Self Care: You Aren’t Going to be Perfect


This week, we’ve been talking about self care and how it helps us stay balanced in the midst of the pressure in our lives. Self care is instrumental in helping us restore balance if we’ve gotten discombobulated.

We also talked about self care versus self indulgence so that we can choose the techniques that will not only soothe and comfort us in the moment but also sustain that peace and well-being as we move forward.

I want you to know, though, that you aren’t going to get it right every time so don’t have the expectation that you’ll always choose the right thing to do in a particular moment.   Sometimes, instead of reaching for a nutritious pick-me-up to soothe you, you’ll reach for and eat that bag of potato chips or that pint of ice cream.

You’ll choose the self-indulgent thing instead of the self-caring thing.

Don’t worry about it. If this happens to you, it isn’t the end of the world. You can always make another–a different–choice. That next choice will be better because you now know what may give you a little bit of comfort and calm for a short while, but it really doesn’t sustain you. And it’s finding techniques that sustain the feeling of calm and well-being that you truly crave.

Recognize that the particular experience of self care in that moment includes doing something that may work for a tiny while but then you move on to another technique that has more staying power.

Give yourself the elbow room, which is a part of self care–experimenting, trying things, combining techniques, and the like.

Your Friend and Pep Pal,


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