Here are a few quotations that caught my eye today and I thought they were appropriate for our theme this week. If they resonate with you–and I hope they do–keep them handy so that you can refer to them often. Because they’ve resonated with you, there is a special boost they have for you for the phase of life you’re in.
Running from who we are is a chase that never ends and a race we can never win. Our legs will get tired, we will run out of fuel, and who we are will over-take us and we will regret all the miles we ran in the opposite direction. ~Sam Davidson
I spent my young adult years postponing many of the small things that I knew would make me happy…I was fortunate enough to realize that I would never have the time unless I made the time. And then the rest of my life began.~Dr. Chris Peterson
Good judgment comes from experience. Experience comes from bad judgment. ~Jim Horning
“The truth will set you free, but first it will piss you off. ~Gloria Steinem
However long the night, the dawn will always break. ~African Proverb
90% of life is about remaining calm. ~Dr. Chris Feudtner
When we tackle obstacles, we find hidden reserves of courage and resilience we did not know we had. And it is only when we are faced with failure do we realize that these resources were always there within us. We only need to find them and move on with our lives. ~A.P.J. Abdul Kalam
Resilience is knowing that you are the only one that has the power and the responsibility to pick yourself up. ~Mary Holloway
Note to self: every time you were convinced you couldn’t go on, you did. ~Unknown
Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgment that something else is more important than fear. ~Ambrose Redmoon
Most people give up just when they’re about to achieve success. They quit on the one yard line. They give up at the last minute of the game, one foot from a winning touchdown. -H. Ross Perot
I was set free, because my greatest fear had already been realized, and I was still alive, and I still had a daughter whom I adored, and I had an old typewriter and a big idea. And so rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life. ––J.K. Rowling
After our discussions so far this week, you’re probably excited about achieving at least one of your goals by the end of this year.
What will you do, though, when you hit the inevitable rough patches?
~Not having as much time as you thought:
Remember, several holiday celebrations are coming in the next few months and your time might get swallowed up in preparations as well as the many parties that you’re invited to;
~Feeling discouraged or sad about the slowness of your progress:
As December approaches, you may find that you haven’t made as much progress as you thought and you are at serious risk of not achieving the goal you selected this week;
This is turning out to be harder than you thought and you may be wondering if it’s all too much for you;
Perhaps you keep running into roadblocks, challenges, and setbacks….
When you find yourself in a rough patch, naturally you’ll turn to the tools we devised this week: your visualizations, your affirmations, and your habits and routines. You may find that you’ve been a little slack in one of these areas–not taking full advantage of these tools–and with a little tweaking, you can get yourself through the rough patch.
What if that doesn’t work–or if it works only a little. What do you do then?
Today, make a list of the things you can do, the resources available, that you can turn to.
For instance, for technical help–help related to your goal you’re working on–you can turn to a mentor, a colleague who has more experience than you; you can read books, magazines, and reliable information online. You can go to your local library and also the library of a college or university or community college nearest you and ask the reference librarian for assistance in finding help….
For personal help–resources that can help you cope with the emotions and feelings during this time–you can call a trusted friend or loved one for encouragement; you can read inspiring books and biographies; you can meditate; you can listen to uplifting music; taking a nap; going for a walk….
Make this list today while you aren’t in crisis and you can think clearly. Jot down everything you think will help. Keep this list handy and refer to it when the going gets tough.
Help yourself stay motivated! Help yourself to take one more step…!
As we did this, we may have discovered ourselves bumping up against habits and routines that aren’t congruent with our visions and affirmations–our habits and routines aren’t really serving us.
For instance, let’s say you want to take your woodworking hobby to the next level–you want to earn a little money from it. To do this, you’ve identified a few holiday fairs where you could sell your handcrafted ornaments, decorations, and toys.
But, instead of working for an hour after dinner building an inventory of items, you plop down on the couch and turn on the TV….
This kind of scenario isn’t going to help us finish 2017 on a high note!
Let’s take a look at our habits and our routines and identify the ones that are not helping us get closer to achieving our ultimate goals–and may not be helping us achieve our baby step goals either!
Start small with changing your habits and routines. In fact, choose only one to change–the one that will make the biggest impact on moving you forward. It could be something small such as for three mornings each week, getting up 15 minutes earlier and reading or meditating. Or, it could be that twice a week at lunch, you take 15 minutes to write an email to an expert or to your mentor.
