Quotes: All is Not Lost

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I have a dear friend who is in the midst of a crisis of faith–not necessarily in a religious sense, although there is a spiritual component to her “lost wanderings”, but more of a bewilderment at Life in general.

I’ve found it very difficult to know what to say to help her. I don’t want to parrot the old maxims that are insulting in their triteness but yet there has to be something that someone has said that can give a flicker of light to someone struggling in the murk and gloom.

Below are a few quotes I found that I thought might give her something to cling to as she works her way through this.

Let me know what you think of them:

 

Life is filled with unanswered questions, but it is the courage to seek those answers that continues to give meaning to life. You can spend your life wallowing in despair, wondering why you were the one who was led towards the road strewn with pain, or you can be grateful that you are strong enough to survive it. ― J.D. Stroube, Caged by Damnation

 

Does anything in nature despair except man? An animal with a foot caught in a trap does not seem to despair. It is too busy trying to survive. It is all closed in, to a kind of still, intense waiting. Is this a key? Keep busy with survival. Imitate the trees. Learn to lose in order to recover, and remember that nothing stays the same for long, not even pain, psychic pain. Sit it out. Let it all pass. Let it go. ― May Sarton, Journal of a Solitude

 

Those who make us believe that anything’s possible and fire our imagination over the long haul, are often the ones who have survived the bleakest of circumstances. The men and women who have every reason to despair, but don’t, may have the most to teach us, not only about how to hold true to our beliefs, but about how such a life can bring about seemingly impossible social change. ― Paul Rogat Loeb, The Impossible Will Take a Little While: A Citizen’s Guide to Hope in a Time of Fear

 

Whatever happens in your life, no matter how troubling things might seem, do not enter the neighborhood of despair. Even when all doors remain closed, God will open up a new path only for you. Be thankful! It is easy to be thankful when all is well. A Sufi is thankful not only for what he has been given but also for all that has been denied.

~Elif Shafak

 

When all else is lost, the future still remains. ― Christian Bovee

 

But hope is no less realistic than despair. It is still our choice whether to live in light or lie down in darkness. ― Rick Yancey, The Isle of Blood

 

The death of a dream can in fact serve as the vehicle that endows it with new form, with reinvigorated substance, a fresh flow of ideas, and splendidly revitalized color. In short, the power of a certain kind of dream is such that death need not indicate finality at all but rather signify a metaphysical and metaphorical leap forward.

~Aberjhani, The River of Winged Dreams

 

To be truly radical is to make hope possible rather than despair convincing ― Raymond Williams

 

Which quotes did you like? Let me know in the comments below.

Please pass this post along to a friend. Thanks!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

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Self-Actualization: What it Isn’t

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A few thoughts on what self-actualization isn’t:

 

It isn’t a race to the “top of the ladder”

Even though Maslow’s Hierarchy of Need is depicted as a pyramid, that’s just a rough way of characterizing esoteric concepts. There is no real “top” to get to.  It’s all about being more of who you Truly Are.

 

It isn’t about getting more money, more power, more prestige

Although these things may come to people who are fully committed to self-actualization, they aren’t at all what these people strive for.

 

It isn’t becoming better than anyone else; it isn’t about narcissism or self-aggrandizement

It’s about being who you were born to be and doing what you were born to do.

 

It isn’t about finally getting to Easy Street

It can be a difficult journey because self actualization is about giving up ego and looking yourself in the eye and accepting yourself as you are in each moment; it’s about forgiving and letting it all go.

 

It isn’t about any religion or philosophy

Although, self-actualization is deeply profound and sacred.

 

What are your thoughts about self-actualization or Maslow’s Hierarchy of Need, or the Chakras. Let me know in the comments below.  Thanks!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Self-Actualization: What Is It?

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Before beginning a journey, it’s a good habit to have an idea of where you’re headed. We’re starting a journey of self-actualization and the following quotes give some insight into what it is, what we’re aiming for.

Read the quotes, think about them. Which ones did you like, which ones didn’t make sense?  What are your thoughts about self actualization?  Let me know in the comments section below!

