Getting Rid of Toxic People in Your Life

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Some people are like clouds. When they go away, it’s a brighter day.  ~Anonymous

 

 

I had to share this quote with you because it really hit home with me.  I have found this to be soooooo true!

Even though it might feel awkward at first as you gradually reduce the time you spend with toxic people, you’ll quickly see the benefits.   Here are a few:

~Your mood will be lighter because you’ll no longer have their negative energy to overcome;

~You’ll feel better about yourself because you won’t have to hide parts of yourself or twist yourself into a pretzel so as not to upset the toxic people;

~You’ll find that it’s easier and safer to be yourself because you won’t be worried about what the toxic people will think and say.

 

Here is another very important benefit to getting rid of toxic people:

~When you move out the toxic people, it opens up plenty of room for nicer people and like-minded people to come into your life.

 

When you decide to get rid of the toxic people, you don’t have to make a big announcement and you certainly shouldn’t tell them about it.  Just go about your daily life, adding in the new activities where you can meet and get to know nice people.  As you get busier with the nice people, you won’t have time for the toxic people.

WooHoo!

Then, like me, you’ll wonder why you didn’t get rid of the toxic people sooner!

Give it a try!  Let me know how it works out for you.  Thanks!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

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A Few Inspiring Quotes from Presidents, Part 1

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Here in the US we’ll be remembering the birthdays of two of our beloved Presidents.  Here are a few quotes from our former Presidents.  Enjoy!

 

We have always held to the hope, the belief, the conviction that there is a better life, a better world, beyond the horizon. Franklin D. Roosevelt

 

Now, as a nation, we don’t promise equal outcomes, but we were founded on the idea everybody should have an equal opportunity to succeed. No matter who you are, what you look like, where you come from, you can make it. That’s an essential promise of America. Where you start should not determine where you end up. Barack Obama

 

Change is the law of life. And those who look only to the past or present are certain to miss the future. John F. Kennedy

 

Big jobs usually go to the men who prove their ability to outgrow small ones. Theodore Roosevelt

 

Be sure you put your feet in the right place, then stand firm. Abraham Lincoln

 

Let your heart feel for the afflictions and distress of everyone, and let your hand give in proportion to your purse. George Washington

 

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

 

Quotes for Restorative Rest

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There’s an old saying I’m sure you’ve heard:  All work and no play makes Jack a very dull boy.    

Rest is essential to a well-lived life.  Not only does it restore balance, equilibrium, and energy in our life and spirit but it also provides room for insights and “Eureka!” moments that help us solve knotty problems or give us ideas about and glimmerings of our True path.

Here’s what others have to say about restorative rest:

 

What is without periods of rest will not endure.  ~Ovid

 

Rest is not idleness; and to lie sometimes on the grass on a summer day listening to the murmur of water, or watching the clouds float across the sky, is hardly a waste of time.  ~Sir John Lubbock

 

Sometimes the most important thing in a whole day is the rest we take between two deep breaths, or the turning inwards in prayer for five short minutes.  ~Etty Hillesum

 

The time to relax is when you don’t have time for it.  ~Sidney J. Harris

 

Every now and then go away, have a little relaxation, for when you come back to your work your judgement will be surer.  Go some distance away because then the work appears smaller and more of it can be taken in at a glance and a lack of harmony and proportion is more readily seen.  ~Leonardo Da Vinci

 

Sometimes the most urgent and vital thing you can possibly do is take a complete rest.   ~Ashleigh Brilliant

 

True silence is the rest of the mind; it is to the spirit what sleep is to the body:  nourishment and refreshment.  ~William Penn

 

Rest is the sweet sauce of labor.  ~Plutarch

 

A good rest is half the work.  ~Proverbs

 

Take rest; a field that has rested gives a bountiful crop.  ~Ovid

 

Take the next 24 hours and just relax with the knowing that everything is okay.  Let go of your stressors and worries for one day and see what happens.  ~Mike Basevic

 

Sometimes it’s important to work for that pot of gold.  But other times it’s essential to take time off and to make sure that your most important decision in the day simply consists of choosing on which color to slide down the rainbow.  ~Douglas Pagels

 

Enjoy your well-deserved rest this weekend!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

Life is Change, Which is a Good Thing

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As we discussed in yesterday’s post, at ever moment Life offers us the opportunity to press the reset button on our lives.  At any time we can begin again.

Looking closely at the stories of successful people who have overcome devastating setbacks and unimaginable odds, we see that they somehow find the wherewithal to begin again and again and again.

And we can do the same thing because Life is not cast in concrete and chiseled in stone.  We can think outside the box; we can try something radically different than anything we have ever done before.

Which means that all is not lost if you’ve already abandoned your goals and resolutions for 2017.  You can pull them out, evaluate them, tweak them, and begin again.  Perhaps this weekend you can make time to do this.

I hope so!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

The Truth Behind Inspiring Stories: Life isn’t Personal – The Other Side of the Coin

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Yesterday we talked about one aspect of Life’s not being personal.  We talked about its harshness and how Life metes out its difficulties and challenges without respect for a person’s beauty or height or family of origin or age or socio-economic group or skin color or belief system….

The other side of Life is that it isn’t personal about its gifts.  That means Life’s beauties, joys, and peace are as accessible and available to you and me as they are to the prettiest, smartest, tallest, slimmest, most popular and successful person in the world.

This means that right now, right at this moment, you can press the reset button.  You can make a different decision, you can choose something new. 

You can focus on the small kindnesses you receive throughout the day.  You can drink in the delightfulness of laughter and the loving tones woven into friends and loved ones talking with one another.  You can welcome tranquility, serenity, and quietness.

You can still become the person you dream of being and in this moment you can take the first step toward this goal.

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren

The Truth Behind Inspiring Stories: Life isn’t Personal

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As I underscored in yesterday’s post, I find it relieving to know that successful people and people who have overcome crushing odds are, in some ways, still like us.  In spite of their achievements, they still worry, have setbacks, disappointments, heartbreaks, sadness, and the like.

I also find this to be a source of joy.

Joy because that means LIFE IS NOT PERSONAL!

That means, Life isn’t painting bull’s eyes on me and constantly lining me up in its sites to take potshots at me for its perverse pleasures.

Life can seem to be a cold-hearted, malicious jerk at times.  It can deal crushing blows to any and all of us at times.

No one is exempt because Life has NO favorites.

To me, this means that we can stop being victims and crying out “why me?!”.  And, we don’t have to waste time figuring out why something out of our control happened to us (if we could have done something to prevent it then by all means, learn the lesson!).

When we drop the victim and lamenting phases, then we have a quicker response time and more energy to deal with whatever it is that happened.

Of course we’ll feel disappointed when things go wrong and there is naturally a period where we deal with our emotions, figure out what’s what, and come up with a plan to get ourselves back on our feet.  Naturally this takes time.

We no longer need to waste time on lamenting and playing the victim because Life is a total and complete jerk to EVERYONE at one time or another.

Let me know what you think about this.  Thanks!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Lauren