These baby steps will add up and you will achieve your ultimate goals!
As part of this project, we found an image that encapsulated our ultimate goal as well as finding images for some of the steps along the way–especially the baby steps that are right in front of us at this time.
Today, let’s take these images and make affirmations from them. Refer back to last week’s posts when we chatted about making effective affirmations for ourselves. We said that they should be:
~Stated in a way that elicits strong emotions and feelings within us–preferably positive feelings and emotions but sometimes negative affirmations used correctly can be very powerful;
~Believable–they can stretch us but not so much that we’re intimidated and overwhelmed before we even start. We have to be relatively sure that we have a shot at accomplishing the subject of our affirmation;
~They can be stated in first person (I statements), but we also learned that stating them in second person (you statements) or third person (she/he statements) is very effective, too;
~Get physical when you say your affirmations–feel free to jump around, pump your fist, clap your hands…
The important thing with affirmations is that you believe the truth of them so deeply that you feel it in your bones.
This can’t be just a mental exercise or something you memorize or something you parrot back. It must be something you feel and believe to be true on a visceral, physical, level.
Repeat after me: Yes I Can!!
Let me know how these work out for you. I’ll be glad to help you tweak your affirmations so they become super-charged for you!
Never give up on something that you can’t go a day without thinking about. ~Winston Churchill
This week we’re talking about setting ourselves up for a great finish to 2017.
Today’s quotation reminds us why this is so important. Our soul calls out to us, encouraging us to live our Destiny. We need to answer that call, regardless of our success–or not–in doing this so far this year.
It isn’t too late. We can still do something about this.
We probably have visions in our minds of the last few months of the year: the beauty inherent in the changing seasons; Halloween, Thanksgiving, Christmas, and other holiday celebrations; getting our homes ready for the winter/spring; beginning to gather financial papers in preparation for year-end tax filings; and other end-of-year activities.
Some of the things on our To Do list bring good feelings and happy memories–apple picking with friends and family, being thankful for loved ones, Christmas morning….
When we think about our goals, though, many of us might have bleak images in our minds of goals started with such zeal at the start of the year and now abandoned for months. We can all point to a few goals crossed off our lists but the big ones, the ones that are going to help us change our lives, are still mostly left untouched.
It isn’t too late. We can still do something about this.
The first thing we can do is to work on the images we hold in our minds–we MUST change these if we are ever going to craft a soul-prospering life.
Find images that represent what your soul-prospering life would look like. Perhaps you’re soul is calling you to open a business: find a picture of a storefront, an image that resonates with you. Maybe your soul is calling you to start a foundation that focuses on helping homeless people get back on their feet through low-cost home ownership: find an image of a happy family in a cozy home.
Make a few copies of this image in color and paste them where you’ll see them: your bathroom mirror, the door to your closet, your car dashboard, in your desk at work…
This is the image of your ultimate goal, which is intimidating and overwhelming to you or you would have already achieved it!
The next thing you’ll do is to step this image down. What I mean by that is to have images of your interim goal–one that you need to achieve that’s along the way to achieving your ultimate goal.
Step-down images can be things such as an image of a telephone to help you focus on making those calls you’ve been putting off; it could be the logo of a community business organization to remind you to go to their next meeting and get to know some of the local business owners.
Make copies of these images and paste them in the same places as your ultimate goal image as well as other places that are part of your daily life: the pantry in the kitchen, your socks drawer, taped to your toothbrush, in your wallet or purse….
As you achieve one of these step-down goals, go onto the next one and use the same process of putting the image all over the place. Keep crossing off then replacing images.
Flood your mind with these images and eventually they’ll replace the dreary ones in your mind–or these images will shout them down.
And that’s what you want.
You need to take control of the images in your mind, and images of your smaller goals (that lead you to your ultimate goal) are the way to do this.
Take time today to review your goals that will lead to a soul-prospering life. Select the one or two that will have thee biggest impact on getting you there. Then, follow the directions above for choosing an image that symbolizes this ultimate goal, pasting that in several prominent places, then finding step-down images of smaller, less intimidating goals that are directly connected to your soul-prospering life.
It isn’t too late; you can still do something about this!
Let me know how this system works for you! Thanks!
