Sometimes we get a gift that’s a definite klunker. We’re tempted to feel insulted because how could that person have gotten us so wrong that they thought we’d like/appreciate the particular gift?!
Yeah. It’s happened to me, too: my cousin gave me a Chia pet (really?!), the co-worker who gave me after shave (ummm…not a man…but maybe you missed the company-wide memo…), the loved one who gave me something from a flea market….
But then, I heard a story that made me think of this situation in a little different light.
It was about a woman who wasn’t looking forward to the holidays because it seemed that her whole family didn’t know her and always got her gifts that, to her, were off base. But, one holiday, her attitude drastically.
She unwrapped a gift from her college-aged son. It was a blouse in a color and style that was all wrong for her. Just as she was going to disappointedly put it to the side, she caught the look on her son’s face: he was smiling with the warmth of love in his eyes. At that moment, she realized he saw her as someone who was stylish and confident enough to wear the color. It turned out that the style and color of the blouse actually looked stunning on her.
So, in my own case, I realized my cousin enjoyed my sense of humor and thought I’d get a kick out of the Chia pet; I appreciated how my co-worker tends to be quirky and think out of the box and is not limited by gender/race/creed, etc.; and the flea market gift, I understood that my loved one had hit a rough patch and was doing the best they could to give me a good gift.
So, those gifts–you know the ones–if you look under the surface, perhaps they really aren’t klunkers after all.
Your Friend and Pep Pal,