These are all things that we may feel from time-to-time, especially when we hit rough patches along the way. We can doubt the future and its promise of better days. If we aren’t careful, this can lead to not trusting ourselves, our judgment, and the choices we make.
We can also feel all these emotions when we’ve left our comfort zone and we’re in the midst of the unknown and unfamiliar. When this happens, we can wish for the “good old days”, forgetting that what we think are good old days were actually times when we struggled and had worries and were unsure of our next steps.
When we’re feeling these emotions, it’s best to acknowledge them. Allow ourselves to feel them without wallowing and becoming mired in them. Feel them–grieve–give yourself permission to mourn, and then move on; take the next step.
Here are a few quotes to help you do just that:
And yet, I suppose you mourn the loss of the death of what you thought your life was, even if you find your life is better after. You mourn the future tha you though you’d planned. ~Lynn Redgrave
As soon as something happens…everyone begins talking about healing. But before you heal, you have to mourn. ~Edward Hirsch.
We shall draw from the heart of suffering itself the means of inspiration and survival. ~Winston Churchill
I do not believe that sheer suffering teaches. If suffering alone taught, all the world would be wise, since everyone suffers. To suffering must be added mourning, understanding, patience, love, openness and the willingness to remain vulnerable. ~Joseph Addison
When it comes to grieving many times, people cut their grieving time short because they believe that it is time to “move on.” The truth is, however, that there is no set time for grieving, and you should allow yourself all the time you need to grieve your loss. Bernice Gibson,
Truly, it is in darkness that one finds the light, so when we are in sorrow, then this light is nearest of all to us. ~Meister Eckhart
Which quotes did you like the best? Be sure to keep them handy and let their wisdom comfort and strengthen you.
Your Friend and Pep Pal,