Now that the season has changed to Autumn, we’re lining up to head into the home stretch of 2017. In a few days, we’ll move into the fourth quarter, the last quarter, of the year. This week, we’ll talk about how we can set ourselves up for a great finish to the year.
Here are some affirmation styled pep rally to get us off to a good start:
(Insert your name here), there’s plenty of time to finish 2017 on a high note.
(Insert your name here), you have great ideas and you’re on the right track. You have what it takes; keep going!
(Insert your name here), you are the right person to live your soul-prospering life successfully. No one else has the particular blend of talents, skills, abilities, intelligence, and know-how. You do, though, (insert your name here). Abundantly!
(Insert your name here), we can take this one step at a time. We can move at a pace that’s comfortable, no worries!
I also found these poems that I thought might also be helpful this week:
NEVER SAY FAIL
Keep pushing—’tis wiser than sitting aside
And dreaming and sighing and waiting the tide.
In life’s earnest battle they only prevail
Who daily march onward, and never say fail.
With an eye ever open, a tongue that’s not dumb,
And a heart that will never to sorrow succumb,
You’ll battle—and conquer, though thousands assail;
How strong and how mighty, who never say fail.
In life’s rosy morning, in manhood’s firm pride,
Let this be the motto your footsteps to guide:
In storm and in sunshine, whatever assail,
We’ll onward and conquer, and never say fail.
BE NEVER DISCOURAGED
Be never discouraged!
Look up and look on;
When the prospect is darkest
The cloud is withdrawn.
The shadows that blacken
The earth and the sky,
Speak to the strong-hearted,
Salvation is nigh.
Be never discouraged!
If you would secure
The earth’s richest blessings,
And make heaven sure,
Yield not in the battle,
Nor quail in the blast;
The brave and unyielding
Win nobly at last.
Be never discouraged!
By day and by night
Have glory in prospect
And wisdom in sight;
Undaunted and faithful,
You never will fail,
Though kingdoms oppose you
And devils assail.
Keep these handy as you go through the week, especially the affirmations, pep talks, or poems that resonate with you. Let me know which ones you liked the best. Thanks!
I just heard something really cool about affirmations and I knew you’d be blown away by, too.
I just heard an interview by Brendon Burchard, a popular high performance coach, who talked about some of the research he’s concluded on peak achievement. In a small section of the interview he talked about the surprising things he and his research team discovered about affirmations.
In speaking to thousands of high performing international business people and world-class athletes from around the world, Brendon Burchard’s research has debunked another “truth” about affirmations: they must be “I” statements. He and his team concluded that affirmations are more powerful when they are stated in the second or third person, instead of the first person.
For instance, here is a positive statement in the first person: “I am so lucky to be doing work I love. I am honored to be helping others. I feel great when I have a positive impact on others, helping them improve their lives.”
Here is that same statement in the second person: “Brendon, you are so lucky to be doing the work you love. You are so honored to be helping others. You feel great when you have a positive impact on others, helping them improve their lives.”
Here’s the same statement in third person: “Brendon is so luck to be doing work he loves. Brendon is honored to be helping others. He feels great when he has a positive impact on others, helping them improve their lives.”
Which new technique feels more comfortable for you, statements in the second person or in the third person? I think I prefer second person.
I’m going to give this a try and I’ll let you know how it goes. Join me and let me know how it goes for you! Thanks!
Perhaps they are too far down the road. Even though we think we formulated affirmations for just a few steps ahead, perhaps those steps are bigger than we realized and, as a result, our affirmations are trying to push us to take too big of a step or a step we aren’t ready to take. Break your affirmations into little steps.
~Leave some room, some air, in them for Magic.
Perhaps the affirmations we made are too structured, too defined, and there’s no room for unexpected better things to come along. For instance, I have a friend who talks to the Universe and says what she’s striving for and gives what she thinks is the best course of action, but then she says that she’s leaving the actual “how” of it in the Universe’s hands. Sure enough, more often than not, something unexpected usually happens and it’s something she never thought of–and it’s usually better in some way. Give your affirmations some elbow room to work out!
Above all, keep going! Keep taking steps and affirming that everything is working out for you!
Give these two suggestions a try when you hit a rough patch with your affirmations. Let me know how they work out for you. Thanks!