Not forgiving ourselves keeps us chained to the past.
By keeping our focus on the past we think that somehow this will make up for or change the past. It won’t. Nothing we can say or do or think will change what happened.
Not forgiving ourselves punishes us over and over and over again.
Perhaps we’re punishing ourselves so that no one else will, because they won’t have to because we’ve already punished ourselves and are continuing to punish ourselves for good measure. That’s convoluted thinking but it makes good sense to those of us who continue to harbor unforgiveness toward ourselves.
Even so, it still doesn’t change the past or what happened.
Not forgiving ourselves doesn’t solve any problems.
Unforgiveness creates more problems in the form of anger issues, depression, stress related illnesses, and living a life way below our potential.
Not forgiving ourselves is NOT the way we’ll craft soul-prospering lives.
The only way to do this is through self-forgiveness, living in the present, and looking to the future.
Tomorrow we’ll talk about a few techniques for forgiving yourself. Be sure to check back in. Thanks!
Your Friend and Pep Pal,