 

The good life is a process, not a state of being. It is a direction not a destination.  Carl Rogers

The person in peak-experiences feels himself, more than other times, to be the responsible, active, creating center of his activities and of his perceptions. He feels more like a prime-mover, more self-determined (rather than caused, determined, helpless, dependent, passive, weak, bossed). He feels himself to be his own boss, fully responsible, fully volitional, with more “free-will” than at other times, master of his fate, an agent. ~Abraham Maslow

Instead of dedicating your life to actualize a concept of what you should be like, ACTUALIZE YOURSELF. Many people dedicate their lives to actualizing a concept of what they should be like, rather than actualizing themselves. This difference between self-actualization and self-image actualization is very important. Most people live only for their image.  ~Bruce Lee

It is easy to live for others, everybody does. I call on you to live for yourself.” ― Ralph Waldo Emerson

Self-actualization cannot be attained if it is made an end in itself, but only as a side effect of self-transcendence.  ~Viktor E. Frankl

Every living organism is fulfilled when it follows the right path for its own nature. ― Marcus Aurelius, Meditations

 

I hope these quotes got you to thinking…!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

New Focus: Self-Actualization

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I’ve been doing a lot of thinking since my June posts about goals. If you recall, I encouraged all of us to take a look at the goals we set in January and, instead of becoming discouraged if we find little progress, to tweak our goals so that we can still accomplish some, if not all, of what we set for ourselves to do in 2016.

You may remember that I talked about a few different goal setting systems–in particular the Seven (or Eight) Chakra system and Maslow’s Heirarchy of Need. I was surprised to see that these systems mirror each other.  For instance the first chakra is concerned with surviving in the world and this is true for the lower levels of Maslow’s pyramid.

Also, the higher chakras are about connecting with and manifesting the Divine through you. This corresponds to Maslow’s highest level of self-actualization, realizing that there’s more than just us “out there” and finding fulfilling ways of bringing this into the world.

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I am deeply fascinated by this and I want to focus this blog on self-actualization, what it is, what it means to each of us, and how we go about actualizing ourselves!

I don’t have all the answers but I am eager to discover them. I hope you come along on the journey with me.  This is going to be FUN!

Thanks for joining me!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Labor Day 2016: Thank you!

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To those who contribute to the greater good of the world: whether you work inside the home or outside of it, whether you get paid in money or intangibles,

thank you for making the world a better place.

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Decisions: Fresh Air

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Fresh air: we know it’s one of the essentials we need for optimum health, fitness, and wholeness.

We also need fresh air in our mind, emotions, and soul. This gives us room to breathe and to gather our thoughts.  It’s a way of pressing the mental, emotional, and spiritual reset button.

 

Some of my favorite ways of doing this are:

~listening to uplifting music

~reading inspiring passages from sacred writings

~relaxing with friends and family

~hiking up to a spot that overlooks a nearby lake and savoring the view

~photography

~contemplating and ruminating on the meaning of life

~daydreaming

 

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There are many other ways, in fact I am quite sure that you’ve thought of your own favorite ways to infuse your mental, emotional, and spiritual self with fresh air!

Let me know your favorite ways–share in the comments below!

Enjoy!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Decisions Which Ones?

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As summer officially winds down and we prepare to celebrate Labor Day with a long weekend, take a moment to think about the decisions you’ve been hesitating in making or putting off all together. Take a close look at them and see if there is a smaller decision that you can make–a decision that’s part of the larger one that you’re not quite able to commit to making.  Sometimes it’s too intimidating and overwhelming to make The Big Decision.  In that case, break the Big Decision down into smaller chunks–bite-sized ones are the perfect size.

Make that little decision and follow through with it.

Then make another bite-sized decision and follow through.

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Keep doing this and soon you’ll find that either the Big Decision is much more manageable or that the bite-sized decisions have solved it.

The bonus is discovering that you’re much closer to your dreams now because of all the little decisions you’ve been making and following through on!

WooHoo! Go, YOU!

You ROCK!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren