The day before yesterday we talked about the types of thoughts that people who are living their dream hold in their minds.
You were to think this through for yourself and figure out what thoughts they probably habitually thought. Did you then compare these thoughts to your own? If so, what did you discover?
People who achieve their dreams routinely think success-filled, uplifting thoughts. Their self-talk is filled with encouragement.
This isn’t to say that they don’t have bad days, that they don’t meet with heartache, that they haven’t ever had to stand by helplessly as their dreams shattered around them. They have had just as many challenges, just as much heartbreak, as the rest of us and have had to figure out how to move forward in spite of disasters, just like me and you.
The difference is that they don’t get bogged down in negative thinking. They don’t wallow in their pain. They don’t get stuck in a cycle of complaining, blaming, and pitying themselves.
Most of all, they don’t quit, knuckle under, throw in the towel, or give up.
Regardless of the calamities around them, they figure out how to take a step forward, even if it’s only a teensy tiny one. They keep moving forward.
You can do this, too. You have what it takes to keep your thoughts aimed toward the positive and then to take one itsy bitsy step forward.
If you’re like most of us, you probably want a happy, fulfilling, prosperous, interesting life.
Are you living that life?
If not, then take a close look at the thoughts you’re thinking.
Like most of us, you probably don’t realize that your thoughts form the very basis of your life; your life is an exact manifestation of the thoughts you’re thinking. I touched on this in yesterday’s post.
If your life is boring, then you must be thinking boring thoughts–the same thoughts and the same type of thoughts that you’ve had for years. You haven’t thought anything new in a long while–or if you have, you’ve allowed your mind and thoughts to go back to the same old thoughts you’ve always had. These same old thoughts drive the same old emotions, which drive the same old actions, habits, and routines.
If your life is filled with drama, frustration, anger, and the like, then those are the thoughts you’re thinking. You are thinking in ways that are making you prickly and making it easy for you to be annoyed, grumpy, and even bitter. These thoughts create a life there’s always something to complain about.
How do you get out of this life that you really don’t want and step into the life you do want?
It’s simple, but not always easy: monitor your thoughts and tweak them to be more positive, uplifting, encouraging, and motivating.
How exactly do you do this, though?
Think about the type of life you’d like to lead–your dream life. What type of person would lead that dream life? Would it be someone who’s always annoyed and has a hair trigger on their temper? Would it be someone who thinks discouraging thoughts–thoughts such as “it’s too hard” or “I don’t have what it takes”?
People who are living lives similar to your dream life probably aren’t always thinking negative, discouraging, boring, hum-drum thoughts. Of course they may have gloomy thoughts from time-to-time, but on the whole they probably have a Can-Do attitude and Can-Do thoughts driving that attitude. Even if a project or obstacle intimidates or overwhelms them, they find a way to tackle it one bit at a time.
So think it through for yourself and decide for yourself what thoughts you think they’re thinking. Think it through about how those thoughts drive their emotions; and those emotions creating the behaviors that then get them to their dream life.
I can give you examples of the types of thoughts I know they think but I want you to puzzle it out for yourself. By figuring it out for yourself, you’re more apt to believe it, to make it a part of you, and to consistently follow through on taking action on it.
Take time today to think this through–it’s too important to delay. For every moment you put it off or hesitate, that’s one less moment you get to live that life you want.
As a single footstep will not make a path on the earth, so a single thought will not make a pathway in the mind. To make a deep physical path, we walk again and again. To make a deep mental path, we must think over and over the kind of thoughts we wish to dominate our lives. ~Henry David Thoreau
Oftentimes we hear people complain that affirmations don’t work. We also hear other people ridicule affirmations, alluding that the person saying the affirmations is easily duped or is simple-minded.
As Henry David Thoreau points out, it’s through the repetition of a thought that it becomes ingrained in our minds and in us and, thus, becomes a habitual way of thinking. These thought patterns then lead to habitual ways of behaving. When we’ve trained ourselves to have an optimistic mind set, we tend to step out of our comfort zones, we aren’t so easily rattled or discouraged.
We think of affirmations as positive statements and positive ways of thinking and behaving. But affirmations can also be negative–and we can–and do!–train our minds to think in negative terms. Every time we say or think “I can’t…” or “It’s too hard…” or “I’m not lucky like other people…” and the like, we’re saying and thinking an affirmation–training our minds to be negative. This negative affirmation leads to a negative mindset which then influences our behavior, making us not try for the thing, or only try half-heartedly. Sometimes, we give up even before we try!
It’s important to note that the thoughts we think are rarely neutral. On the surface they may seem so, but if you dig a little bit you’ll find either a negative or positive kernel at the root of what seems neutral.
So, take care with your thoughts! If they aren’t positive, uplifting, optimistic, or encouraging, then they are negative, deflating, gloomy, or pessimistic.
My example is taking Business Typing with Mrs. Haskell. I really didn’t want to take it because I was not interested in becoming a secretary or an office assistant. As a teen, I thought I’d have some sort of executive job and I’d have secretaries and assistants who would do the typing for me. My parents, though, counseled that it couldn’t hurt to take the typing class. They knew that at some point I wanted to get married and have children and they said I might find that I needed a part-time job while raising the kids and businesses are always looking for good typists.
