Goals and Grit: One More Week

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There’s one more week left in the first half of 2016. Let’s spend it giving our goals the final review and then tweaking them as needed to set ourselves up for a fantastic second half of 2016.

On July 1st, let’s hit the ground running!

As a result of all the talking we’ve done about goals and grit, I’ve devised a new way for myself to set goals. I’ve decided to keep the system as simple as possible because it isn’t about the system, it’s about getting clear on what goals I’m going for.

There are two aspects of my life: personal/private and professional/public. There are three categories that, to me, are the foundation of living a good life: finances, relationships, and fitness.

Here’s what my grid looks like:

Finances

Relationships

Fitness

Personal/Private

Professional/Public

Next, I fill it out with questions or things I want to keep in mind.

For instance, the Fitness column and the Personal/Private row, I’ll put the items of exercise, nutrition, positive attitude, and meditation. Under the same column in the Professional/Public row, I’ll put up-to-date with current business trends, provide value in my job and to my company, work efficiently and effectively.

Under the Relationships column and in the Personal/Private row I’ll put things like family, friends, clubs, hobbies, spirituality. Under the same column in the Professional/Public row I’ll put professional friends, mentors, associations, conventions.

In the Finances column, under Personal/Private, I’ll have items such as spending wisely, tithing, saving, and personal growth & development. In the same column and in the Professional/Public row I’ll put things such as professional growth and development.

So, here’s my completed grid:

Fitness

Relationships

Finances

Personal/Private

exercise, nutrition, positive attitude, and meditation

family, friends, clubs, hobbies, spirituality

spending wisely, tithing, saving, and personal growth & development

Professional/Public

up-to-date with current business trends, provide value in my job and to my company, work efficiently and effectively

professional friends, mentors, associations, conventions

professional growth and development

As you can see, some items can go under one or more of the categories. It’s easy to get yourself all tied up in a knot over which item goes where–finding the perfect spot for each item.

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As I said, it isn’t about the categories. It’s about clarifying the things that are important to YOU. Not the things that are important to your neighbor or your family and friends or the things that advertisers tell you should be important to you. It’s what YOU need to have, be, and do in order to live a life that YOU think is worthwhile.

Feel free to use my new system for your own goal setting. I’ll keep you informed as to how it’s working out for me.

Have you devised your own goal-setting system? If so, feel free to share it in the comments below.

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Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

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Goals and Grit: A Good Use of Negative Thinking

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Yesterday we talked about pep words and power phrases.   That’s all well and good, but sometimes they just don’t help.

There’s positive power in some negative words, phrases, and thoughts. Jim Rohn tells a story of a negative experience that was part of the turning point in his life.

He was in his mid-twenties, married with a young family, and working but not really setting the world on fire. One day he was home from work early and there was a knock at the door.  A young Girl Scout was selling cookies.  She did a great sales job and he really wanted to buy a few boxes–at the time they were two-dollars each.  He couldn’t buy even one box because he didn’t even have two-dollars in his wallet.  He had to turn the Girl Scout away.  Needless to say the experience was humiliating for him and he was very embarrassed by it.

But it led him to say with firm resolve, “Never again. Never again will I not have money to buy the things that kids are selling.”

Jim Rohn went on to be very successful in business and become a world-renowned speaker.

Here are some negative words and phrases that have the power of the positive within them:

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Never again;

Enough is enough;

Not in this lifetime;

I’ve had it;

No more;

I am so done with this;

No.

 

What are negative words and phrases that have helped you turn your life around? Feel free to share them in the comments below!

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Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

 

Goals and Grit: The “Last Resort” Word

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We all know to use pep words and power phrases when we need a boost to keep going or we need to uplift our spirits.

Will they work, though, when it seems that all hope is lost?

Yes they will.

When I’m in a situation where I can’t hold on, not even for one nanosecond longer; when the only course of action seems like I should throw in the towel; when logic is telling me to quit; when those who love me are begging you to stop because they can’t stand to see me in such pain….

But I’ve decided that this IS worth fighting for so giving up is NOT an option.

When I’m beaten up, covered in mud, and I’m bloody; when I don’t feel even one iota of a bit of strength; when I don’t think I have it in me to hold on one second longer much less move forward; this is when I pull out my last resort go-to word.

My last resort go-to word is

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YES.

I say it over and over until it becomes rhythmic and the word itself disappears. I use the short cadence of it to breath in and out to; and I use the in-out beat of the breathing and the word to help me hold on just a fraction of a nanosecond longer and to creep forward a micron. And then to do it again with the next in-out beat. And then again.

Are these times grueling? You bet.

Has it worked? You bet!

Do you have a last resort go-to word or phrase? Please share it in the comments below. If you don’t you’re welcome to use mine and, in the comments below, let me know how it works for you!

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Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Goals and Grit: Words and Phrases for a Little Something Extra

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Happy First Day of Summer!

All month we’ve been talking about goals and grit. I think we’ve discovered some interesting things such as using Abraham Maslow’s system of the Heirarchy of Need to think through the different aspects of our lives. And, if that system isn’t quite your thing, we talked about using more spiritually based systems such as the Eight Chakras.

Next, we discussed Angela Duckworth’s new book Grit and found out that achieving our dreams is not solely based on whether or not we’re talented and how much of that talent we have–especially when compared to others.

Today, I want to talk about words we can use when the going gets tough–when we need to have grit.

When I’m faced with a situation that seems hopeless and I feel helpless to solve it I need something to shore up my uncertainty. Of course getting a pep talk from loved ones is something I do, and I also turn to my playlist of uplifting songs and inspiring messages to give me a boost.

But sometimes, I need a little something extra.

I have a list of words I turn to that I hold in mind and repeat to myself throughout the day and during the challenging situation. I’d like to share those grit words with you in the hope that some of them can help you, too.

Words I use when I need to reach inside and tap into my reserves of grit:

Of course I use the word grit and I’ll also use the words

tough

strong

tenacity

resilient

fierce

potent

go

move

progress

forward

ahead

up

yes

Sometimes words don’t quite do it so then I’ll turn to phrases such as

hang in there

hold on

come on, I can do it

let’s go

do it

bounce back

get up

push through

move forward

one more

one more step

one second more

onward and upward

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I have a variety of words and phrases because ones that have worked beautifully in past difficulties don’t cut it in this particular challenge. So, I cycle through until I hit on one or a combo of ones that does the trick for me.

Do you have a list of words and phrases that help you tap into your deep reserves of grit? Feel free to share them in the comments below!

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Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Happy Father’s Day 2016

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Thanks, Dad! I wouldn’t be where I am in Life nor would I be who I am if it weren’t for your support, encouragement, and love.

To all who are stepping up to the plate every day to do their very best at being a father, and to those who also step up to the plate every day and do their best to filll the role of Father, thank you!

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Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Goals and Grit: Words and Phrases

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As you take steps every day toward your goals–and you don’t back down one iota from this critical promise to yourself–you may find there’s an interesting mix of words being used to describe you.

You’ll use one set of words to describe they types of action you’re consistently taking and you may find well-meaning friends and loved ones using a totally different set to describe the very same actions.

For instance, to describe your new grittiness, you may use words, such as tenacity, determination, and stick-to-it-ive-ness, and phrases such as ‘don’t quit’, ‘keep going’, and ‘go the extra mile’.

Your friends and family–in an effort to be helpful, supportive, and protective of you–may use descriptive words for you such as stubborn, difficult, and pig-headed, and may use phrases such as ‘you really don’t have the talent that (fill in the blank) has’, ‘you’re beating your head against a brick wall’, or ‘why don’t you try something else because this clearly isn’t working out for you.’

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Your friends and family really do mean well. They want the very best for you and they’re doing their best to help you. But, at times, they won’t be helpful.

This is why you must be very, very clear on your goals and why you are striving for them. YOU are the one who sees the Vision, who hears the Still Small Voice, who has the Specialized Intelligence for your dreams. These of yours weren’t given to your friends and loved ones (they have their own). So, you must understand that there will be times when the support of your friends and family comes in a way that isn’t always helpful.

Know this and prepare yourself for it by looking beyond the words and seeing the caring that your friends and family have for you.

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

 

Review: Goals and Grit

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This week we’ve been talking about the book Grit by Angela Duckworth.  Last week we talked about our goals, reviewing them, and re-visioning them (if needed) so that we can set ourselves up for a fantastic second half of the year.

The two lessons from these past weeks have been to (1) choose goals that can get you to your deeply cherished dreams. Forget about the goals that are nothing more than To Do List types of goals.  Think about your dreams and then ask yourself what are the logical things you need to do to get there?  Then those steps are your goals.  Break them into little bits and pieces and then do them!

The other thing we learned is (2) grit, deep desire, and taking action can carry the day. We don’t have to worry about whether or not we have any talent at all or whether or not we have enough talent.  Think of Larry Bird and how his grittiness in the form of relentless practice took him to the very top of his profession.

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Take time this weekend to contemplate and ponder this: what it means to you; ways in which you can apply it to your life; how you WILL apply it to your life.

You can do this work, I know you can!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren