasis on the word YOU! It’s because living our lives is NOT about what anyone else thinks, values, wants, desires, etc.. This is one of the few times when it IS all about YOU!
Start writing down your goals today–either the ones that you made in January or the new, revised ones you’ve decided upon this month.
You can do it!
Your Friend and Pep Pal,
PS You may be wondering why the images are of birthday cakes. Today’s Mom’s birthday! Happy Birthday, Mom! I wouldn’t be who I am and where I am in Life without you–thanks!
There’s one more week left in the first half of 2016. Let’s spend it giving our goals the final review and then tweaking them as needed to set ourselves up for a fantastic second half of 2016.
On July 1st, let’s hit the ground running!
As a result of all the talking we’ve done about goals and grit, I’ve devised a new way for myself to set goals. I’ve decided to keep the system as simple as possible because it isn’t about the system, it’s about getting clear on what goals I’m going for.
There are two aspects of my life: personal/private and professional/public. There are three categories that, to me, are the foundation of living a good life: finances, relationships, and fitness.
Here’s what my grid looks like:
Next, I fill it out with questions or things I want to keep in mind.
For instance, the Fitness column and the Personal/Private row, I’ll put the items of exercise, nutrition, positive attitude, and meditation. Under the same column in the Professional/Public row, I’ll put up-to-date with current business trends, provide value in my job and to my company, work efficiently and effectively.
Under the Relationships column and in the Personal/Private row I’ll put things like family, friends, clubs, hobbies, spirituality. Under the same column in the Professional/Public row I’ll put professional friends, mentors, associations, conventions.
In the Finances column, under Personal/Private, I’ll have items such as spending wisely, tithing, saving, and personal growth & development. In the same column and in the Professional/Public row I’ll put things such as professional growth and development.
So, here’s my completed grid:
exercise, nutrition, positive attitude, and meditation
family, friends, clubs, hobbies, spirituality
spending wisely, tithing, saving, and personal growth & development
up-to-date with current business trends, provide value in my job and to my company, work efficiently and effectively
professional friends, mentors, associations, conventions
professional growth and development
As you can see, some items can go under one or more of the categories. It’s easy to get yourself all tied up in a knot over which item goes where–finding the perfect spot for each item.
As I said, it isn’t about the categories. It’s about clarifying the things that are important to YOU. Not the things that are important to your neighbor or your family and friends or the things that advertisers tell you should be important to you. It’s what YOU need to have, be, and do in order to live a life that YOU think is worthwhile.
Feel free to use my new system for your own goal setting. I’ll keep you informed as to how it’s working out for me.
Have you devised your own goal-setting system? If so, feel free to share it in the comments below.
There’s positive power in some negative words, phrases, and thoughts. Jim Rohn tells a story of a negative experience that was part of the turning point in his life.
He was in his mid-twenties, married with a young family, and working but not really setting the world on fire. One day he was home from work early and there was a knock at the door. A young Girl Scout was selling cookies. She did a great sales job and he really wanted to buy a few boxes–at the time they were two-dollars each. He couldn’t buy even one box because he didn’t even have two-dollars in his wallet. He had to turn the Girl Scout away. Needless to say the experience was humiliating for him and he was very embarrassed by it.
But it led him to say with firm resolve, “Never again. Never again will I not have money to buy the things that kids are selling.”
Jim Rohn went on to be very successful in business and become a world-renowned speaker.
Here are some negative words and phrases that have the power of the positive within them:
Enough is enough;
Not in this lifetime;
I’ve had it;
I am so done with this;
What are negative words and phrases that have helped you turn your life around? Feel free to share them in the comments below!
We all know to use pep words and power phrases when we need a boost to keep going or we need to uplift our spirits.
Will they work, though, when it seems that all hope is lost?
Yes they will.
When I’m in a situation where I can’t hold on, not even for one nanosecond longer; when the only course of action seems like I should throw in the towel; when logic is telling me to quit; when those who love me are begging you to stop because they can’t stand to see me in such pain….
But I’ve decided that this IS worth fighting for so giving up is NOT an option.
When I’m beaten up, covered in mud, and I’m bloody; when I don’t feel even one iota of a bit of strength; when I don’t think I have it in me to hold on one second longer much less move forward; this is when I pull out my last resort go-to word.
My last resort go-to word is
I say it over and over until it becomes rhythmic and the word itself disappears. I use the short cadence of it to breath in and out to; and I use the in-out beat of the breathing and the word to help me hold on just a fraction of a nanosecond longer and to creep forward a micron. And then to do it again with the next in-out beat. And then again.
Are these times grueling? You bet.
Has it worked? You bet!
Do you have a last resort go-to word or phrase? Please share it in the comments below. If you don’t you’re welcome to use mine and, in the comments below, let me know how it works for you!