I read an article in Psychology Today regarding self-forgiveness. Point #2 stood out to me.
Sometimes we allow ourselves to be defined by something that happened to us. If we forgive the others involved and forgive ourselves, and let it go…then who are we?
We no longer have that injustice to tell us who we are. We no longer have our outrage or indignation to fuel us, to help us get out of bed in the morning. We also don’t have it as an excuse of why we aren’t going for our dreams and why we have a life of ‘less than’.
Forgiving others and forgiving ourselves oftentimes requires redefining who we are. This is best accomplished by not looking backward to our past and the injustice, but rather facing forward and looking to the present and the future, and all the Goodness that awaits us there.
You can do it, I know you can!
Your Friend and Pep Pal,