I have seen business moguls achieve their ultimate goals but still live in frustration, worry, and fear. What’s preventing these successful people for being happy? The answer is they have focused only on achievement and not fulfillment. Extraordinary accomplishment does not guarantee extraordinary joy, happiness, love, and a sense of meaning. These two skill sets feed off each other, and make me believe that success without fulfillment is failure.
Yesterday I was talking with a co-worker about the very thing that the Tony Robbins quote above mentions. They key to true happiness is through self-fulfillment: pursuing that thing that has its roots deep within you. It’s in pursuing this thing that you lose all sense of yourself as a needy little individual because you realize it’s much bigger than you.
Self fulfillment isn’t about making millions, achieving fame, or winning awards. These things may come as a by-product of fulfillment, but they are not the goal at all. Fulfillment is achieved by striving for grand ideas, ideas such as feeding the world’s hungry–or even just the hungry people in your community. It’s through conquering the seemingly impossible odds that you achieve satisfaction, fulfillment, and happiness.
To find how to tap into your well of self-fulfillment, ask yourself:
~What kindnesses are you grateful for? For instance, Andrew Carnegie was very grateful for the generosity of the wealthy landowner in Scotland, his home country, who allowed him and other village children the free use of his, the landowner’s, library. This kindness inspired Andrew Carnegie to found over 2000 free public libraries, among other institutions, in the United States.
~What’s something that really bugs you? One of the causes the Bill and Melinda Gates Foundation has championed is addressing the shortcomings of the educational system in America.
~What things have caused you to say, “There’s gotta be a better way!” Thomas Edison perfected the incandescent light bulb because, allegedly, he didn’t like the daily cleaning of the smelly, dirty oil lamps that were used for lighting.
Make a few quiet moments for yourself today where you can ask these questions of yourself and come up with a few answers.
You can do it!
Your Friend and Pep Pal,