Thanksgiving: Unimportant Differences

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Unimportant Differences

 

         If he is honest, kindly, true,

           And glad to work from day to day;

         If when his bit of toil is through

             With children he will stoop to play;

         If he does always what he can

           To serve another’s time of need,

         Then I shall hail him as a man

           And never ask him what’s his creed.

 

         If he respects a woman’s name

           And guards her from all thoughtless jeers;

         If he is glad to play life’s game

            And not risk all to get the cheers;

         If he disdains to win by bluff

           And scorns to gain by shady tricks,

         I hold that he is good enough

             Regardless of his politics.

 

         If he is glad his much to share

             With them who little here possess,

         If he will stand by what is fair

           And not desert to claim success,

         If he will leave a smile behind

           As he proceeds from place to place,

         He has the proper frame of mind,

           And I won’t stop to ask his race.

 

         For when at last life’s battle ends

           And all the troops are called on high

         We shall discover many friends

             That thoughtlessly we journeyed by.

         And we shall learn that God above

           Has judged His creatures by their deeds,

         That millions there have won His love

           Who spoke in different tongues and creeds.

~Edgar A. Guest

 

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

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Thanksgiving: Seeing Your Lot in Life Through Another’s Eyes

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The following poem is a good reminder to be grateful for who we are and the life we’re living.

 

The Other Fellow        

 

Whose luck is better far than ours?

             The other fellow’s.

         Whose road seems always lined with flowers?

             The other fellow’s.

         Who is the man who seems to get

         Most joy in life, with least regret,

         Who always seems to win his bet?

             The other fellow.

 

         Who fills the place we think we’d like?

             The other fellow.

         Whom does good fortune always strike?

             The other fellow.

         Whom do we envy, day by day?

         Who has more time than we to play?

        Who is it, when we mourn, seems gay?

             The other fellow.

 

         Who seems to miss the thorns we find?

             The other fellow.

         Who seems to leave us all behind?

             The other fellow.

         Who never seems to feel the woe,

         The anguish and the pain we know?

         Who gets the best seats at the show?

             The other fellow.

 

         And yet, my friend, who envies you?

             The other fellow.

         Who thinks he gathers only rue?

             The other fellow.

         Who sighs because he thinks that he

         Would infinitely happier he,

         If he could be like you or me?

             The other fellow. 

~Edgar A. Guest

This is a gentle reminder that each one of us is best suited to live the life we’ve been given.

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Thanksgiving: A Positive Attitude

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In anticipation of Thanksgiving Day in the U.S., please enjoy the following poem. It shows us how to find the positive within the negative and that, truly, there is always something for which to be thankful!

 

SCULPTOR’S ATTITUDE
I woke up early today, excited over all I get to do before the clock strikes midnight. I have responsibilities to fulfill today. I am important. My job is to choose what kind of day I am going to have.

Today I can complain because the weather is rainy or I can be thankful that the grass is getting watered for free.

Today I can feel sad that I don’t have more money or I can be glad that my finances encourage me to plan my purchases wisely and guide me away from waste.

Today I can grumble about my health or I can rejoice that I am alive.

Today I can lament over all that my parents didn’t give me when I was growing up or I can feel grateful that they allowed me to be born.

Today I can cry because roses have thorns or I can celebrate that thorns have roses.

Today I can mourn my lack of friends or I can excitedly embark upon a quest to discover new relationships.

Today I can whine because I have to go to work or I can shout for joy because I have a job to do.

Today I can complain because I have to go to school or eagerly open my mind and fill it with rich new tidbits of knowledge.

Today I can murmur dejectedly because I have to do housework or I can feel honored because the Lord has provided shelter for my mind, body and soul.

Today stretches ahead of me, waiting to be shaped. And here I am, the sculptor who gets to do the shaping.

What today will be like is up to me. I get to choose what kind of day I will have!

Have a GREAT DAY! Unless you have other plans….

~ Author Unknown

 

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Using Your Imagination

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Our imagination is a powerful tool in the same way that a hammer is a powerful tool. It can either build something magnificent or it can tear something down; it’s all in how it’s used.

Here are a few quotes to remind you of the power of your imagination and to use it constructively in your life rather than destructively:

Don’t use your imagination to pull yourself down, to defeat yourself; use it to encourage yourself, to strengthen and inspire yourself, to move yourself forward. ~Joel Osteen

Why do we let our imaginations run wild with the worst-case scenarios and how things aren’t going to work out and how it’s going to crush us? Why not let our imaginations run wild with the positive:  how delightful it’ll be living our purpose, how wonderfully we’ll take care of our loved ones, how deeply honored we’ll feel to have a profound impact on our world….  ~Joel Osteen

When your imagination starts to show you the ending, make it show you the rest of the story–that it’s actually a new beginning. ~Joel Osteen

 

This week keep these thoughts handy–especially the ones that resonate with you. Refer to them often so that you keep your mind focused on a positive track.

You can do it!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

PS Please forward these quotes to a friend.  Thanks!

Facts About You

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This post is my 1,000th. Thank you, Dear Friends and Pep Pals, for joining me on this journey.  Thank you!

 

You were born to flourish.

