So Worth It!

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Keep taking steps forward, no matter how small.  Keep putting one foot in front of the other.  It’s so worth it!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

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Look Forward

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Sometimes we find ourselves in the doldrums. Our life may not be that bad, but it isn’t that good either.  But yet, we lack the energy and enthusiasm that we need to get ourselves out of the blue funk we’re in.

I’ve found the best way to do this is to look forward to something–anything.

It doesn’t have to be anything big and exciting; just a little something that you can get a little excited about is good enough.

For instance in the morning, as you’re in bed trying to muster the courage to get out, think about that first sip of coffee that you’ll have, or perhaps you can think about the fresh blueberries you’ll put on your cereal this morning. Or, you can look forward to wearing your favorite tie or a spray of your favorite perfume.

On your drive to work, perhaps you can look forward to seeing the cornflowers that are blooming in the highway’s median. Or you can look forward to having your lunch on a park bench nearby your office.

Find something to look forward to. Then, engage all your senses when you think about it so that you can get yourself really excited and enthused about it.

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Using the blueberries on your morning cereal as an example, think about the deep vibrant blue of the berries. And notice that toward the stem end, some of the berries are a magenta color.  Challenge yourself to observe the berries closely to find other variations in their color.  Then imagine feeling their firm roundness as you rinse them off and, of course, imagine the explosion of sweet-tart in your mouth when you take a bite of them!  YUM!

Do this for all the little things–and big things–that you find in your day that you can look forward to. As you keep doing this, you’ll find your energy and enthusiasm returning!

YAY!

You can do it!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Brave Enough

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I’ve been thinking about people who have achieved success and are living the life of their dreams. I imagine they are brave–much braver than I am.

But then I read a few interviews and talked to the people I know who are successful. I realized they aren’t super-human brave people.

I realized that all they are is brave enough.

They find enough bravery–they are brave enough–to push their terror to the side just a little bit so that there’s a teensy tiny space for them to squeeze by.

They scrape up enough bravery to be brave enough to choose to move forward.

They cobble together bits and bobs of bravery to be brave enough to take the next itsy bitsy step forward.

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So, don’t let some false idea that you aren’t brave enough stop you from rummaging around in your mind, body, and soul for just enough bravery to take the next bit of a step. The bare minimum of bravery is all you need!

 

You can do it–you ARE brave enough to take the next step!

 

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Thought Patterns of People Who Are Living Their Dream

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The day before yesterday we talked about the types of thoughts that people who are living their dream hold in their minds.

You were to think this through for yourself and figure out what thoughts they probably habitually thought. Did you then compare these thoughts to your own?  If so, what did you discover?

People who achieve their dreams routinely think success-filled, uplifting thoughts. Their self-talk is filled with encouragement.

This isn’t to say that they don’t have bad days, that they don’t meet with heartache, that they haven’t ever had to stand by helplessly as their dreams shattered around them. They have had just as many challenges, just as much heartbreak, as the rest of us and have had to figure out how to move forward in spite of disasters, just like me and you.

The difference is that they don’t get bogged down in negative thinking. They don’t wallow in their pain.  They don’t get stuck in a cycle of complaining, blaming, and pitying themselves.

Most of all, they don’t quit, knuckle under, throw in the towel, or give up.

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Regardless of the calamities around them, they figure out how to take a step forward, even if it’s only a teensy tiny one. They keep moving forward.

You can do this, too. You have what it takes to keep your thoughts aimed toward the positive and then to take one itsy bitsy step forward.

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Best Year Yet!

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To all who have had a birthday, who have a birthday today, and who will have a birthday this year, I send you my birthday greetings and my best wishes that this year is your best year yet! 

Happy Birthday! 

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

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What kind of a life do you want to live

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If you’re like most of us, you probably want a happy, fulfilling, prosperous, interesting life.

Are you living that life?

If not, then take a close look at the thoughts you’re thinking.

Like most of us, you probably don’t realize that your thoughts form the very basis of your life; your life is an exact manifestation of the thoughts you’re thinking. I touched on this in yesterday’s post.

If your life is boring, then you must be thinking boring thoughts–the same thoughts and the same type of thoughts that you’ve had for years. You haven’t thought anything new in a long while–or if you have, you’ve allowed your mind and thoughts to go back to the same old thoughts you’ve always had. These same old thoughts drive the same old emotions, which drive the same old actions, habits, and routines.

If your life is filled with drama, frustration, anger, and the like, then those are the thoughts you’re thinking. You are thinking in ways that are making you prickly and making it easy for you to be annoyed, grumpy, and even bitter. These thoughts create a life there’s always something to complain about.

How do you get out of this life that you really don’t want and step into the life you do want?

It’s simple, but not always easy: monitor your thoughts and tweak them to be more positive, uplifting, encouraging, and motivating.

That’s it.

How exactly do you do this, though?

Think about the type of life you’d like to lead–your dream life. What type of person would lead that dream life? Would it be someone who’s always annoyed and has a hair trigger on their temper? Would it be someone who thinks discouraging thoughts–thoughts such as “it’s too hard” or “I don’t have what it takes”?

People who are living lives similar to your dream life probably aren’t always thinking negative, discouraging, boring, hum-drum thoughts. Of course they may have gloomy thoughts from time-to-time, but on the whole they probably have a Can-Do attitude and Can-Do thoughts driving that attitude. Even if a project or obstacle intimidates or overwhelms them, they find a way to tackle it one bit at a time.

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So think it through for yourself and decide for yourself what thoughts you think they’re thinking. Think it through about how those thoughts drive their emotions; and those emotions creating the behaviors that then get them to their dream life.

I can give you examples of the types of thoughts I know they think but I want you to puzzle it out for yourself. By figuring it out for yourself, you’re more apt to believe it, to make it a part of you, and to consistently follow through on taking action on it.

Take time today to think this through–it’s too important to delay. For every moment you put it off or hesitate, that’s one less moment you get to live that life you want.

You can do this, I am sure of it!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Thoughts: Take Care of Them!

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As a single footstep will not make a path on the earth, so a single thought will not make a pathway in the mind. To make a deep physical path, we walk again and again. To make a deep mental path, we must think over and over the kind of thoughts we wish to dominate our lives. ~Henry David Thoreau

 

Oftentimes we hear people complain that affirmations don’t work. We also hear other people ridicule affirmations, alluding that the person saying the affirmations is easily duped or is simple-minded.

As Henry David Thoreau points out, it’s through the repetition of a thought that it becomes ingrained in our minds and in us and, thus, becomes a habitual way of thinking. These thought patterns then lead to habitual ways of behaving.  When we’ve trained ourselves to have an optimistic mind set, we tend to step out of our comfort zones, we aren’t so easily rattled or discouraged.

We think of affirmations as positive statements and positive ways of thinking and behaving. But affirmations can also be negative–and we can–and do!–train our minds to think in negative terms.  Every time we say or think “I can’t…” or “It’s too hard…” or “I’m not lucky like other people…”  and the like, we’re saying and thinking an affirmation–training our minds to be negative.  This negative affirmation leads to a negative mindset which then influences our behavior, making us not try for the thing, or only try half-heartedly.  Sometimes, we give up even before we try!

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It’s important to note that the thoughts we think are rarely neutral. On the surface they may seem so, but if you dig a little bit you’ll find either a negative or positive kernel at the root of what seems neutral.

So, take care with your thoughts! If they aren’t positive, uplifting, optimistic, or encouraging, then they are negative, deflating, gloomy, or pessimistic. 

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren