Decisions: One of My Best Decisions


My new practice of stillness and silence first thing in the morning is one of the best decisions I’ve made recently. I highly recommend it.

I’ve been doing this morning practice for about six weeks and I find that my overall attitude and approach to life is changing for the better.

Before when confronted with a challenging situation, my default reaction would be some variation of “…this is way too hard…I can’t…” I would have assumed that huge, painful effort would be required so I’d procrastinate. I would have to psyche myself up to deal with it.

Now when an obstacle looms ahead, I notice that even though I still hesitate or get that knot in my stomach, I’m more apt to pause a moment and then say “Okay. Let’s break this down. Let me start with the easy part. I can gently pick my way through this problem and find the solution.” I am more confident that the issue has a solution and that it’s within the scope of my powers to find it.

So, even though I’m not getting earth-shattering revelations and winning lottery numbers aren’t appearing in my dreams, regularly sitting in stillness and silence is helping me. I find that I’m more hopeful and optimistic which gives me confidence in taking action toward my goals and dreams.

Do you have a morning ritual that’s helping you–that has been the best decision you’ve made? Please feel free to share it in the comments below. Thanks!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,


Decisions: What Difference Does it Make?!


This past weekend, I was at a small end-of-summer party given by a friend of mine and I’d met a person there who got me to thinking….

The woman I met was lovely and her thoughts on the Law of Attraction and manifestation techniques were interesting and thought-provoking. Initially, I enjoyed her conversation within the group.

But then, something felt off.

I noticed her catch-all explanation for goals that she and others hadn’t achieved was that it was karma or an issue from a past life that carried over to this life. She clung to this explanation, which seemed to doom people to a pre-destined, unchangeable, and irrevocable fate. I wasn’t the only one who was wondering about this life and free will because a lively discussion followed on just those topics and how they relate to reincarnation, past lives, and karma.

Our little group didn’t solve those problems that evening (!!), but all the points raised during the discussion kept going around in my mind as I drove home. I wondered why I was still agitated by her comments.

It dawned on me that her rock-solid resolution that karma and past life issues explained all with no further thoughts or investigation needed was a different way of making excuses and giving justifications to give up and play the victim.

We can’t do that. We can’t give up. We can’t be the victim and cry “poor me”!

Even if she’s right that karma controls everything across time and space and that reincarnation is a fact and issues from all of our past lives spill over from one life to the next to the next, picking up momentum and issues like a snowball thundering down a hill, we can’t let that stop us from living THIS life.

We are right here right now–not in some past life nor are we in a future. We are in THIS life, right now.

Of course we all have issues to work on such as character and personality flaws that need correcting and improving–who doesn’t?!

But, what difference does it make if they stem from a karmic debt, an unresolved issue from a past life, or if it results from some difficult experience in our childhood or earlier adult years in this life right now?

What difference does it make where it comes from?! Because, regardless, the issues need dealing with right here right now.

We must do the best we can with it in each moment that we have in this life.

The question to ask ourselves is: What can I do right here and right now that will help me improve myself and thus improve my life?

Then we need to do that thing. Break it down into small steps, as needed, then follow through on doing those steps!

You can do it!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,



Decisions: The Good versus The Bad – An Additional Thought


Ancestors plant the trees; descendants enjoy the shade. ~Chinese Proverb

Yesterday we talked about how the full impact of our decisions may not be understood for years to come.

Today, I have another thought for you: the decisions you make today may not be fully realized for decades or generations yet to come. While you are still on Earth, you may never know the scope and reverberations of decisions that you’ve made.

For instance, in your life right now you may be reaping the benefits of ancestors deciding to leave their homeland for better opportunities on distant shores. Or, perhaps one of your grandparents decided to buck the family system and, instead of learning a trade, decided to go to college. Decisions like these helped not only the person and their own family, but their echoes continue to pave the way for following generations to build better lives for themselves and their families.

So, it comes down to making the best decision each day; don’t fret so much with having all your “ducks in a row”. Of course do your research but then make the decision and follow through. Keep making decisions and keep following through knowing that you can tweak, refine, and improve your decisions, and your decision-making process, as you move forward.

Keep moving forward!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,