Why wouldn’t you be born to flourish?  Seems to me it’s a waste of time, energy, and assets for Source to put you on this earth so that all you do is take up space and use up resources.  It serves no one and no thing to have you always taking and never contributing anything in return.  When you’re flourishing, you’re also contributing to the greater good of the world.

 

You were born to thrive.

What good does it do anyone if you’re just barely making it through the day? What purpose does it serve for you to limp along through life?  The essence of life is exuberant abundance and vigorous expansion.  Look at Nature and you’ll see that this is true:  there isn’t only one flower in one color in one location that’s blooming.  No.  There are millions of flowers in a kaleidoscope of colors blooming all over the world in just about every nook and cranny imaginable.

 

You were born for a purpose.

You are packed full of talents, gifts, and abilities and it’s nonsensical to think that they should remain dormant and untried within you. They are to be used in support of you living the life of your dreams and by doing so, inspiring others to live the life of their dreams.

 

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You can do this. You have what it takes.  All you need to do is keep taking the next best step, no matter how small.  They all add up; there is no such thing as a wasted step.

I believe in you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Woes and Troubles: When You Need More Than a Rest

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Yesterday we talked about resting as we work our way through rough patches.  I gave some suggestions of things to do during our rest time that would make it refreshing and productive.

Today I want to address the times when Life really wallops you a good one.  Perhaps it isn’t one big roundhouse but rather a whole bunch of sucker punches that add up to knocking you down and out for the count.

Using an example from my own life, since mid-summer, I’ve had one blow after another in the form of friends, loved ones of friends, and friend-acquaintances passing on.  It isn’t just one or two people but it numbers in the double-digits–quite frankly, I lost count.  On top of that, I’ve had several personal and family emergencies to handle as well as those of very dear friends.  This week I was feeling the effects of all the emotional shock and turmoil that has resulted from all of this.

At first, the strategies I talked about yesterday were valuable in helping me get back on my feet.  I did things like sitting out on my deck at night and gazing at the stars, reading a mystery book, watching old TV shows on YouTube, etc..  But lately I’ve found that these activities are less and less effective.  In fact, this week has been particularly difficult and these things really haven’t helped at all.

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It occurred to me that I needed to allow myself the time to feel my emotions.  I realized that so many traumatic events had happened one after the other that I didn’t have the chance to properly process them.  I had to give myself a big chunk of time to acknowledge my emotions.

For me, this took the form of reflection and contemplation, trying to make sense of everything. I thought about how all of these changes would affect my life and what I wanted to do about it (ideally) and what was practical to do about it.  Working through this involved talking to trusted family members and very close friends so I could gain perspective.   This helped me see that in the midst of all the sadness and loss, there were still pockets of happiness and goodness.

Also, I allow time (several days, as a matter of fact) of feeling sad–and giving myself permission to feel the sadness. I also told myself it was okay to have days of weepiness, where even the most innocuous, random things would make me tear up!

Although it was uncomfortable allowing myself to take the time to be emotional, I knew I was safe in doing so. I trusted that, like all things, “…this, too, shall pass” as my parents would always tell us kids.  I also knew that allowing myself to go through this grieving process would be cleansing and healing.

I am pleased to say that following this strategy is working.  Gradually, I’m regaining my equilibrium.

If you find that your usual self-help tools are not working, it’s time to stop and allow yourself to acknowledge and feel your emotions.  It’s also time to reach out to others.  Talking to a trusted friend or loved one, meeting with your minister or other spiritual leader, as well as discussing your concerns with a qualified counselor are all excellent steps to take.  You may want to consult with the appropriate health care professional as well.

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Reaching out for help is the right thing to do.

Do you use other techniques to help yourself when Life really wallops you a good one?  If so, please share them in the comments below so we can all learn something new.  Thanks!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

 

Woes and Troubles: Rest but Don’t Quit

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Yesterday we talked about one of my favorite uplifting poems called Don’t Quit by Edgar A. Guest.

My favorite lines are:

When care is pressing you down a bit;

Rest, if you must, but don’t you quit.

 

There are times when it feels like Life is ganging up on us and pulling out all the stops. It can be overwhelming, to say the least.  We think we need to keep pushing forward–forging ahead.  But yet, it’s just too hard and we can’t seem to find enough energy within ourselves so we can’t seem to move forward.

As my two favorite lines tell us, it’s okay to rest. It’s okay to take a moment to pause, to take a break.  Here are a few things that I do when I need a break:

~focus on the small, simple things I’m glad about and grateful for;

~read a book and/or watch a movie that makes me laugh;

~look through photos I’ve taken;

~take a walk in nature;

~take a nap;

~listen to uplifting messages;

~daydream.

I give myself a little bit of time to rest, listening to my body and mind for cues. After a time, which could range anywhere from 15 minutes to a few hours, I gently try to tackle a tiny step, one that is easy–easy being defined as something that I don’t have to think to much about and something that I feel I have the energy and emotional wherewithal to handle.

This isn’t an exact science so I will sometimes have to back off from the task when it becomes too much and do something to help me rest and press the reset button. Then I turn back to the task.

As I keep doing this, I find that I gradually regain my equilibrium and then can get back to my usual pace.

Is this what you do? Do you have other techniques that you find helpful?  Please share them in the comments below.  Thanks!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren