Two weeks ago we talked about Baby Steps. I read an post today by Michael Hyatt about habits. It reminded me so much about our chat about Baby Steps two weeks ago. I found it particularly interesting when Michael talked about triggers and streaks. These are two very effective tools to keep you on track and they dovetail beautifully with the work that Dr. B. J. Fogg has done (scroll to the middle of the page of the link to find a link to his resources).
I’ve found triggers to be an important tool for establishing the habit of baby steps. Sometimes our minds convince ourselves that it’s better to keep to the old routine, i.e. rut. It reasons that you need the extra 15 minutes of sleep or that the TV program is very interesting. But triggers like the ones that Dr. Fogg talks about are powerful nudges that your mind can’t ignore or pooh-pooh so easily.
I’ve also found streaks to be an effective tool as well because it taps into our competitive nature as well as our need for routine. Once you’ve done a new habit a few days in a row, you can make it a competition with yourself to see how many days in a row you can keep it up. And your mind gets used to the idea of getting up at 6am, say, to do a few gentle stretches before starting the day—a new routine. Both Dr. Fogg and Michael Hyatt agree!
Confidence comes not from always being right but rather from not fearing to be wrong. ~Peter McIntyre
Don’t wait until everything is just right. It will never be perfect. There will always be challenges, obstacles, and less than perfect conditions. So what? Get started now. With each step you take, you will grow stronger and stronger, more and more skilled, more and more self-confident, and more and more successful. ~Mark Victor Hansen
Trust yourself. Create the kind of self that you will be happy to live with all your life. Make the most of yourself by fanning the tiny, inner sparks of possibility into flames of achievement. ~Golda Meir
The courage to be is the courage to accept oneself, in spite of being unacceptable. ~Paul Tillich
Trust yourself. You know more than you think you do. ~Dr. Benjamin Spock
Successful people have fear, successful people have doubts, and successful people have worries. They just don’t let these feelings stop them. ~T. Harv Eker
I had to grow to love my body. I did not have a good self-image at first. Finally it occurred to me, I’m either going to love me or hate me. And I chose to love myself. Then everything kind of sprung from there. Things that I thought weren’t attractive became sexy. Confidence makes you sexy. ~Queen Latifah
Nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal; nothing on earth can help the man with the wrong mental attitude. ~Thomas Jefferson
If you are insecure, guess what? The rest of the world is, too. Do not overestimate the competition and underestimate yourself. You are better than you think. ~T. Harv Eker
To anyone that ever told you you’re no good … They’re no better. ~Hayley Williams
~unswerving belief in himself or herself and in his/her goal.
Here are a few others that are also relevant to us and our journey:
~Offer peace and goodwill to everyone he/she meets, including difficult scientists/leaders/tribal chiefs, with the attitude of collaboration and trading resources and, after working out misunderstanding on the others’ part, ending up as allies and friends;
~The mayor/boss/commissioner may give the hero an important job to do and the hero immediately completes it but he/she never loses focus on the overall goal of stopping the bad guy;
~As the hero forged ahead, he/she trusted that help in the form of information or assistance from others would come in unexpected ways and times;
~Giving people the benefit of the doubt, even the bad guys who he may have just fought;
~Always hopeful and always looking for and taking the next step. Even when he/she wasn’t sure what to do, he/she did what seemed to be the best thing to do at the time;
~Doing what was right and protecting/helping those who were vulnerable, even though it was inconvenient, took up valuable time, and exposed the hero to harm;
~The hero never at any time had any shred of doubt that he/she would succeed in stopping and capturing the bad guy and his gang.
Let me know what you think of this list. Thanks!
Your Friend and Pep Pal,
PS: In light of yesterday’s post, I did a little research on film serials and discovered the earliest to be a German film from 1910, although it’s unclear if any of the films have survived, with the last serial being made in 1956. A much longer history than I’d thought!
Recently, I’ve been watching the old serials that Republic Film Studios put out in the late 1930’s through the late 1940s—programs such as The Black Whip, The Masked Marvel, Captain America (1940s version), The Green Archer, and The Phantom.
I’ve enjoyed watching these programs, not only because they’re from a time when story lines were more innocent, but also because it’s been fun to imagine my parents as children watching these at the Saturday Matinees that were so popular back then. I’ve gotten a kick out of imagining Mom and Dad as wide-eyed kids sitting on the edge of their seats each week as the episodes ended in cliffhangers.
In case you’ve never watched serials, they usually involved the hero (or heroine) fighting against a bad guy and his gang who were intent upon taking control of the country and world by selling national security secrets to foreign nations hostile to the USA. Each episode would wind down with the hero fighting the bad guys. The episode would end with it looking like curtains for the hero, leaving the viewers thinking there was no way the hero would get out of that one alive!
Of course, the hero would figure out a way…until the end of the next episode!
After 15 or so episodes, the serial would end with the total defeat of the bad guy, along with what was left of his gang after the hero captured or killed them along the way. And the world was made safe again for decent folks to live good lives!
Simple premise but so entertaining and satisfying!
As I was watching, I noticed that the bad guy seemed to be holding all the cards. He was always one or two steps ahead of the hero and his or her assistants. The bad guy was always scheming and had several contingency plans that would advance his dastardly cause but would also trap and foil the hero.
The hero, on the other hand, was more straight-forward in his/her thinking and, as a result, wouldn’t anticipate the traps and setbacks that the bad guy threw his/her way. It seemed like the hero would make a little bit of progress but thanks to the seemingly superiority of the bad guy, there were always obstacles, things to sidetrack the hero, and even traps that would seem to derail and totally shut down the hero.
But, the hero was always resourceful and always persevered, even through the most dire and seemingly hopeless of situations.
And, the hero never doubted for a moment that he/she would finally succeed, even in the face of the seemingly overwhelming dominance of the bad guy.
And, the hero’s attitude and resolve paid off. He/she would live to try again another day and, after many attempts and much effort, would finally succeed.
This got me to thinking….
The hero’s fight in the serials is a lot like our “fight” to achieve our dreams.
Oftentimes we feel that the Universe has events, situations, resources, and the like, stacked against us. It seems like we make one step forward and then several steps back and to the side. It can be very frustrating and down-right disheartening.
Even though our lives aren’t a Republic serial, we can still learn a lesson from them:
~ follow the lead of the hero and tap into our natural resourcefulness—as Teddy Roosevelt would say: doing all we could with what we had with where we found ourselves;
~ to be persistent. To persevere when the going gets tough, especially when it seems hopeless and like it’s curtains for our dream. Stick it out because tomorrow’s a new day with new possibilities;
~Above all, be just like the hero and keep believing in yourself and your dream, no matter what!
Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better. ~Maya Angelou
Never give up on a dream just because of the time it will take to accomplish it. The time will pass anyway. ~Earl Nightingale
Men succeed when they realize that their failures are the preparation for their victories. ~Ralph Waldo Emerson
You are not here merely to make a living. You are here in order to enable the world to live more amply, with greater vision, with a finer spirit of hope and achievement. You are here to enrich the world, and you impoverish yourself if you forget the errand. ~Woodrow Wilson
There is no greater gift you can give or receive than to honor your calling. It’s why you were born. And how you become most truly alive. ~Oprah Winfrey
If you really want to do something, you’ll find a way. If you don’t, you’ll find an excuse. ~Jim Rohn
I will follow the upward road today; I will keep my face to the light. I will think high thoughts as I go my way; I will do what I know is right. I will look for the flowers by the side of the road; I will laugh and love and be strong. I will try to lighten another’s load this day as I fare along. ~Mary S. Edgar
Let me know which of these quotes you liked the best!
In honor of Dr. Martin Luther King’s recent birthday, I have been reading about him. While at times he was quite human, he was also extraordinary. I came across the following quote that was as relevant back in the ‘60s as it is now. I thought you’d be interested to read it, too:
Courage is an inner resolution to go forward despite obstacles; Cowardice is submissive surrender to circumstances. Courage breeds creativity; Cowardice represses fear and is mastered by it. Cowardice asks the question, is it safe? Expediency asks the question, is it politic? Vanity asks the question, is it popular? But conscience ask the question, is it right? And there comes a time when we must take a position that is neither safe, nor politic, nor popular, but one must take it because it is right. ~Dr. Martin Luther King
“…because it is right.” One of the most important phrases to keep in mind as we live each day.
We don’t have to become anything more than who we are; we don’t have to change our lives, ourselves, or give up our dreams. We just have to keep in mind the phrase “…because it is right” and guide ourselves accordingly.