I’m sure you’ve heard the saying “If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all.” You may think this applies to gratitude, that if you can’t think of something nice to be grateful for, then it’s best to just forget it until later on when you’re in a better mood.
This is not true!
You CAN be negatively grateful!
This is particularly valuable when you’re going through a rough patch and may be feeling especially ornery, cranky, crabby, grumpy, grouchy, prickly, etc..
Even though you may see pretty flowers and hear the soothing sounds of a fountain, you’re so frustrated and annoyed at life that you don’t want to admit that there’s anything good going on. Being grateful for the good stuff that you unwillingly and very reluctantly might acknowledge feels like an insult, which further annoys and frustrates you!
So then embrace that cranky, ornery, grumpy thing that’s going on and be grateful in a negative way.
For instance if you’re struggling with debt, you can be grateful that you’re not worse off with even more debt than what you have. Also as and example, you can be grateful that although you’re struggling with debt, you aren’t also battling an addiction.
As the saying goes, “Things can always be worse…”, and you can be grateful for the fact that they aren’t.
As you’re negatively grateful, you’ll find your attitude will begin shifting toward the positive. Your more positive mindset will have the benefit of stronger resilience. With stronger resilience, you’ll have more stick-to-it-ive-ness. The longer you persevere, the more apt you’ll be to break through to something much, much better.
And that’s a good thing you can be grateful for!
Your Friend and Pep Pal,