Friday we started talking about forgiving people who are really difficult to forgive. In that post, I suggested to put aside the idea that we have to forgive the person that hurt us deeply and instead focus on forgiving ourselves.
In my own life, I’ve found that we can’t really forgive anyone else—especially the unapologetic people—until we forgive ourselves. As we forgive ourselves, forgiving others seems to automatically follow.
I came across this video of a portion of T.D. Jake’s sermon on The Stumbling Stage. Although he’s referring to a passage in the Bible, I was stunned when I first heard it. Here is a snippet of the portion of his sermon that left me speechless:
I never thought in quite this way about the hurts that other people have caused me. T.D. Jakes is right: my being stuck is not punishing them; all it’s doing is hampering me, causing me to limp through my life! He’s right, too, that the people who hurt me have gone on with their lives.
This alone makes a GREAT case for focusing on forgiving yourself.
Let me know what you think of the ideas in this video. Thanks!
Your Friend and Pep Pal,