We know we’re stuck in our comfort zones and we really want to get out but we’re not sure how to do that. We look for guidance and most of it is of the “Just do it!” variety. While this advice may work, often the gains are short-lived and we find ourselves right back where we started: stuck in our comfort zones.
Needless to say, this can be frustrating and disheartening.
The good news is that I came across the book The Comfort Trap or What if You’re Riding a Dead Horse? by Judith Sills, PhD., and I think it can help. Judith Sills’ years of experience in her own counseling practice has enabled her to distill her extensive knowledge into these seven steps:
~Face What Hurts: admitting that your comfort zone is no longer comfortable; identifying what about it is no longer comfortable;
~Create a Vision: no one will move out of their comfort zone if there is not something better to look forward to and work toward;
~Make a Decision: determining that “the horse is dead” and it’s time to move on;
~Identify Your Pattern: has something similar happened before and how can you use it to move forward;
~Let Go: detaching from what is no longer working; minimizing losses;
~Face Your Fear: identifying and moving forward in spite of anxiety;
~Take Action: laying out the steps to get from here to there.
Her book is written in an easy-to-read, engaging, and easy-to-understand style. She illustrates the steps with anecdotes and real life examples of her clients’. Also, her suggestions are simple to implement.
The section I found interesting was the Create A Vision chapter. I’ve known about creating vision boards and have even made a few for myself in the past. However, Judith Sills’ explanation sounded is much more doable and reasonable.
Let me know what you think of the book! And, let me know if you’ve come across books that have helped you. Thanks!
Your Friend and Pep Pal,