One of the obstacles we have in crafting a soul-prospering life is putting too much emphasis on what other people think–especially those who are close to us and whom we trust.
This is a natural and normal thing because the people close to us have our best interest at heart and they truly want to be helpful and they want us to succeed.
But they don’t have the Vision of our dreams that we do so they don’t always “get it”. And sometimes, even though they mean well, they may actually discourage us from pursuing our dreams.
I wrote the following post on 4/28/15 and it’s as relevant now as it was then. When you read it, let me know what you think. Thanks!
Don’t let others’ choices affect and influence the way you choose to live your life.
When it comes to pursuing dreams, what they choose—or don’t choose—has no bearing on what you should and should not choose regarding your dreams. They’re your dreams and they were built into your DNA as you were forming.
Others may not understand why you want to achieve your particular dreams and they may offer tweaks and suggestions of what you ought to do in an effort to help you refine your dreams. But they don’t hear the urgings and whisperings of your heart and soul. They don’t see the vision that you have regarding your dreams. And, they don’t have your gifts, talents, and abilities that were given to you on purpose so that you can have what it takes to achieve your dreams.
People you know or read about seem to have all the answers so it looks like they know what they’re doing and, as a result, they seem so far ahead. You may be thinking that their way is the right way for you to achieve your dreams.
You have the innate intelligence, know-how, talents, abilities, and instincts that are specially formulated just for you and in particular so that you can achieve your dreams!
Sometimes your friends and family just don’t “get it” about your dreams and they seem to wash their hands of you. You may find yourself all alone in pursuing your dreams. Actually, most likely you will find yourself all alone at one point or another.
As you continue to travel along the pathway to your dreams, you’ll meet other people along the way who will have similar dreams and goals. They’ll be more sympatico with you and your dreams.
You’ll still be able to have a close relationship with your friends and family! Having new friends that do “get it” regarding your dreams takes the pressure off your family and friends to “get it”, which frees the relationship so you can then go back to enjoying each other’s company!
Your homework today is to keep on keeping on pursuing your dreams in the best way you know how.
Decide on the steps you need to take. Break them into small pieces and little parts. Breaks those into tiny bits. As you need to, keep breaking things down into little morsels, crumbs, flakes, and slivers until you get to specks that are just the right size for you. Then do those specks, bits, parts, pieces, and steps!
You can do it!
I’m so proud of you!
Your Friend and Pep Pal,