Reluctantly, I signed up for the class. Although Mrs. Haskell was a taskmaster, I learned many skills that have served me well throughout my life. For instance, I learned how to type without looking at the keyboard. Also, I learned how to format a business letter: the correct salutations to use and the proper closings; how to write a clear, succinct letter and how to indicate there were enclosures with that letter; and how to properly address a business envelope.
I’ve written many letters over the years–to my child’s teachers, to companies explaining returns, letters to business associates congratulating them on their achievements, etc.–and each time I was grateful to Mrs. Haskell.
The skill that I am also very grateful for is typing, the very skill at which I turned up my nose. Not only did it help me with creating professional letters but, more importantly, when computers “took over the world”, I had no trouble with using the keyboard. Many people I knew, particularly the men, used the “hunt and peck” method using just two or three fingers on the keyboard. It was one thing about using computers that I didn’t have to learn–yay!
With today’s mobile phones, iPads, tablets, and the like, touch-typing (as it’s called) is becoming less critical. However, that doesn’t diminish my gratitude to my parents for their wise counsel (once again!) and for Mrs. Haskell in holding us to her high standards.
How have the dots connected for you? Let me know in the comments below!
We were agreeing that this is so true: you don’t know how the dots will connect in your life. And you won’t know until you have the perspective of time, meaning that you’ll see in retrospect that the dots have, or are in the process of, connecting up.
Sometimes that perspective of time is a long, long time. It isn’t a matter of days, weeks, or months. And sometimes you can’t see the dots connecting after a year or even five years. Sometimes it takes living nearly your whole life–40 or more years–before you start to see dots connecting and how events in your life have fit together to get you to where you are and to make you who you are.
So, don’t lose hope if it seems like in spite of all your hard work and dedication that you seem off track and that things aren’t coming together. Keep going because in time you’ll see how it all fits together–how the dots connect.
Bookmark Steven Job’s speech and refer to it often–especially when you need a reminder about connecting the dots in your life.
One minor character said and did something that was noteworthy and relevant to this blog. She was unmarried and, since it was the early 20th Century in England, she desperately wanted a husband.
Note: Small Spoiler Alert!
Because of an event, she thought that the unmarried minister might be The One, so she gave him a home-baked pie. He was very polite, professional, and gentle in not returning her affections (he’s the hero of the story, after all!). Due to another event, she meets a man that turns out to be her future husband.
She summed up the whole experience by saying that she knew what she wanted and she thought she’d found it so she took a leap of faith. She went on to say that it turned out to be in the wrong direction but her course was set right and she did end up meeting her future husband.
This got me to thinking….
I don’t know about you, but sometimes, when I’ve been faced with having to take a leap of faith, I’ve hesitated. I’ve tried to think it through and evaluate the pros and cons. I’ve tried to look down the road and anticipate the outcome of taking the leap of faith as well as not taking it. Sometimes, I’ve decided not to take the leap of faith because it seemed to iffy, like too big of a chance.
Have you ever done that?
In hearing what the character said in the movie, I’ve also realized that when I have taken the leap of faith, things manage to work out. I may not get what I originally thought I would, but what I do receive deepens and enriches my life in a way I hadn’t anticipated.
So, next time you’re faced with a leap of faith, take it! And, enjoy the adventure!
I was chatting with a co-worker today about the recent shootings we’ve had. We were both still stunned by the senselessness of the tragedies and how nuts the world seems right now. She mentioned that she wouldn’t say she’s depressed but she’s definitely had enough of the craziness. She says she takes every opportunity to spend time at home. It’s a place where she can shut out the madness and have an oasis of calmness and peace.
That’s the great thing about home. It’s our own space that we’ve made to suit us; it’s a place where we feel comfortable and secure.
So, I agreed with her strategy and told her that sometimes we need to take a step back and make sense of the world and our lives.
But then she said something that got me to thinking and is really sticking with me.
She said she’s been thinking a lot about a sermon that her minister gave this past weekend. Instead of directly addressing the violence, he took a slightly different view. He advised his parishioners to not let the darkness in the world hide the Light that was given to them to share with the world.
My co-worker said that when she heard that, it was like a refreshing breeze that revitalized her. She said that it’s inspired her to not only let her light shine but to also think of ways to make it shine brighter.
She declared that there was no way that the darkness was going to overtake her light!
Sounds like a great plan! Please join us in fighting the darkness and shining your light even brighter than before!
Maybe the reason why you were born is so that you can be someone else’s miracle. Maybe the answer to your miracle is when you become someone else’s miracle. ~Unknown
So many times I hear friends and acquaintances talk about knotty problems in their lives, and they end their story with “It’ll take a miracle to solve it.” They then proceed to look outside of themselves and hope and pray they see the miracle they need on the horizon and heading toward them.
But, what if there’s a different way to look at our challenges and difficulties?
Today’s quote encourages us to flip our thinking. Instead of sitting around as we’re waiting for our miracle to arrive, use that waiting time to be someone else’s miracle. And, it just might be that as we help someone get the miracle they need, we also break the log jam for ourselves and, like a miracle, we figure out the solution we need.