Decisions: The Good Versus The Bad



We get ourselves all jumbled up and discombobulated because we’re hesitant to make a decision.

Here’s something to consider: We won’t know if our decision is a good one or not. We need the perspective of time to determine this.

I’m sure you’re like me and you’ve had the experience where you’ve made a decision and it turned out well in the short term but over the long haul, it wasn’t the best decision. But then after more time has passed, perhaps several years, it turns out that the original decision was a good one after all!

Over time, the results of decisions can change because they’re like ripples on the surface of a pond when we drop a rock into it–the effects of our decisions go on and on throughout our whole lives.   Usually, they’re like tiny particles moving through our lives and they combine with other decisions, which causes them to modify each other.

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So, don’t let the fretting over making decisions keep you from making them. Do your homework and your due diligence and then make the best decision that you can in that moment.

Then move on.

As you keep taking steps, your new decisions will tweak and modify your previous ones.  So no worries if you come across new information. You can always make another decision!

It’s all good and it all works out.

Make that decision and take the next step!

You can do it, I am supremely confident in you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,


I Coulda Been a Contender: The Key to a Long Life

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One final thought (for now!) on the quote “I coulda been a contender…”.

Years ago I read about a study on what habit or habits long-lived people had in common. Scientist were trying to find the key that would provide the formula for living into the 90s and longer. They postulated that things like regular exercise, good nutrition, not smoking or over-indulging in alcohol would be habits that all people in their 90s and older would share.

Scientists were shocked to discover that none of these habits were shared by all the people in their studies. There were people who had some wine or beer every day; a few smoked; others never regularly exercised.

But, there was one trait that all long-lived people shared, and it was something that the researchers hadn’t considered.

The habit that they all shared was letting go.

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As quickly as they could, they shook off hurts, disappointments, frustrations, and negative thoughts and behaviors.

They didn’t waste their time with lamenting that they “coulda been a contender”.

They turned their back on the past, faced forward, and embraced the future.

Good advice for us all to follow!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,


Elbow Room



Give yourself elbow room today to start the week off right.

What your elbow room might look like:


~giving yourself extra time to contemplate, meditate, pray;


~spending more time with friends and family;


~making out a menu for the week that uses items in your pantry so you aren’t stumped every day about what meals to prepare so you reach for easy, less healthy, solutions…;


~deciding what you’ll wear each day and making sure it’s clean, pressed, and ready to go so that you’re mornings are smoother;


~straightening and putting away “stuff” that’s accumulated that prevents your home from being the sanctuary and oasis in the midst of a busy world;

~relaxing with a good book;


~going for a walk….


What ever you need to set yourself up for a good week, do it!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,




How Do You Know?



I arrived early for a get together with a friend at our local coffee shop.   Sitting in the booth my friend and I always try to snag was a group of high school girls chatting and, of course, giggling.

I was eavesdropping so I couldn’t help but overhear them talking (!!) about a girl they all knew who had a leading part in a play in the local theatre program for teens. Then I heard one of the girls say that she could never do that, be on stage and have everyone looking at her.

That statement stopped me dead in my tracks.

The girl was seventeen, tops, but most likely fifteen or sixteen–far too young to be limiting herself.

I wanted to walk over and ask, “How do you know; how do you know you can’t do that?”

Had she tried, really tried? 

Even if she had and her attempt was met with failure, that doesn’t mean she’s automatically disqualified from ever trying again. And it also means that she isn’t barred for the rest of her life from trying other professions or taking advantage of other opportunities where she’d use words and gesture to persuade people to see the world a certain way, if only for a little while.

The truth is, she doesn’t know what she can and cannot do.

I wager that’s a true statement for all of us. Emerson was right when he said most people live lives of quiet desperation.  Like the girl I overheard, we think we can’t do a thing and we come up with reasons and justifications and “proof” that we can’t.

Well, how do we know for sure?

Have we really committed to the thing–gone all in, gone for broke with it? More likely, there’ve been parts of us that have hesitated and hung back and, as a result, we really didn’t give ourselves a good chance.

We’ve let other people’s arbitrary measuring guides tell us whether or not we’re qualified and whether or not we were successful. Sometimes it isn’t about achieving but rather it’s about the experience.

Stop holding yourself back!

When you hear that little voice saying “I can’t”, ask it “how do you know?” Then go for it.  Take the next little step toward your dreams!

You can do it, I’m sure of it!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,


“I Coulda Been a Contender”: Yet Another Look at It


Yep. You coulda been a contender, my friend that I met in the library coulda been an heiress (I told you about the encounter in a previous post), and I coulda been “farther along” (whatever that means!)….

But we aren’t.

None of us are what we “coulda been”.

We are who we are and we are what we have become in this moment, right here and right now.

So, what are we going to do about it?

Are we going to make changes so that we could take our shot at being a contender/heiress/farther along/fill-in-the-blank? Perhaps we feel that we still have enough resources and wherewithal within us to make “one last stand”.

If that’s the case, then by all means go for it, meaning no holds barred. Put everything we have out there and on the table and we go for broke. Let it rip. Give it all we got, the very best of what we got.

Let’s make a pact, though, that win, lose, or draw, we’re going to let the contender business go.  J

Or perhaps, when we sit and have a good think about it (a la Winnie the Pooh!), we may find that our lives aren’t so lacking. Perhaps we’ll find that who we truly are has manifested itself in what we have become more beautifully and in a more perfect way than what we realized. We may find that, on the whole, we’re totally okay with where we are and who we are.

Which means we can let that contender business go. J

Which one will you choose: take a shot at it first and then let it go or let it go right now?

Let me know in the comments below!

Please pass along this post to a friend. Thanks!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,


Why not Say “YES!” ?

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What keeps you from saying “YES!” to your Still Small Voice? ~Unknown


What IS keeping you from saying “YES!” to your dreams? Why aren’t you taking them seriously?  Why aren’t you moving toward them in little increments each day?

Of course many of the answers will be logical and reasonable and make sense, such as I have to pay the bills and I have a family to support and My degree/training is in XYZ field….

Then there are the faithful old standbys of I’m too old/young/short/tall/thin/fat/smart/dumb….

But these are just scare tactics we use on ourselves to keep ourselves in line, i.e. not going for our dreams but rather sticking with the status quo and not making any waves and not rocking the boat.

But why?

What’s so important about the status quo? What’s the dire thing we’re so afraid of if we do make waves?  What will happen if we don’t rock the boat; what will happen if we do rock the boat?

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Why not say “YES!!!”?

Let me know in the comments below.

Your Friend and Pep Pal,


I Coulda Been a Contender Revisited


The Universe is a big place. Like a fine old-fashioned watch, there are a lot of gears, cogs, wheels, and the like that are connected and interdependent.

Particle scientist and Quantum Physicists are laying the groundwork to prove that even the slightest variations in the behavior of quarks, the smallest particles that scientists are currently able to detect, may be able to affect galaxies. It’s known as the Butterfly Effect, where very small actions in one part of a system can have complex and far-reaching effects in another area of the system.

This is explaining another look that we’re taking at what we touched upon in a post last week when we fantasize about how wonderful our lives could have been “if only…”.

The life you’re living–the one you have right here and right now, complete with all the good and bad–you have no idea how it’s connected to the larger whole. And it IS connected. You may never know how you’re connected to the immensity, not even when you move on to what ever is next after this existence.

It may take us perfecting ourselves to the point where we can’t tell the difference between Divine Intelligence and ourselves before we “get it” about what our role has been.

So, because we don’t know–and we’ll never know, at least in this lifetime–how we fit in with all of Creation, we should probably stop torturing ourselves about it. We should accept that we’ll probably won’t ever have irrefutable proof from outside of us that the life we’ve chosen to live–not the ones of our “if only” fantasies–was the best and most valuable one to us, to the world, and to the Universe.

So stop thinking “if only…” and “what if…” and get busy living our lives to the best of our ability right here and right now.


Your Friend and Pep Pal,


I’m Okay, You’re Okay


This is the title of a self-help book that was popular in the 1970s. It’s about helping people feel good about who they are, even though they are not exactly like anyone else.  Even today, we’re told that we’re perfect just the way we are.  In fact, Mr. Rogers is famous for saying “I like you just the way you are.”

Some people meet these statements with cynicism and distain. But these statements are true:


You are okay being who you are;

You are perfect at being you;

You are worthy to be liked as yourself.


Does this mean that everyone is going to like us, respect us, treat us gloriously, and celebrate us?

Of course not.

But that should not deter us, block us, or stop us from being who we truly are. The more that we are who we are, the more we’re going to create circumstances where we WILL meet people who like us, respect us, treat us gloriously, and celebrate us.

There is a catch with these statements, though, and it creates confusion. I think it comes in when we think that these statements mean we can sit back and stop developing ourselves, that we no longer need to refining our personalities, and that we can quit learning about ourselves and understanding ourselves at deeper levels.

No matter what, it’s vitally important that we still improve, elevate, and transcend who we are now to a better, clearer version of ourselves.  

We do this by taking seriously that thing (or those things) that your heart and soul are urging you toward and regularly moving toward it/them.

You can do it!

Please pass this post along to your friends. Thanks!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,


Open to the Goodness of the Universe


“The more clearly we can focus our attention on the wonders and realities of the universe about us the less taste we shall have for the destruction of our race. Wonder and humility are wholesome emotions, and they do not exist side by side with a lust for destruction. Rachel Carson, from her speech when she accepted the John Burroughs Medal in 1952

Today’s a perfect day to be open to all the little “bits and bobs” of Goodness that the Universe has for each of us.

Your Friend and Pep Pal,