Attitudes and Expectancy: A Closer Look at Expectations



I came across this video on expectations. I thought it was good and I think it can help you.

I agree with Brendon Burchard that to have no expectations in life is definitely not a recipe for achieving your dreams. Going through life with no expectations is a great way to set yourself up for just drifting through life. I don’t believe this is the most effective way to bring out the greatness within you–and we all have greatness within.

It’s our mission in life to manifest this greatness–not in a way that’s arrogant, stuck up, or better-than-others. Rather, manifesting your greatness is a celebration of the abundance of Life, the goodness of Life, and that it’s available to all of us.

I think Brendon hits the nail on the head when he says that there are three points to expectations:

Form positive expectations for your life.
Believe in yourself; believe you can figure it out when you hit rough patches. It’ll take work and the help of others, most likely, but you can do it. Believe it; expect it!

Have positive expectations of other people.
There are a lot of good people out there who are willing to give you a hand from time-to-time. They won’t do the work for you, of course, but they are glad to share what they’ve learned.

Yes, of course, there are people who aren’t very nice, but I’ve found that they are few and far between. Mostly, people want to help and they will help you. Put in the time, put in the effort and you’ll see that others are glad to reach out a helping hand.

Have positive expectations for Life.
Expect that your days, your life, is getting better and better. Expect Life to support this. Granted, it sometimes does this by throwing you curve balls but, when you look back, you see that the rough patch actually helped you become bigger, better, and more of who you truly are.

I agree with Brendon regarding expectations. How about you? Let me know in the comments below. Thanks!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Gratitude: It’s Your Choice


Please note: This post was scheduled to be published on 6/6/17. For some reason, it didn’t post…here it is now. Enjoy!


As usual, I was poking around the Internet. I came across this short video on joy compiled from several messages of Joel Osteen. Even though he’s talking about joy, I thought it was directly applicable to our discussion on gratitude. Happiness has its roots in gratefulness.


When you’re thankful, you just can’t help but be happy.

Granted, your situation may be very challenging and being grateful may not make you giddy, but it will–and it does–make the load feel a little lighter. When this happens, it opens up a little bit of space to take a breath. Thoughts and ideas ride on the breath; one of those just might be the next little baby step you’re looking for.

Have a listen to this compilation and let me know what you think.

Pass this post along to a friend. Thanks!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,

Attitude and Expectancy: Is Yours Truly Positive?


I’m sure you know it’s important to have a positive attitude. Not only does this make your path to your dreams easier and more pleasant, but studies have shown that optimistic people reap physical, mental, and emotional benefits as well.

How positive is your attitude, though?

It’s easy to be upbeat when everything is going well. But if the surface gets scratched or dinged just a little bit, do your good spirits quickly deflate like punctured tire?

If so, then I encourage you to take a close look at your expectancy. It can be quite a surprise to discover what you truly expect. You may find that although you say you believe things will turn around for you, when you look closely at what you’re actually expecting, you may be shocked to find that you really don’t think things will turn out well at all.

One quick way to get a read on your expectancy is to think about what’s your state of mind first thing in the morning or the last thing at night? How do you approach new tasks or situations? If you find any of the following–even just a little bit–then you need to take a closer look at your expectations:

~Waking up with dread;

~Going to bed mentally exhausted;

~Reluctant or hesitant to try new things;

~Anxiety when the boss assigns you to a task you’ve never done;

~Procrastinating, especially when faced with something new….


As you go through your days this week, stay mindful of whether you’re reluctant, tired, anxious or dragging your feet, or if you’re excited, energetic, and eager to get started. If you aren’t enthused, then do a little bit of digging to find out what’s the thought–the assumption or expectation–that’s at the core. Keep track of what you discover so that you can find a pattern or the common thread. This will help you in overcoming and resetting your expectations.

I know this sounds like a lot and perhaps you’re feeling a little nervous about this topic. Don’t worry; we’re going to be talking about attitude and expectations this whole week. In fact, tomorrow I have a YouTube video to share with you that I think you’ll find helpful.

You can do this; I believe in you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,


Start the Week Out Right: Put on a Fresh New Attitude


As we start the new week, it isn’t uncommon for us to look ahead in reluctance to what’s in store. Sure, we may be excited about an upcoming event or looking forward to visiting with loved ones and friends, but there can also be that undercurrent of dread.

It’s habitual so it’s easy to slip into this mindset.

This week, let’s work on this habitual attitude of disbelief that things really will get better, in spite of our desires and our efforts toward improvement.  It’s this disbelief that’s underlying the reluctance or dread that’s coloring our thoughts and emotions as we prepare for the week.

