I just heard something really cool about affirmations and I knew you’d be blown away by, too.
I just heard an interview by Brendon Burchard, a popular high performance coach, who talked about some of the research he’s concluded on peak achievement. In a small section of the interview he talked about the surprising things he and his research team discovered about affirmations.
In speaking to thousands of high performing international business people and world-class athletes from around the world, Brendon Burchard’s research has debunked another “truth” about affirmations: they must be “I” statements. He and his team concluded that affirmations are more powerful when they are stated in the second or third person, instead of the first person.
For instance, here is a positive statement in the first person: “I am so lucky to be doing work I love. I am honored to be helping others. I feel great when I have a positive impact on others, helping them improve their lives.”
Here is that same statement in the second person: “Brendon, you are so lucky to be doing the work you love. You are so honored to be helping others. You feel great when you have a positive impact on others, helping them improve their lives.”
Here’s the same statement in third person: “Brendon is so luck to be doing work he loves. Brendon is honored to be helping others. He feels great when he has a positive impact on others, helping them improve their lives.”
Which new technique feels more comfortable for you, statements in the second person or in the third person? I think I prefer second person.
I’m going to give this a try and I’ll let you know how it goes. Join me and let me know how it goes for you! Thanks!
Perhaps they are too far down the road. Even though we think we formulated affirmations for just a few steps ahead, perhaps those steps are bigger than we realized and, as a result, our affirmations are trying to push us to take too big of a step or a step we aren’t ready to take. Break your affirmations into little steps.
~Leave some room, some air, in them for Magic.
Perhaps the affirmations we made are too structured, too defined, and there’s no room for unexpected better things to come along. For instance, I have a friend who talks to the Universe and says what she’s striving for and gives what she thinks is the best course of action, but then she says that she’s leaving the actual “how” of it in the Universe’s hands. Sure enough, more often than not, something unexpected usually happens and it’s something she never thought of–and it’s usually better in some way. Give your affirmations some elbow room to work out!
Above all, keep going! Keep taking steps and affirming that everything is working out for you!
Give these two suggestions a try when you hit a rough patch with your affirmations. Let me know how they work out for you. Thanks!
We like the explanation of affirmations, how they work, and how to implement them in our lives. We’re excited to start working with them in this new way.
But what happens when we’re beginning to lose hope because, instead of getting better, it seems that our life is getting worse!
What are we supposed to do then?
Don’t give up! Don’t stop! Don’t throw in the towel and quit!
Having things falling apart is actually a good thing and is showing us that the affirmations and our efforts are working. We’re making progress, believe it or not.
This is a very similar situation as when we do any remodeling on our kitchens. Walls may have to come down, cabinets and old fixtures have to come out first before the new counters and appliances and flooring can go in.
This is what’s happening when things fall apart in our lives. The old habits, old attitudes, and old routines have to come apart and make way–make room–for the new.
For ease of illustration, let’s say that you’ve determined that owning a mansion is part of crafting a soul-prospering life for yourself. However, your current situation is that you’re living in a one-room apartment and cooking on a hotplate. You’ll agree that your one room is a far cry from a multi-room mansion!
No worries, you CAN get there! Read on to learn how!
I’m sure you’ve heard that if you hold in mind the affirmation about the mansion of your dreams, it will come to you. This can happen, it’s entirely possible. Some people have done this. However, more often than not, most people become disheartened and give up.
Does this mean that affirmations only work for only a few people who are somehow superior or extraordinary in some way?
Nope. Not at all. Affirmations can work for you, too.
The critical component of making affirmations work for you is crafting ones that are believable. This means that although your end-goal dream is to live in a mansion, you’ll have to break this down–make baby step affirmations–in order to achieve your ultimate goal.
So, you’d craft affirmations that stretching and challenging you but only to get a few steps farther down the path you’re on–not leaps and bounds ahead. Once you achieve this baby step affirmation, you can then make another one for a few steps beyond where you’ll be at that time. Keep doing this and you’ll see that through baby step affirmations, you’ll arrive at your mansion!
To give an example of how this would work, this means your affirmation would be about a one-bedroom apartment. Let’s say you’ve found a complex that you like, the Park Street Apartments. Here’s a sampling of the affirmations you might repeat to yourself:
~I’m excited to move into my Park Street Apartment!
~I love the view out the picture window in the living area!
~My Park Street apartment is sunny and there’s room enough for me to set up a reading area complete, with a comfy chair and small bookcase right by the windows!
~I have plenty of room for friends and family to visit here at my Park Street apartment and I love it!
~I love that I have a separate bedroom and I have a kitchen with appliances!
~I love the elbow room in my Park Street apartment!
The affirmations in this example are believable not only to your conscious mind, but also your subconscious mind–a very important component! Because these are believable, you can get behind them and whole-heartedly work toward this goal. These affirmations will motivate you over time–they’re sustainable.
The key is to choose affirmations that energize you to move a few steps ahead of where you are now but are not so far ahead that they wind up demoralizing you rather than motivating you.
Let me know how this process works for you. I’ll be glad to answer any questions you have and help you come up with affirmations that work for you.
When I talk about affirmations, I get two responses:
(1) “You gotta be kidding me! That stuff is stupid; it doesn’t work!!!!”
(2) “Cool! How do I do this because I want to attract wealth and abundance!”
These responses clearly indicate to me that people don’t understand affirmations and how they work.
Let me set the record straight:
(1) Affirmations DO work
(2) They aren’t magical
Cutting edge neurological studies are proving that repeating positive statements, holding a particular thought during meditation, prayer, and other forms of affirmations actually change firing patterns in the brain, which changes the chemistry, which then influences thought, which is the precursor to behaviors and actions, which then can lead us to create effective changes in our lives.
Okay. This is a somewhat technical explanation of how and why affirmations work. To put this in practical terms, repeated affirmations are like cleaning your brain.
Think of it like a very stubborn spot on a favorite shirt; you might have to wash it several times using a few different products in order to get the spot out.
So, too, with affirmations. If you want to change, you must do something about the habitual way in which your brain processes information. Through repeated affirmations, you “clean” your brain of the habitual ways of thinking, replacing it with the affirmation.
Keep in mind:
(1) They aren’t magic so you won’t get instant change
(2) Working with affirmations takes time for lasting results
By the way, to learn more about the neurological basis of affirmations, read the work of Dr. Joe Dispenza. I think you’ll find his work very interesting. Let me know what you think of it. Thanks!
Let’s get the week started right. This poem reminds us what’s important, and it isn’t what the world tells us is right and valuable. It’s what our own hearts and souls tell us.
To live as gently as I can; To be, no matter where, a man/woman; To take what comes of good or ill And cling to faith and honor still; To do my best, and let that stand The record of my brain and hand; And then, should failure come to me, Still work and hope for victory.
To have no secret place wherein I stoop unseen to shame or sin; To be the same when I’m alone As when my every deed is known; To live undaunted, unafraid Of any step that I have made; To be without pretense or sham Exactly what men think I am.
To leave some simple mark behind To keep my having lived in mind; If enmity to aught I show, To be an honest, generous foe, To play my little part, nor whine That greater honors are not mine. This, I believe, is all I need For my philosophy and creed.