Put on a fresh new attitude instead. You may have to ease into it, but find something that gives you joy and a feeling of eager anticipation for the week. Focus on this; hold onto it. Let it infuse your mind and spirit. This’ll help you start the week off right.

Yesterday, we thought about our triggers that spoil our grateful spirit and thankful hearts and today I encourage us to think about what are the triggers that cause us to not feel hopeful and excited about the upcoming week. Also think about what you can do about this.

We’ll be talking about attitudes, expectancy, belief, hope, and the like this week. Let me know if you have any questions you’d like addressed and I’ll do my best to help you find answers.

Your Friend and Pep Pal,


Gratitude: Triggers


I was reading a post in the Entrepreneur blog about 3 Reasons to Adopt a Grateful Attitude.

The 3 reasons the author suggests are:

~Gratitude shifts your mindset;

~Gratitude creates solutions;

~Gratitude is contagious.


After each reason the author had a brief explanation and it was in reason #2’s explanation, gratitude creates solutions, that the author mentioned something very interesting. He suggested looking for your triggers–events, situations, people that triggered your complaining, annoyance, and frustration. Once these emotions take over, gratefulness is derailed. I thought this was very interesting concept.

What are your triggers–especially the petty, insignificant ones? Here are a few that can easily spoil a grateful attitude:

~being stuck waiting in a long, slow-moving line;

~rush hour traffic;

~more work being heaped upon you where you’re employed;

~the change you’re trying to make being harder and taking longer than you though;

~every time you turn around there’s an unexpected bill to pay;

~feeling overlooked and unappreciated.


These are just a few of the many day-to-day irritations that can slowly a grateful heart and thankful spirit. Take a little time to contemplate what your triggers are so that you can be aware of them and nip them in the bud.

Your Friend and Pep Pal,


Gratitude: The Wise Woman’s Stone


I came across this little essay and it resonated strongly with me. I thought you’d like it, too.


The Wise Woman’s Stone

A wise woman who was traveling in the mountains found a precious stone in a stream. The next day she met another traveler who was hungry, and the wise woman opened her bag to share her food. The hungry traveler saw the precious stone and asked the woman to give it to him. She did so without hesitation. The traveler left, rejoicing in his good fortune. He knew the stone was worth enough to give him security for a lifetime. But a few days later he came back to return the stone to the wise woman.

“I’ve been thinking,” he said, “I know how valuable the stone is, but I give it back in the hope that you can give me something even more precious. Give me what you have within you that enabled you to give me the stone.”  

~Author Unknown


This is such a simple way of reminding us that it isn’t who we are on the outside–riches, fame, beauty–it’s all about who we are on the inside. With an attitude of loving-kindness, humility, and gratitude, we are far richer, far more beautiful, and can have a deep, far-reaching impact on our life, our loved ones’ lives, and, perhaps, we can make a significant difference in the larger world.

The point is what’s on the inside of us.

Your Friend and Pep Pal,


Gratitude: Inspiring Quotes from Mother Teresa


I came across these quotes by Mother Teresa that resonated with me and I thought you’d like them, too.

It’s not how much we give but how much love we put into giving. – Mother Teresa


Have you ever been on the receiving end of either a gift or a helping hand but you knew the person doing the giving was doing it because they had to or they had another agenda in mind where it was all about benefiting themselves and not at all about helping you? At those times, you want to tell them to keep their gift or their helping hand.

It’s insulting to be treated this way!

So, let’s make a pact to not do this to others. It’s a variation on the theme our mothers said to us that if we can’t say anything nice then don’t say anything at all. If we can’t give from a loving-kindness heart and spirit, then we shouldn’t help in that way or in that place at all. We should help because we feel strongly that we should help that person or that organization.


At the end of life we will not be judged by how many diplomas we have received, how much money we have made, how many great things we have done. We will be judged by “I was hungry, and you gave me something to eat, I was naked and you clothed me. I was homeless, and you took me in.” – Mother Teresa 

Again, this quote is about the fact that it isn’t about us; it’s about helping others from a grateful and thankful heart and spirit. It’s about being humble enough to be of service to others.


Every time you smile at someone, it is an action of love, a gift to that person, a beautiful thing. – Mother Teresa 

Oftentimes it’s the small things that make the biggest difference. And smiling at others is so easy for us to do! Perhaps smiling is too much to expect of ourselves right now but we can easily have a pleasant look on our face. We can also make a point to smile at our loved ones each day. Your smile first thing in the morning would be a wonderful gift to give those you love!



Kind words are short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless. ~Mother Theresa

This is a variation on the previous quote. Saying at least one positive and encouraging thing to your loved ones each morning is another delightful gift to give each morning!


You can do this because you are awesome! I believe in you!

Your Friend and Pep Pal,